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wandymum Sun 07-Oct-12 17:29:23

Reading a thread about DHs and porn and came across a way to see their i-phone history even if they'd deleted.

I couldn't resist looking. Not hugely bothered if DH looks at porn (they all do as far as I can tell), relationship generally good and I had no reason to feel the need to check up on him. Partly I wanted to see what turned him on to see if it would help spice things up a bit, partly I am just nosey.

Anyway, amongst the stuff on his phone was a site called affair-guide.com. Seemed to be an actual guide to how to have an affair without getting caught rather than porn so I asked him about it.

He said it was probably a pop up and is now refusing to talk to me at all because I have invaded his privacy.

Bugger.

InTheNightGarden Wed 10-Oct-12 10:04:42

all is ok, I rang my mum thinking surely she'd know! she understood my worry and told me my dp's paid for my mum and dad to take dd and dd's cousin to Disneyland Paris for the weekend!!! why I couldn't know that I do not know and where the money's come from to pay for that and us to go away I do not know either .... I feel kinda bad as I havnt told dp I've spoken to mum and I know all the plans!!!!

CajaDeLaMemoria Wed 10-Oct-12 10:21:44

Maybe this was a roundabout way of showing that he can be trusted, and can organise things she'll love?

After all, if she was his, you probably wouldn't worry about what he was organising. Maybe he was just trying to show that you don't need to worry about him either, and that he is like her father?

It's a manly and unthoughtful way of going about it, but it could be what he was intending. Maybe he'll unveil it as a surprise just before they leave?

Ra88 Wed 10-Oct-12 10:34:00

You can turn off pop ups on the iPhone but some sites will actually appear in the advanced settings on iPhone that are linked to sites . I say that he has been on porn and a site has been "attached" to it and that's why it's appeared in the log

DinosaursOnASpaceship Wed 10-Oct-12 10:34:48

I get pop ups on my iPhone when I go to nhs sites and am generally googling for pregnancy stuff - usually do I want to fill in a survey or sign up for pregnancy calendars etc. no idea about porn sites as I don't use them, I've never had a porn pop up appear through.

Looking through my Internet history, the pop ups don't appear on it unless I've actually clicked on it though and gone to the site it's advertising.

Although on my history it says I've been on adult friend finder!! I haven't ever, So no idea where that's come from.

Yes, to the insecure and guilty we are a nest of vipers.

Oh well.... <shrugs, polishes nails>

Lueji Wed 10-Oct-12 11:50:53

You mean fangs, surely? wink

Only when it's a full moon Lu

grin

ZigZagWanderer Wed 10-Oct-12 12:01:21

http://cheating-dating-guide.com/cheating-tips/avoid-getting-caught/

If I found this on my DP's phone I would go fucking mental. (Regardless of the how I found them).

ZigZagWanderer Wed 10-Oct-12 12:03:20

I tried to link that but it hasn't done it.

This is the text on that page, (I'm a bit crap at this).

Finding someone to have sex with really isn’t that difficult. I know some pretty nerdy dudes that have pulled in some serious tail. The difficult part of cheating is getting away with it. Women can’t help themselves. They don’t trust anyone. Even though they might tell you they trust you, they don’t. Every move you make, they’re paying attention. Every penny you spend, they know about it. So you have to be incredibly cautious to avoid her from finding out about your secret life.

4 Most Common Mistakes Cheaters Make
1.Failing to hide their browser history (sites you visit online) and passwords on the family computers.
2.Careless use of text messaging and phone call logs.
3.Paying for a hotel, online dating site, and other activities with a shared credit card or shared bank card.
4.Forgetting to delete IM logs.

The main reason men make these mistakes is carelessness. They think they’re invincible and don’t realize just how much their wife is paying attention to what they do. I can teach you how to find a sex partner, but if you don’t know how to avoid making the above mistakes, you may as well just tell your wife you’ve been having an affair.

How to Avoid Making Careless Mistakes

If you’re generally a careless individual, it’s time you change your habits. Attention to detail is the #1 key to cheating and getting away with it. You must have a solid system for cheating. That system should be strategically planned out and executed completely. Don’t even bother trying to meet women until you’re 100% certain you’re prepared. And read these tips on how to avoid making common mistakes men make.

Web Browser History

I figured this part was common sense, so I never even brought it up. That was until I had quite a few guys emailing me to tell me they were caught by their spouse because they failed to hide their online moves. So this is your fair warning. It really doesn’t matter if the computer is a shared computer or your own computer, you need to USE PRIVATE BROWSING if you’re dating off of cheating websites so your wife doesn’t find out what naughty websites you’ve been visiting.

I’m going to stop you before you say, “my wife has never touched my laptop”. She might someday. What happens if you’re careless and completely forget about the sites you’ve been visiting and allow her to use it? She might type in a website and see a site suggestion for one of the adult sites you’ve been visiting. She will immediately begin to question why you’ve been visiting that site. Cover all of your tracks.

Get in the habit of USING PRIVATE BROWSING every time you do anything online related to having an affair. Using “Privacy Mode” on your browsers is a great idea, and the one guys forget the most. This will greatly help eliminate her chances of finding out what you’ve been doing.

Passwords also need to be deleted. On most browsers (i.e. Firefox and Google Chrome), you can delete your browser history without removing the paper trail left behind from stored passwords, email addresses, and user names. Remove everything related to having an affair after every time you use your computer.

For complete instructions on how to hide what you’ve been doing online, check out the this wiki article.

ZigZagWanderer Wed 10-Oct-12 12:04:51

I didn't know this stuff exsisted and to be honest, makes me want to snoop too.

izzyizin Wed 10-Oct-12 12:07:10

I've taken the liberty of adapting one of your impressive responses on another thread for the OP's use, Katie. I have, of course, credited you and hope it will be in order to refer to it again should occasion arise.

<combs snakes writhing on own head into a fetching fringe>

Oh, feel free Izzy

All converts to the coven are welcome.

<Have you tried the MN Viper haircut, BTW? >

grin

izzyizin Wed 10-Oct-12 12:22:28

I cut their heads off some time ago, Katie, but they grew back and now writhe trail below my shoulders.

I intend to raise the corpse of invoke Vidal Sassoon on the 31st in the hope that he can style them into a more manageable 'do', as it were grin

<attempts to plait the buggers>

InTheNightGarden Wed 10-Oct-12 14:52:41

caja think you've absolutely hit the nail on the head smile damm I feel bad now!

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