DH asked DSS10 if he minded me going to see his xmas concert. DSS said ok for me to go and DH arranged tickets. I think DH wanted me to be there more than i did. TBH i am probably a bit like Bonsoir I dont really see it at as my place to be there so dont place any emotional attachment to it.
I dont really know what is the right way to step-parent a child but DSS and I seem to be doing ok. I figured out a long time ago that the way to a mans heart is through his stomach so i just do all the cooking and stay in the background a bit when hes here. Im concious of not trying to force things. i