Our baby is 6 months now and we haven't had sex since he was conceived. Up til now I haven't really minded but now I'm starting to think about it more and more. I had imagined that my husband had been valiantly quashing the urge and was patiently waiting for me to give him the green light, but we talked about it last night, and a very enlightening conversation it was too.
Basically, he finds the whole idea of bf, although obviously a beautiful and natural act, a complete turn-off, and thinks he will have a hard time feeling turned on by my boobs while they are still in, shall we say, production mode. Also, and I had no idea about this, when we started having sex again after our last baby, and I'd stopped bf at 4 months, well apparently I was still lactating and he tasted some milk and was completely shocked and turned off.
I really want to bf this baby up to one year, but I don't know if I can forfeit my sex life for that long. Has anyone else been in this situation? Do most blokes feel this way about bf or is mine particularly squeamish? He hasn't said he won't shag me until I stop bf, but rather has been very honest and said it may be a problem that he'll try and work past. I guess as well I'm feeling a bit gutted as it has been so long, I thought he would be rampantly waiting to rip my clothes off, not feeling quietly turned off by my current state.
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"Scared of milk squirting" - breastfeeding vs my sex life
DeathByMonkey · 01/12/2008 05:50
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