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any one have any mantras to share about moving forwards and away from ex?

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dippyDoohdah Tue 06-Nov-12 21:12:53

hi.my counselling ending this week and I am near decree nisi with emotionally abusive ex..have posted before so will not go into back story but this relationship has been bad for me and our little boys. occasionally on mumsnet, you see brilliant gems and phrases that really hit home...
.anyone got any mantras they would share, with a general theme of leaving abusive ex, future being better? then I will stick them on phone, on fridge, for those moments of self doubt that comes from EA..thanks ladies/gents...

KateByChristmas Tue 06-Nov-12 21:18:08

This really is not particularly along that thread but ..... My mantra for everything comes from of all places Finding Nemo - "just keep swimming, just keep swimming"

I've never told anyone that before!

Sometimes, when you fall, you fly smile

RandallPinkFloyd Tue 06-Nov-12 21:24:16

<<pulls up chair, opens note pad, licks pencil>>

carry on, don't mind me smile

VBisme Tue 06-Nov-12 21:25:44

The best revenge is happiness.

VBisme Tue 06-Nov-12 21:27:04

Feeling bitter is like drink poison and expecting the other person to die.

VBisme Tue 06-Nov-12 21:27:47

This too will pass.

PotionMaker Tue 06-Nov-12 21:32:42

All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
(From a lady nun of many centuries ago called Julian of Norwich)

And here's another:

Those things that matter shall be resolved, those that do not shall fall away.
(From a very wise and dear friend of mine)

Both have stood me in very good stead. And both are right grin

silversmile Tue 06-Nov-12 22:01:46

While waiting for the storm to pass, learn to dance in the rain.

When you're going through hell, keep going.

mousseschoice Tue 06-Nov-12 22:03:09

It won't last forever, the bad shall pass. My fav though is "Bad things fall apart so better things can come together."

Guiltypleasures001 Tue 06-Nov-12 22:04:42

Shoulders back ..tits out...chin up

MsPickle Tue 06-Nov-12 22:18:00

Tomorrow is always a new day.

I like that one guilty grin

randomfemale Tue 06-Nov-12 23:22:14

Guilty that is my fave by far grin

My own pearl of wisdem?

'It never rains in the pub'

dippyDoohdah Wed 07-Nov-12 03:12:45

these are great! I have a happy Nemo visual, some very wise words, some funny ones, love the bass things coming apart so better come together...and falling and flying too...best revenge is happiness, aye! my grandpas words just popped in my head "don't let the buggers get you down!"...and I remember"I am captain of my own ship, am just learning to steer it through the storms".
have some more some where, will add when get them, thanks ladies this is fab!x

wonderingwinnie Wed 07-Nov-12 04:07:38

Marks place...

Salbertina Wed 07-Nov-12 05:45:49

"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference."

Serenity prayer. Applicable to everything, good luck, OP!

Salbertina Wed 07-Nov-12 05:50:29

Oh and a Buddhist one i love
"No mud, no lotus."

Meaning, i think, that the lotus flower cannot grow and bloom without the fertile shit- soil underneath it which is its foundation.

dearprudence Wed 07-Nov-12 05:54:36

What a nice thread smile

trumpton Wed 07-Nov-12 05:56:46

It's a case of mind over matter ..... I don't mind and you don't matter !

dippyDoohdah Wed 07-Nov-12 07:48:35

going to get the Serenity prayer for my lounge wall! love the lotus and I don't mind, you don't matter! got a book at home with some great ones too, will post them in next day or so (staying with family for some respite at mo!)..hoping us sharing all these can spread the love of positive mantras!

Salbertina Wed 07-Nov-12 07:56:49

smile

Chocolate is Good For You.

daffydowndilly Wed 07-Nov-12 14:29:23

A longer version of the serenity prayer that I have heard... love it!

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference
Grant me patience with the changes that take time
Appreciation of all that I have
Tolerance of those with different struggles
And the strength to get up and try again
One day at a time

Also: serenity isn't freedom from the storm, it is the peace within the storm.

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 07-Nov-12 14:49:01

"Better to live one day as a lion than a hundred years as a lamb...." (Unfortunately attributed to Benito Mussolin but you get the general ideai!!!)

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