what do all you single mummy's do....

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....on beautiful evenings like this evening.
Me and my girls have had a lovely day in the park having a picnic and walking our new puppy around the lake. Home now cooking tea to eat out in the garden. It's soooooo lovely but I get times where I just go to bed at 9pm as for 1 I'm exhausted from the day and 2 because I can't think of anything worse than my own company.
Is this normal?
I have no idea what else to do?
I am also envious of all my fb friends out with friends, visiting friends. I can hear laughter of the neighbours and I wish I had company. I love my girls company, today has been lovely and now chilled in the garden but I do miss adult company.

how long on your own ?.is it feasible to start dating. ?.obviously the internet the normal way these days but maybe look at an adult ed class if a babysitter could be afforded or arranged free once a week. I would suggest an adult ed class.in some kind of hobby that you have always been interested in but never had the opportunity. they are usually discounted pr free of on low income. that way you have a mutual interest with people you meet, be it general friends or possible romance

I am going out tonight for the first time since christmas as my DS is away for the night ..woohoo

Why don't you invite friends round - either other single parents or couples, families? I expect lots of people would like to be invited round for a BBQ.

But remember 'the grass is always greener' - I can't think of anything nicer than a quiet night in on my own. I love my own company and feel torn apart with all the demands on my time from other people - teenage children, DH, aging parents, relatives wanting to see me, friends inviting me out, voluntary work obligations etc etc etc. .

I know what you mean OP, I go to bed at 9 very often, being up at night with a toddler makes me grateful for the opportunity tbh. But I do it also to avoid my own company and the quiet of the night.

I don't know the answer but I do know it probably isn't forever

I couldn't possibly date. I have put in 2 stone in the past year with my new job (soon to be old)
I have seemed to have lost my mojo!
I was thinking of a class it's difficult with childcare as it is though but I have been looking into it :) thankyou patchworkpatty
Lucky you starlightbright1 :) well deserved, have fun :)

It is lonely, I started online dating because I dont want be alone in the summer! Lol.

Yay for a much needed night off - have a great time Starlight

Do you know any single parents you can invite over to enjoy your garden during the summer months, ggg? If not, register with Gingerbread and check out your area mumsnet group.

Do you have a local pub with child/dog friendly gardens and a Sunday lunch menu? Kids get playing, adults get chatting, and new friendships can be made, but you may have go for a few consecutive weekends to become 'known' to the more regular punters.

Being a single parent can be knackering, but mumsnet is effectively a 24 hour virtual drop-in centre where you can slob in your pjs with a face pack on bring your own comfy chair and and find an 'adult' topic to entertain/while away the hours before bedtime.

I understand ragwort.... I have had many times like tgus and look forward to time out and for the first 2 years thats what kept me going but the last 18 months tbings have changed, life has changed and I am in a bit of a rut :/ I'm slightly embarrassed to say but I don't have many friends. Friends from the girls school but nobody I could invite over... actually I guess I could couldn't I haha. My house is so small but may I should try it!
Pospcina :(( its difficult isn't it?! It seems to be the norm in my houshold now. I think this weather is so lovely I feel more lonely as it would be nice to share it with someone. I hope you are right though thankyou :)

I'm the same op.
8 weeks into single life and a toddler who wakes up about 5 times a night and both kids up at 6.
I tend to go to bed with them otherwise I wouldn't survive the next day and play on my phone or laptop but the nice evenings feel very depressing.
Like I'm missing out on life but too tired to engage with it.
Wish I knew the answer

Have fun Rebecca2014 :)
Goddessofsmallthings... I haven't really no. I have a couple of married friends. Another has recently met someone off a dating site and one friend I could possibly ask from college. I have mentioned a few times but she doesn't seem too interested maybe I will ask her again.Thats vvery very true I love this site and I have had lots and lots if amazing advice and comfort from lots of lovely people and I appreciate it muchly :))

Get the kids to bed, open a bottle of wine, listen to lots of old music. I love doing this.Some of my best nights have been one woman parties.

Aww ninetynineonehundred :(( I know exactly how you feel. I have been single a little (lot) longer and I will say things get easier with routines etc but you are right about the missing out feeling. I'm now thinking I need to make more of an effort and try and have a late night. It is very difficult with children that don't sleep well trust me I have been there too.

Cleanmyhouse... I wish I could wait until then to open the wine ;)
I agree I have had some great bridget jones evenings myself :)

No advice but I'm 2 years on my own. I just find myself generally chilling. I watch loads of TV and faff loads. I'm also starting up my new hobby of horse riding when I'm not with my dd.

I'm on my own tonight tho, it's lovely outside and no one to share it with

Sounds lovely desperatelyseekingsanity :)

I watched a movie with a takeaway last week and this week a friend came around with wine and a 'freedom ring ' (so touched that I snotted all over her.
Maybe tonight I'll sit with the back door open and enjoy the breeze with a glass of gin. I've got a small business idea to think about which may not come to anything but is fun to think about.

ok, so open it before they go to bed, i do that too...

MsPepsi.... me tooooooo :)
I can't chill to watch tv but I faff loads if thats the same meaning as potter :)
Thankyou everyone I feel better already just having lots of you lovely ladies message with thoughts etc :)

I spend my evening here (mumsnet) still enjoying being single and not bored or lonely yet.

Monday to Thursday it tends to be the same as most folk single or not. Bit of tidying, get ready for the morning, bit of telly and bed. The weekends tend to be similar but with added ! To ring the ch a nges I watch a box set or film, make myself a nice meal, phone a friend or invite people round. MN provides a welcome distraction. I'm a bit old and past it but online dating, babysitters are all possible.

Aww bless you ninetynine....good luck with your new adventure:)
Cleanmyhouse... haha ok ;)

Good for you fuckface :) I remember feeling that way too :)

Chevron.... aw nobody is too old and past it to online date! Thankyou maybe when im feeling a little more confident about myself :)
My week day evenings are the same its generally the weekend I feel a bit lost or maybe feel I'm missing out.

I'm just watching a film tonight but some nights I drop DS at my friends house, and her husband babysits him plus has his own two whilst my friend and I go out.

That works really well.

Oh my goddddd oh my god DoTheDuckFace I nearly chocked on my wine then oh my god I'm so embarrassed its my fat fingers..... I do apologise