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F*****G B*****D!!!

(108 Posts)
Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 19:40:17

I want to scream and if I didn't feel so poorly right now I would....

Vile EA husband!!!

We are in the process of splitting up, still living in the same house.

Today I went into my jewellery box for something and could not believe it when I discovered my wedding, engagement and eternity rings gone! £4000 worth of rings, taken by him!

I went looking and couldn't ind them but instead found my notes from my CAB meeting 2 weeks ago, ATM balance receipts showing my bank balance and receipts for things I've bought....!

Oh and not to mention his porn DVD stash which would explain why the vile pig has rejected me sexually for the past 3 years, calling a vile fat Cnut and telling me how I've let myself go after having our son! He's been getting off on porn instead!

Oh my god I am so angry and teary at the same time. I wish my parents were alive, I need them so much!

I have moved the rest of my jewellery, important paperwork, certificates and passports to my friends this afternoon.

I so want this over.

Angelico Tue 05-Feb-13 22:28:16

Just got deleted hmm Shall I blow MrKidd a kiss instead MNHQ? hmm

So I'll repeat the perfectly sensible bit of my message OP - the jewellery is yours legally. My engagement ring was insured at now DH's address before I moved in fulltime and insurance broker stressed that under law it was a gift and my property, despite it being at DH's address. If your twunt of a husband doesn't return your rings make a complaint to the police. In fact I would be inclined to make them aware sooner rather than later before he has a chance to 'lose' anything.

Startail Tue 05-Feb-13 22:34:51

DH and I agreed when we got engaged that if we split, I'd pay for half my engagement ring and get to keep it. I wanted to go halves, he wouldn't let me.

We got engaged after six weeks and were flat broke students, £116 was a lot of money.

Our wedding rings were very cheap and are definitely gifts.

abbierhodes Tue 05-Feb-13 22:59:54

MNHQ--- you missed one! Up there ^ I called him a c u next Tuesday. Very sorry. Couldn't help myself. Won't happen again.

Are you leaving it in? grin

PS...there's another one too where I cursed him with pigeon shit and violence. Apologies again.

Another fairly fundamental truth about domestic abuse: it's often easier for a man to leave a girlfriend who is abusive rather than a wife to leave an abusive husband because men generally have more money than women. Abusive men very often abuse financially - they keep the woman short of money; if she works they might steal money from her... or they might make it impossible for her to work by phoning her all the time in the workplace, hanging about outside it, or locking her in the house so she can't get to work.
This is not to say that men are not, sometimes, abused by female partners. They can suffer abuse and suffer additionally because they are too ashamed to ask for help and fear they won't be believed.

However, this doesn't justify victim-blaming bullshit on a thread when someone is asking for support and advice.

Angelico Tue 05-Feb-13 23:45:54

Abbie I'm actually amazed my post got deleted as it was positively tame in comparison to most of the others... So I shall stand on the shoulders of giants...

C U Next Tuesday to anyone goady on thread <sniggers like schoolgirl>

<runs away before Rebecca gets me>

NettleTea Tue 05-Feb-13 23:46:48

In many cultures the wedding rings are kind of like some sort of financial security for the woman just in case the man turns into a twunt and she needs the cash.
An I believe in law once the contract has gone through (ie the marriage) those rings are yours
So get them reported as stolen

Januarymadness Wed 06-Feb-13 07:43:01

Man i got deleted 3 times. I only told him to f off once

Oddsox2 Wed 06-Feb-13 09:55:23

Ladies you have really made me chuckle this morning reading back through you comments - especially pigeon poo Abbier....!

Thank you for a) giving me some amazing support and advice and b) making me smile when all I want to do is cry.

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