My DH and I have been married for 10 years.
I'm not able to have children and when we were dating it was discussed and he said he never wanted children.
The day after our 10th wedding anniversary, he tells me that he wants children and starts telling me about his plan...which doesn't seem to include me in it.
I was shattered.
I was quiet for a couple days and went to talk to him about it more and asked about adoption or surrogate and he said, no, you're just too old.
Ummm wow. Talk about insulting.
We got into a row about it and he was banished to the sofa.
Instead of coming to me, he turned to another women on facebook and was telling her all our personal marriage business. He has had a facebook addiction and I should have done something about that sooner.
So I found out by walking past him and he quickly closes his screen. So I asked him who he was chatting with and he said just a friend from x group.
I opened up the chat and there they were talking about our marriage and she was consoling him, poor dear having to put up with the likes of me.
Well I messaged her and asked why she was chatting with my husband and she had a go at me and said she would talk to him any time she felt like and I told her no she wouldn't. I told her to stay out of our marriage.
So DH unfriended and blocked and deleted his account. I said it really wasn't appropriate to be discussing our marriage with another woman online and he should be discussing our issues with me. He said, well you wouldn't talk to me. Hmm, seems to me every time I tried to talk to him he was on facebook all hours of the day and night.
It's been a week since he deleted facebook, and he is starting to act like a human again towards me.
But what to do about him wanting a child? He said it is a recent thing of about 2 months. He also seems depressed and I spoke to my GP about it when I was having a checkup and she thought it would be good for him to come in for a checkup too.
Our bedroom life has been non existent. He said he has no desire at all and hasn't had an erection in months.
I'm just not sure how to talk to him about it. Honestly, I'm enjoying life without children. Just a few months ago, we were talking about retiring.
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magiccatlitter · 20/06/2015 08:51
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