Sounds stupid doesnt it?
Potted history....
various lies over the years, nothing major really but it all adds up, you know? And then last year, 5 weeks after giving birth, I found out that H had been having a sexting affair (and trying to arrange to meet for sex although she seemed to be reluctant to go the final step) for almost a year, so most of our marriage.
I made it clear that if we were to work past it there would have to be 100% honesty, no more lies.
I had Norovirus starting in the early hours of Saturday morning. I was over the worst of it by lunchtime yesterday although still had the runs and was feeling fairly rough. I came downstairs and saw him holding something I hadnt seen before. He shoved it out of the way and I said "what was that?" He said he had been holding the remote, which was so laughably stupid, and I said "Dont lie to me, what was it" and it turns out that it was a new ipod touch. I lost it.
Not because he bought it, I have bought a new phone this last week, and I have no problem with him spending his money on such things. I went mental because his first insinct was to lie. AGAIN. He made excuses, which I shot down in flames, and then attempted to turn it into being my fault ("you would have only had a go at me".....erm based on what evidence exactly?).
I say that I gave him a choice 9 months ago, when I found out about his affair. Either the lies stopped or our marriage was over. As he hasnt stopped lying, he has clearly made his choice and our marriage is over. Frankly I wouldnt believe him now if he told me that the sky was blue. He has always erred on the side of bullshit, I have no idea why.
I told him last year that I was this close to not loving him anymore. That every little thing had killed the trust and the love bit by bit and that I was sure that another incident would kill it altogether and tbh, I think it has.
Last year I asked myself, and him, over and over why he married me if was going to cheat. What I didnt ask myself, until last night, was why I married him. I am too good for him, I always was. The problem was that he knew that and I didnt. Now I do, WIBU to end our 2 year marriage?
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AIBU to end my marriage over an iPod?
Bogeyface · 27/02/2012 13:25
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