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How to correct the --useless-- EP as his report lies and clearly shows he's not happy with me calling his boss!!

(46 Posts)
sweetteamum Wed 05-Dec-12 13:49:43

Well, I am fuming and there is steam coming out of my fucking ears, i'm that mad!!

He's lied, insinuated things (not very subtle either) about me and basically sent this after I complained about him last week, to his boss.

I would like to reply telling this flipping idiot what I think of him and his useless knowledge of girls on the spectrum and say I think he's wrote the report this way because of the disagreements we'd previously had about him telling me my daughter would not be on the spectrum.

Any ideas are warmly received

meant to write post natal depression.

DDS last EP report years ago had this huge section on dds social and emotional failings and on the next line said, it is interesting to note mum has suffered from depression, made me feel awful as it was done in a 'think we've found the reason' kind of way.

I'm dreading them coming again as dd has unavoidably moved schools several times and I know they are going to blame that. I am not saying its helped but it doesn't cause dyspraxia.

StarOfLightMcKings3 Fri 07-Dec-12 09:22:55

And I did write to her and tell her that she was an unprofessional bullying liar and to keep the hell away from my family incidentally. An she did.

StarOfLightMcKings3 Fri 07-Dec-12 09:21:02

Tbh, I don't think she was an evil witch. There was evil in the system and she was a part of that but I think at the time she had genuine concern.

What happened next is the LA rubbed their hands in glee and it all go out of hand. I had VERY good cause to raise a complaint against the EP for the way she handled it but actually on THIS occasion I felt she was a bit of a victim herself and she was about to go in maternity leave.

The nasty bullying piece of work that followed her was quite another story however.

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 22:21:47

Thanks ilike I know you do seem to be a rare nice, reasonable one and I've just typed a letter asking for a different one

I'd love one that just pretends to help at the minute star. But why on earth did they refer you there?!

StarOfLightMcKings3 Thu 06-Dec-12 21:58:40

My ds' EP was quite good actually. I mean she listened and attempted to help where she could, but her hands were absolutely tied when it came to recommendations. She also reported us to social services in the end though.

ilikemysleep Thu 06-Dec-12 21:54:18

Can I just say, guys, I'm sorry you have had such bad experiences; we aren't all useless. I like to think I am quite good :-)

In all seriousness, you can indeed ask to be transferred to a different EP.

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 20:02:11

It's very odd. The report was more about how she appeared to him and focussed very much on the things him and I talked about. tbh there are too many errors to correct. If I knew I didn't need it further down the line, i'd shred the useless piece of future toilet paper.

I spoke to his boss last Thursday and this report was only typed up on 3/12/12 and he saw her back in October. It's like a diary of events but then lots of twisting what was said. It's like everything he said, it was the complete opposite. How do they get away with writing such shit?!

Can I ask him to be released from our case, because his personal views about me are interfering in his work?

I don't really know what will happen as she hasn't been in school long enough for them to even know her, report on her. And what they have said on report, it's what they've already gone back on from meetings.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Thu 06-Dec-12 19:02:21

Odd - SA assessment was actually the fourth EP that DS had seen (1 independent) but he repeated the WISC-4 assessment. Classroom obs/talking to child/to teaching staff/parents was only part of it. Most statements are cut and paste from expert reports (part parental obs (not much) + psychological assessment + medical assessment + teaching reports (the majority)) - there is nothing original. Where will they copy part 3 from?

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 18:44:55

That's what I was led to believe keepon

But he didn't do an awful lot with her, then, was very matter of fact about her being fine.

Oh I'd forgot about that - there's no advice, recommendations blah blah blah. He's spend more time trying to prove dd was not on the spectrum!

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Thu 06-Dec-12 15:44:27

Was this the EP visit for assessment? I thought that the meeting with the EP revealed him as a complete toss-pot but DS1 still got a (crap) statement (going to tribunal). His actual written report was better but the draft/final statement omitted all the best bits anyway. What the lea did copy for part 3 was the recommendations for intervention he had made.

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 15:30:29

Thank you. Message has been seen by all who EP cc'd into letter too. There's complete transparency that way grin

bochead Thu 06-Dec-12 11:28:06

Star's worded it perfectly for you. Short, sweet & to the point. An air of non-threatening gentle confusion is what you need to be aiming for. (keep your powder dry at this stage).

My quotes in my last post were gems found in reports etc from my own LA EP over the years btw. You just can't fix stupid, but you can drive yourself mad trying !!!!! Send Star's note as a short email. Print a copy of the email for your file and then leave it while you focus your energies on something productive.

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 11:10:12

I don't care what your are/not but it's what i've been trying to get at. grin

I have added a few personalised names in but generally it's quite similar.

StarOfLightMcKings3 Thu 06-Dec-12 10:51:35

Okay, but I'm grammatically challenged so you might want to reword a bit.

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 10:47:15

Staroflight I could hug you . . THAT is the wording i've been thinking about but am not able to portray it as well. <<sweettea goes off to email ep>> grin Thank you all so much.

StarOfLightMcKings3 Thu 06-Dec-12 10:21:08

Kind of. I'm not as bold as Boch in puting that so I'd probably just say.

Thank you for your report. Is this the complete version as I am having difficulty recognising my child in what has been written or is it a general report about how children with ASD can sometimes be?

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 09:56:39

Keepon I'd love to be able to say what I really think of him and his useless thoughts purely based on working with asd children does not make him a chuffing expert

I've got lots of recordings of DD having assessments, me getting feedback, how she behaves at home etc but ep has not took any of those into account at all.

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 09:54:18

shock and they were serious quotes too. . FGS!!

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 09:53:04

I don't have the report to hand (i'm out), so will report back on that smile

bochead Thu 06-Dec-12 09:52:44

EP quotes

"Doesn't he line things up nicely & his counting is really good" (age 3)
"he wouldn't even look at me - I don't think he likes me much" (age 5)
"he definately doesn't need a statement as he speaks really well" (age 6)
"he's too inteligent to have ASD" (aged 7)

I wonder if I'll ever see her again.

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 09:52:16

Hi Lougle . Tbh there is very little info on there. It's more an account of events with a tiny bit about how she performed, what she said, what he said, what I said and was certainly not like any report i've seen before.

sweetteamum Thu 06-Dec-12 09:50:10

So staroflight, if I just send a polite email back thanking him for the report, saying I believe his details have been mixed up with another child and leave out the bit about the possible blanket policy, that should do for now.

That way, it's all o record but i'm not giving them any clues, which they'll be expecting from me.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Thu 06-Dec-12 09:15:41

When DS1 was assessed by Margo Sharp, specialist SALT, she used DISCO which is often used for complex boys and girls on the spectrum as ADOS is not always the most suitable. It was developed by Lorna Wing.

lea EPs have said some dumb things to me to 'he's not dyslexic - he can read and write' - 'why is he being assessed for ASD - friends (boys in the same class at a school he has now left) don't seem to mind' him not saying hello, goodbye, etc. I don't understand why he was wearing glasses - I don't mind his myopia!

cornycarrotshack Wed 05-Dec-12 23:47:47

<has he used>

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