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F*****G B*****D!!!

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Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 19:40:17

I want to scream and if I didn't feel so poorly right now I would....

Vile EA husband!!!

We are in the process of splitting up, still living in the same house.

Today I went into my jewellery box for something and could not believe it when I discovered my wedding, engagement and eternity rings gone! £4000 worth of rings, taken by him!

I went looking and couldn't ind them but instead found my notes from my CAB meeting 2 weeks ago, ATM balance receipts showing my bank balance and receipts for things I've bought....!

Oh and not to mention his porn DVD stash which would explain why the vile pig has rejected me sexually for the past 3 years, calling a vile fat Cnut and telling me how I've let myself go after having our son! He's been getting off on porn instead!

Oh my god I am so angry and teary at the same time. I wish my parents were alive, I need them so much!

I have moved the rest of my jewellery, important paperwork, certificates and passports to my friends this afternoon.

I so want this over.

Januarymadness Tue 05-Feb-13 21:44:20

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abbier, I think I luffs you!!

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:45:36

I'd say with a wedding ring it's more like a loan. If divorced they should be transferred back.

NotSoNervous Tue 05-Feb-13 21:45:42

<<claps hands to abbi>>

Januarymadness Tue 05-Feb-13 21:46:52

what you say and what the law says are two different things. good job that.

Cocktailsorcakes Tue 05-Feb-13 21:47:44

Not that I really want to reply to mrkidd but I'm sure that there is legal precedent for the wedding rings etc to be classed as belonging to OP and as they have been given to her. Her twunt does not get to claim they are his just because he paid for them. Oh and OP has explained she wanted to keep them for her DS not for a reminder of him.

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:47:56

Funny has he's also taken his own wedding ring too....shouldn't he have left that me Mr Kidd???

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:51:36

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Beckamaw Tue 05-Feb-13 21:52:30

My ex took my rings and a load of my clothes too. He gave them back eventually after I shrugged and said 'If you're that emotionally attached to my things, you should keep them'.

The thing is, most men are fucking stupid. You will find evidence of this further up the thread.

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:14

I never said its the worst thing he's done, if you'd care to look at my previous posts to catch up so you know what the f* you're talking about Mrkidd feel free....

Jesus have you got your brain cell out on loan this evening....?

Vicky2011 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:44

Mr Kidd just think about the kind of cunt that drives off a cliff with his kids in the car cos the mother had the temerity to want out of the marriage. In case you are actually being stupid rather than deliberately vile to the OP I will explain...when someone is truly EA they are, by definition, capable of anything because any love that they may have for the children will never be as great as their own love of power. That is why they are so terrifying and why it can take years for their partner to leave.

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:49

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Tue 05-Feb-13 21:54:55

Mr Kidd I am interested in your very narrow minded opinion. I was beaten and EA by my Ex. I didn't leave because I was scared, he said he would take my baby from me and I believed him. Are you saying you have no sympathy for me?

He was bigger than me, older than me, more eloquent than me.

You have no sympathy?

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:57:46

OK Vicky2011 that doesn't happen too often - but if you're with someone capable of doing that then what is going through your mind when you decide to have children with this person anyway?

JockTamsonsBairns Tue 05-Feb-13 21:58:40

mrkidd - I respond to you as someone who left an eight year long abusive marriage at 5 o'clock in the morning - escaping with my two year old, and a tesco carrier bag with whatever essentials I could quickly grab...

Please fuck off. Do it now, and don't come back. Your input, at best, lacks intelligence and insight and, at worst, is extremely damaging. The OP doesn't need you, and neither does mumsnet. So get to fuck, and don't let the door hit you on the arse on the way out.

OP - please ignore, and don't feed the troll.

<Couldn't give a fuck if I get deleted. This site is for women to offer support to each other - or a kick up the arse even, if that's what's needed. Men more than welcome if they have anything to bring to the table - otherwise fuck off>

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:58:42

Puds11 it's hard not to have sympathy - but you have to ask why you were with him in the first place?

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:59:00

Wow...... Mrkidd I am speechless, just WOW

Thank god I am all cried out because a vile little man like you would've tipped me over this evening. Give yourself a pat on the back.

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:00:14

Jock - you had a child with someone who had abused you for 6 years? How can you say I lack intelligence?

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Tue 05-Feb-13 22:00:39

We were pregnant before he started abusing me. I thought we were meant to be. He then showed me how wrong I was. It felt like he waited until I couldn't easily escape. Had this happened before I had a child I would have hot-tailed it out of there.

Sausagedog27 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:01:56

Back to the op- you should report it to the police for theft, or ring 101. Do you have any ideas where he might have taken them?

Beckamaw Tue 05-Feb-13 22:02:00

No, Mrkidd,
You spend your free time insulting random women on Internet forums.
That takes superhuman intelligence, massive self respect and, in all probability, a shining golden cock.
Your smugness knows no bounds and I hereby salute you.

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:02:07

Ok Puds11 then I do sympathise. I just don't see how women can have a child with someone who they already know is abusive.

JockTamsonsBairns Tue 05-Feb-13 22:02:25

Poor OP. Not only has her life been scuppered by a man, but she turns to Mumsnet for support and her thread is quickly derailed by a man with some sort of agenda.

Vicky2011 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:03:17

Strongly suggest we all stop feeding this particular vile knuckle dragger.

Ok everyone stop talking to the troll mrkidd. Op has come here for support lets just keep to that and ignore the ignorant fucker intent on de railing.
Op I'm glad you're getting away from this man. I'm sorry he's been such an arse, is there any place he could have hidden them that you can find them?

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