To think that no one is seeing the elephant in the room here.

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I dont normally do celeb gossip and am no massive fan of Denise Welch or Loose Women but i think she is getting a really hard time in the press and the marriage break up seems to be completely being blamed on her.
First she was vilified in the press for having an affair and cheating on her husband.
Now its come out that they actually split before Christmas so she didnt actually cheat and she is STILL getting the blame.
I strongly suspect that her and her husbands marriage has been sexless for a long time. I could be massively off base and completely wrong of course but if the marriage was sexless at HIS instigation then why is it the woman who gets the blame. I am in a situation where my marriage is sexless by my DHs choice so i realise i could be projecting but fucking hell ive skimmed through quite a few posts on this on other forums and this possibility does not seem to have occured to even one poster which i find both astonishing and dismaying.

I don't think anyone knows or should know a couple's private arrangements and secrets, but I do think the people within that partnership should treat the other with dignity, respect and discretion if they have chosen to stay in the marriage. Having observed this couple over the years, I've never seen Tim Healy behave the way his wife has and I think her actions have been cruel and punishing. I detest the Loose Women concept in any case, but my impression of this woman is that she is narcissistic.

i didnt say that. I said that no other poster on other forums had mentioned that it MIGHT be a possibility. people seem to be very happy mentioning the possibility that its only her to blame though.
People seem happy to mention the possibilty that she MAY have cheated. And then STILL vilify her when she hasnt.

Can it be correctly deemed the elephant in the room if most people don't actually care?

To be fair though, BluddyMoFo, if she had three vaginas, she probably would have shown them to us.

But as I recall, her first publicly exposed infidelity was in 2004, when she was definitely with her husband. And the recent alleged infidelities definitely pre-dated any split.

If she was a male celebrity, I certainly wouldn't assume it must be his wife's fault for denying him sex. If he had a similar track record of exhibitionism, alcohol addiction and repeat infidelities, I think I'd conclude the problem was with him not his wife or his marriage. I don't see why we should reach any different conclusions because Denise Welch is a woman.

I can't stand the concept of Loose Women either. Haven't we got enough trouble with the way the world behaves regarding our sexuality anyway??

My advice, move away from shite TV

I will be honest, if you look at recent photos of him, particularly the ones at his birthday party, he looks like an old homeless tramp.. unshaved, scruffy close, the bleary eyes of an old drunk. She is a woman who seems to enjoy life, enjoy a party, and takes care of her appearance.

I would say there is a lot that has gone on behind the scenes that she has kept private, (and rightly so as it is none of our business), but I do suspect that the breakdown of their marriage is not all her doing at all.

Is this thread for real? Have I accidentally stumbled onto Digital Spy by mistake?

How odd.

what hattytown said and thank the lord DW doesn't have three vaginas.

She used to be married to Pete Callen from Family Affairs.Just sayin.

This sounds more like one of those 'elephant in completely the right place - out free to wander the plains' scenarios.

I'm not a paid-up member of the Forum Police (too lazy), but this thread really sticks out like a sore thumb. Doesn't it belong in TV or Chat or News or... oh, anywhere but here. I know it's about A Relationship, sort of, but surely not in the same way that this board is "about" relationships. One could make a (strictly limited) case for celebrity gossip to be included here if it illustrated an interesting point about relationships in general, maybe, but this is just tittle-tattle. Nothing wrong with a bit of tittle-tattle as such, in the right context, but... oh, you made me go all po-faced, I hate it when that happens.

Who gives a rats ass!!

I really don't care if Denise Welch has a sexless marriage or not. How did you possibly come to that conclusion?

Well would you have sex with either of them?

I think the real elephant in the room here is the OPs own relationship issues, is that something you would like to talk about and get some support with OP?

I agree with Hatty, not that I care much.

Eh? I think you are right about the projecting bit.

The way i see it is either a) she had an affair and this is a cover story. b)she left her marriage because there was someone waiting in the wings but waited until her marriage was over c)its true about she split then started the new thing very quickly

PS I don't care enough to blame her. or him or your DH. Would you like to talk about it?