New NHS guidelines on IVF treatment to extend age limit up to 42 - what do you think?

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JaneGMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 20-Feb-13 10:26:09

Good morning,

New IVF guidelines issued by the National Institute of Health & Clinical Excellence (NICE) say that women aged up to 42 should be allowed one cycle of IVF treatment so long as it is their first attempt. Previously Nice recommended treatment up to the age of 39.

The guidelines also suggest that all couples who are struggling to conceive should get fertility treatment more quickly ? after two years of trying to conceive naturally, rather than three.

We'd love to hear what you think.

Thanks,
MNHQ

Milly1986 Mon 17-Feb-14 14:28:40

Obviously the negative comments are mainly people with no fertility issues
Can I ask have you been watching benefit street or many of the similar programmes lately, quite funny that most people in Britain get pregnant quite young have never worked an live on the government which is fine I'm not against them doing it ,how about drug addicts,how about alcoholics,how about overweight people getting gastric sect, depressed people with sick notes,how about the free abortions the young generation that can't be bothered to use anything,the list could go on really ,I'm 27 have worked from before I even left school ,never been on benefits, allways paid tax an national ins always payed for prescriptions and treatments, I've gotta have both my tubes removed and ivf, I'm not entitled to one free round because my partner has a child, which is a bit ridiculous,not like it's my step child,his mother has never met me but won't allow the child to him as he has a partner, it's not like people are 100per cent guaranteed the first round works ,usually a few rounds, don't know how we're going to save for three rounds of ivf ,think helping people with one round out of the governments budget is quite generous ,maybe I should go rob a bank to pay for ivf at least if I get caught the goverment will give me a comfy room food tv at a hotel hmp

Xenia Fri 01-Mar-13 19:27:20

You can relate to someone's feelings but still feel the age limit or amount of attempts not be changed, though.

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 01-Mar-13 16:32:09

wine I get ya..no hard feelings smile

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Fri 01-Mar-13 15:40:28

Certainly I know that about being on the spectrum, Fanjo and I apologise if that's how it came across. I simply was looking for a fair explanation as to why someone might struggle to relate to someone else's feelings. It was in no way meant to be flippant, or hurtful flowers

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 01-Mar-13 10:07:19

I meant unacknowledged actually.

No matter, have said it again in calmer fashion now smile

Xenia Fri 01-Mar-13 09:48:05

Which post was unanswered?

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 01-Mar-13 08:59:34

I see noone has answered my post. Fair enough..I was cross.

But please go away from thread knowing that being on spectrum does not equate to a lack of caring, empathy or decency in any way.

Nor is it a "mental health issue"as Xenia said.

With regards to IVF though, I very much agree with Ariel's last post.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Fri 01-Mar-13 08:22:25

Yes, after at least a shot at it, Cabbage, which is whst the new guidelines are advising. And up to an age which there is at least a decent chance of success, i.e 42. As others have said, 42 is the new 35 when it comes to chances of success and the new guidelines reflect that.

Xenia love, please don't make try and turn this into other people not being able to explain the issue to you, when they have done so again and again, and you don't seem to grasp it.

No one has advocated unlimited ivf for 60 year old. Good lord.

CabbageLeaves Fri 01-Mar-13 07:47:06

I see this as a clinical decision based on likelihood of success rather than a 'do they deserve it' situation

I sit in on meetings deciding whether £30k of treatment should be provided to a e.g. 70yr old. The factors influencing the decision is persons life expectancy, ability to survive the treatment and current health. Not... they are old

Having worked in the infertility service I'd support a framework of services which offered empathetic hope and realistic care. It causes such grief ...and I mean grief as in grieving. It also causes an life consuming obsession for some and here I think it would be best to counsel and say 'it's time to help you come to terms with this'.

Xenia Fri 01-Mar-13 07:35:16

If you don't explain the issue I cannot address it. We were talking about what should the limits be - age and number of rounds. What is wrong with that?

I also said ensure your teenage girls pick careers which enable them to buy their own IVF and suggest they start reading up on childbirth at 14 as I did and get started on babies whilst working full time at age 22. Make that a priority. It can work pretty well.

None of that means I have no sympathy for women and men who cannot have their own genetic child.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Thu 28-Feb-13 23:23:43

I always find it's best, when clearly out if my depth, to stop talking/typing.

DomesticCEO Thu 28-Feb-13 22:02:50

Xenia, I can't decide whether you are immensely stupid or immensely cruel - not sure which is worse.

No one, no one, no one is suggesting unlimited IVF on the NHS at any age. No one.

You have absolutely no understanding whatsover or what you're talking about. I truly hope none of your children ever have to experience IF as you will be the worst person it is possible to imagine to receive any sympathy from. Although it would probably be different if it was someone you loved wouldn't it.

I know, I don't accept how important it is to debate this issue with idiots like you actually because I hate to have a battle of wits with an unarmed woman.

Xenia Thu 28-Feb-13 21:57:36

I am sure every older mother desperate for a baby and more free NHS IVF accepts how important it is that women can debate these issues objectively rather than wanting only groups of women to support unlimited IVF on the NHS at any age. It is a topic for debate not an arms round the shoulder, poor you because the Government does not give you 20 rounds of IVF free up to age 65.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 28-Feb-13 20:37:23

Being on the spectrum doesn't equate to being rude or a bitch.

WTF. Is it be offensive day on MN today? The things I have read are shocking.

Xenia Thu 28-Feb-13 20:31:01

It is a bit much to suggest someone must be autistic because they happen to support NHS policy of rationing fertility treatment. So those thinking like that must think that all those NHS policy makers must have mental health issues just because IVF is not available to women of 50 - 70 or because there are not 10 treatments paid for on the NHS?

Ah, I see it was just a suggestion of Ariel's - you all confused me a bit.
Should have read the whole thread before posting but sometimes I just go for it
- Life is short !

I'm confused by someone saying they are "on the spectrum" so "sorry if I'm having trouble relating to this conventionally" if that's not in the least true. Seems an odd thing to say to me, and not very respectful of others.

I think IVF should be offered to all women too, they shouldn't lose the opportunity because their partner had a child in a previous relationship.
Also one cycle of IVF seems very little to offer. Three seems much more reasonable.

Xenia Wed 27-Feb-13 12:19:11

The state denies this treatment to people over 42. I don't. The state rations NHS provision. That is nothing to do with whether we feel sympathetic to the situation of others. However I have very valuable advice to peoplw with children, teenage daughters - make sure they know fertility plummets at 35, make sure they realise you can work fulltime with babies in your 20s, make sure they know that if they pick will paid work (or I suppose a rich husband) they can have babies when other women cannot as they will be able to fund their own IVF or use an Indian surrogate implanted with their eggs or those of another.

None of these facts have anything to do with sympathy. I adore babies. I formulated my plan to have a ton of them in my teens. Of course I understand that some women are very unhappy they do not have them.

I presume there is on on eon the thread who suggests the NHS should provide IVF to women over some ages or more attempts than a certain number?

DomesticCEO Tue 26-Feb-13 22:11:45

Ariel, I don't think Xenia is on the spectrum I think she's just a total bitch.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Tue 26-Feb-13 20:59:28

I was trying to be tactful. Last thing I want on this thread is to accused of laughing at those with Asperger's sad

JustplainoldBuggerlugs Tue 26-Feb-13 20:52:32

"Sorry if I am having trouble relating conventionally to this: I'm on the spectrum,"

Arf!

Phineyj Mon 25-Feb-13 17:07:34

curryeater I think your points are interesting and nuanced, however, whatever the social barriers that may exist to having children, surely (in the absence of the NHS transforming itself into some other kind of service) they're not very relevant to this discussion -- NICE guidelines are for physical or mental health issues, hence why we are discussing the rationing of IVF and not whether everyone in work getting a living wage (or whatever) would improve people's wellbeing. Which it clearly would!

Also, for every person who concludes they can't afford to have children there is probably another who takes a more do it first, worry about consequences later approach. And aren't about a third to a half of all pregnancies unplanned anyway?

The poster above (sorry have forgotten name) who said these issues should be dealt with privately, perhaps does not take into account the role a National Health Service could take in giving neutral, unbiased advice to people experiencing infertility about what their options are. This would be a cheap intervention and save a lot of misery! As I've said earlier in this thread, infertility advice & counselling is woefully lacking in primary care which is why I believe many people go straight to IVF when there might have been other options for them.

As to the 'IVF creates a new human life so therefore is different to other types of medical treatment', well, yes, but IME people undertaking infertility treatment have likely thought much more about the ethical issues of reproduction, their reasons for having a child and their ability to support said child than people who become parents very easily or even unintentionally. I'm not saying either is better, but it would be good if we could celebrate the existence of this technology a little more and judge a little less.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Mon 25-Feb-13 16:44:19

I know. I can't seem to stop. I think I need to go cold turkey. I am aghast that someone could have so little understanding and empathy and downright decency. Fair enough if someone has Asperger's or somiwething, but if they are insistent on joining in discussions like this then they ought to just mention "Sorry if I am having trouble relating conventionally to this: I'm on the spectrum," and then people wouldn't be so upset downright pissed off by their apparently deliberately offensive statements.

LineRunner Mon 25-Feb-13 16:36:53

I wouldn't waste breath on it, Ariel.

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