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Oh god... Slept with my BFF....

(126 Posts)
icemaidensu Sun 10-Feb-13 21:34:25

What was I thinking!!!.... Would it be considered ' cheating' on my partner?? It wont happen again...there have been a few jokey comments today so am not worried about losing our friendship... That said, its all feeling a bit freaky!!

BertieBotts Sun 10-Feb-13 22:20:49

Also - BFF? Do adults use this, really?

icemaidensu Sun 10-Feb-13 22:21:03

It was stupid but its done now... No, i have no intention of telling my partner... And there is no reason to think my friendship will be jepordised under the circumstances... We are old enough to know better.. But hey ho.. Life is an adventure !!

AnyFucker Sun 10-Feb-13 22:21:46

grin @ TD

Why are you here if you think you did nothing wrong? I feel sorry for your partner you obviously don't care how they would feel about this.

OrangeLily Sun 10-Feb-13 22:24:14

It's cheating.

My DH would divorce me.

If he cheated on me with a man in such a fashion I would divorce him.

Only you know your relationship.

Shakey1500 Sun 10-Feb-13 22:24:56

"Hey ho it's done now". Really? You are that blase about it? Marvellous. It sounds like you don't give a shit. I feel for your partner.

Foggles Sun 10-Feb-13 22:24:56

I always find the best way of forgetting about something is splattering it on the internet.

As you were.

icemaidensu Sun 10-Feb-13 22:28:05

Ok, will just leave it now... Like I said it was a one off and I have no intention of repeating the experience

Thanks for the replies.. I really wasnt expecting them to be so blunt! But I get it!

MajesticWhine Sun 10-Feb-13 22:28:11

Your "BFF" might have a change of heart and tell your partner...

What did you expect?

As Foggles said........

Don't quite understand what you hoped to achieve by posting this,you clearly enjoyed it and feel quite blase about it.

AViewfromtheFridge Sun 10-Feb-13 22:34:45

Who over the age of 15 even uses the phrase "BFF"? Oh...

icemaidensu Sun 10-Feb-13 22:40:30

@ bossy i also dont know what the point was posting it But I am a regular here namechanged.. And i was wanting talk about the situation thats all! Clearly I made a mistake

For what it's worth icemaiden I really don't understand the reaction you've got on here. It's a perfectly valid thing to want to talk about and I'm surprised at the way it seems to be viewed in such a black and white way, and at some of the rather hostile responses.

Foggles Sun 10-Feb-13 22:54:48

At no point did the OP ask for discussion or support.

It was all "Hey Ho, what's done is done"

A different approach would have got different responses.

binger Sun 10-Feb-13 23:06:07

Just had a very interesting talk with dh. He says yes it's cheating but totally forgivable and not the same as shagging another man, he wouldn't forgive that. Factoring in the alcohol too he's a bit ach whatever about it. Who'd have thought!

It'd be game over as far as I was concerned. Don't care whether my partner had a drunken shag with another bloke or another woman, they'd be leaving our relationship/marriage/house.

SoleSource Sun 10-Feb-13 23:15:07

Show us the DVD evidence.

MajesticWhine Sun 10-Feb-13 23:15:38

green light for you binger, if you fancy a little sapphic love grin

icemaidensu Sun 10-Feb-13 23:18:25

Thanks thecat... I am also a bit surprised at the reactions!
Ok, I get it that it is cheating as such... But at the time it really wasnt like that!! I know that it was wrong... But it happened and I cant turn the clock back! I have had so much support on here with various stuff in my life and It just feels like a bit of a kick in the teeth tonight!!

SoleSource Sun 10-Feb-13 23:19:23

Might be different story if it actually happened binger

Your place or mine?

Maryz Sun 10-Feb-13 23:20:23

Interesting to compare this thread to the one where the op found that her dh had slept with a man.

This really oozes life lessons.

SoleSource Sun 10-Feb-13 23:20:36

icemaiden I need more details. Only way I can make up my mind..

KatieMiddleton Sun 10-Feb-13 23:22:27

The op is literally unbelievable.

Maryz Sun 10-Feb-13 23:23:08

Did you get my subtlety Katie?

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