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The last two nights she's slept through until 4:30. She's gone back to sleep relatively easily and happily for DH, then up again at 6:30/6:45.

I feel like a new woman. After almost two years of three hours sleep at a time max, this is amazing. It's been so much easier than I expected too.

ATruth, just go for it!

Yay

Long may it last!!

Next you need to start not sitting with her until she goes to sleep. Put her to bed, tell her you need to go and have a shower and you'll be back in 5 minutes (go back in 10 mins), see how she is - say you need the toilet & you'll be back in 5 minutes (go back after 10), say you need some water (go back in 10) minutes until she's asleep. Couple of nights later stretch it to 15 minutes. You'll soon be in a position of putting her to bed and her completely self settling.

Excellent

I will be PMing you for tips soon. We moved house today so not going to try anything drastic with unsettled DS just yet but will defo need to change something soon.

I hope tonight is equally wonderful

SHE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!!!!!

She went to sleep last night after nearly an hour of monkeying around, quite a long time for her, and the didn't wake up again until 6:40.

SHE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!!!!!!

I smiled at the part where "mummy's milk does not work when she is sleeping" . Glad you got the result you wanted.

I know! I thought it would be weeks if torture but its really not too bad. Fingers crossed it stays this way!

Well done it is amazing how fast they adapt if you hold your nerve!

Update:
Last night she went to bed happily, chattered a while so not asleep until 8. She didn't wake until 4. She came through, I gave her a quick cuddle and reminded her that milk doesn't work when mummy is sleeping, and DH took her back to her bed. She cried for less than a minute! She got up at 6, had a big BF and us now happily watching peppa pig.

Result!

Sorry you are going through this. My little sister used to scream until she was sick and i dont think she was any more or less ditressed than any other child tbh.

I've had a read through jay Gordon now, thanks for that link, hadn't seen it before. It makes good sense I think.

cannot, if she was crying/screaming in genuine distress I'd agree with you - I don't believe in CIO. However, she was screaming in anger because she wasn't getting what she wanted. It's still heartbreaking to listen to but it's not really genuine distress, fear and feelings if abandonment. Her daddy was with her the whole time too.

I don't think anyone has mentioned Dr Jay Gordon's night weaning advice I know you're not co-sleeping but it's kinder than leaving her to cry. Worked brilliantly with DS at 15 months and he has a will of iron. Now at 22 months unless he's unwell he goes to sleep by himself (as in with no help) and stays asleep all night and then screams for milk first thing might be worth a go

I think you need to find another method - letting your daughter cry until she is retching is extremely cruel - sorry if that's not what you want to hear but I think you probably know that yourself if you're honest with yourself. There are kinder, gentler ways to help her sleep than this.

Did you explain to her what was going to happen?

We decided to night-wean DS2 who is 21 months last night. We did the same with DS1 at that age and it took 4 nights.

When I gave him his bedtime feed, I explained that my milk wouldn't work in the night anymore, that he could still have it at bedtime and in the morning but not during the night. He understood and was a but upset but we had a cuddle and he went to bed happily enough.
He didn't actually wake until 6, but DH went to him and cuddled him and offered him a drink of water. There were a few sad little sobs but then he went back to sleep until just gone 7.

I think they can understand more than you realise at this age, so explaining and reassuring are the way to go. Hang in there.

Aaaargh, last night was rubbish. I forgot we were staying at my sisters and DD shared a bed. She woke every 2 to 3 hours and fed. Didn't want to try refusing her or she'd scream the house down and wake everyone else.

Back to square one!

Thanks for the update. You're giving me hope

We're just going to roll with what we're doing for now because we don't want to try to introduce anything new at the same time as moving house (and changing nursery, and reducing the amount of time I spend with him... ) but I have no doubt we'll need to do something drastic pretty soon.

no I do understand. It can be pretty awful. Perhaps she was just really fed up/overtired last night.

Hope that tonight is better all round xx

Rooney, that's lovely. I like letting dd sleep with me, but she wakes every 2 hours demanding milk so it ends up being horrible.

Well we kind of just rolled with the milk requirement iyswim...ds ended up in my bed all night, he slept really well, I slept really well, no one had to get up.

No one screamed either which was a bonus

Good luck, hope you find things improve.

Reporting back on night 1 . . . it went surprisingly well after that first horror hour. She woke at 2:40, DH went through and she protested for less than a minute before she went back to sleep!!!!! Miracle! She slept through again until 6 when her brother woke her up, so she would have gone a bit longer I think.

Pretty good result for the first night . Lets hope it wasn't a fluke.

I swear by control crying. It's not everyone's cup of tea but for me it worked it means your dd wont get used to someone sitting with her but she will still see you or her dad at regular intervals which reassures her. Maybe leave her to cry 10 Minutes and I back in tell her it's bed time and settle her down stay with her for 2 mins then leave and just lengthen the time u wait before going in my dd wouldn't settle by herself but with 4 days of cc she settled and now self soothes during the night too

I know the feeling, Peaches. Fingers crossed for you.

Oh, and Count, my DS was 3.6 before he slept through, I'm impressed yours was only 27 months