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This is the story......

we want a baby.

I'm 27, have one dd of 4 from previous relationship and had my coil out 15 months ago- been trying HARD for 9 months. DH has had sperm analysis- good high count, morphology and motility a bit low but no problem cos of high count

I have regular normal periods. 26 day cycle, ov day 13-16, have temped, done the sticks, got a bit stressed so stopped. I dont smoke, neither does DH, we have the occasional drink but we are no lashers. We eat healthily, we excercise, we relax, have fun, I try really hard not to stress about it, I have acupuncture with a lady that specialises in fertility and I find that really helps.

Why havent I got a bun in my oven?????!!!!!!

Somebody give me a few golden words of wisdom please!!!!!!

When we was trying for our dd (now 15months) we tried really hard for about 8 months and it was very frustrating every month to not be pregnant, and I just didn't want the stress of trying anymore so we stopped.
This made us both much more relaxed because we wasn't thinking about it all the time and two months later I fell pregnant. It will just happen in it's own time (know its easy to say) and try not to think much about it!!

buy something really expensive and not very child/pregnancy suited like a clingy dress for the summer, or a sports car, and then you are bound to fall pregnant

Maybe a hypnotherapy cd would help? Haven't tried it to concieve myself but used them before labour. this range is good

I was very lucky - we just did it.

I'd watched my cycles a few times, knew my thyroid was ok (this is something for you to look into...) and knew i was ovulating ok (lots of cervical mucus - no temps, no tests).

Then, i grabbed him on Boxing day night, said 'if you want another child now's the time' and we did it. And here i am 14w2d along.

Get your thyroid checked - lots of unexplained infertility is down to an underactive, or undermedicated thyroid.

ok- given that you have ruled out any medical problems and it's just one of those things... my advice would be...

GO ON HOLDAY! pref without dd. the first time i found that we just needed to do the deed A LOT, and at home it's just not possible. plus you are relaxed etc.

having said that, second time round i just did the sticks you pee on and when i thought it was time i grabbed dh while dd was napping and we did it on the sofa in the living room while the builder fixed the bedroom windows . got pregnant straightaway, i think my body knew it better get on with it as with dd being such an awful sleeper we were simply not getting enough chances...

above all, try not to get stressed about it. i know easier said than done.. babies come when they are ready.

GOOD LUCK though!

We can't tell you, sweetie. But your GP and/or a specialist may be able to.

DP and I tried for this baby for about the same length of time, then I had a LEEP on my cervix (operation where they remove abnormal cells) and boom, I fell pg straight away, not sure if it had anything to do with it but I know of other people that have had the same, have you had a smear recently?

Try to remember that there is only a small window each month in which live sperm has to get to your egg, it's actually pretty damn hard!

Drink green tea!
Maybe an old wives tale but it's meant to destress the body....

It worked for me. Or did it? Was it that or something else. We will never know!

I have tried all the tricks and am more or less in the same boat as you (less the exercise and plus a few easter eggs). Green tea, vitamins, acupuncture, copy of TCOYF, relatively regular periods etc etc.

In my case I keep wondering whether I might be a bit "blocked" because giving birth to my daughter was the most terrifying experience of my life - I genuinely thought I was going to die - and so I am working through that.

In your case, do you think your luteal phase might be a little short? If you ov on day 16 and your period comes on day 26, that only gives 9 or 10 days for the bean to implant. Have you tried taking vit B (I think it is B6 and B12) to lengthen it?

A holiday! After 4.5 years of trying, bang on a drunken nght in Miami we fell pg by ourselves.

Darrell Rivers is right, it's true, buy things you will take out of your wardrobe and stare at sobbing in a year's time when you are still unable to wear them because you are breastfeeding/haven't lost that tummy, and you will get a BFP very easily

Oooh, Dalrymps - I am going to buy that CD. It looks like just the thing for me.

What darrellrivers said. I spent 250 quid on a gorgeous black sheepskin jacket and the very next evening I got a bfp. I then spent two winters pg and have only this year had the chance to wear it.

It has milk dribbles down it, but it's still lovely.

Agree with finallypregnant, a holiday to relax you. But just remember that it has not been that long (I'm sure it feels like it though, it took me 8 months first time and felt like forever) You have time, sperm, ovulation, age etc on your side and it probably will happen soon. You will probably conceive twins after all this worry

they say to make love with the woman underneath and after sex lay for a while with your bum in the air off the bed to help the sperm in the right direction.sounds weird but positions effect it apparently.

its what we did and the next month i was pregnant.quite a shock with it happening so quickly.

they do say, dont try too hard and it will happen.

good luck

if you do regular exercise or dieting, you better do less. i think your body needs to relax, not mean get fat or eat crap. just needs get out of certain physical regime.
probably go holiday, and have a fun.

i am sure pre-seed helped dd3 along (you can buy it off ebay). It is sperm-friendly lubricant. shall be using it again when i poersuade dh for a dc4.

Am going to look at the hypnotherapy for sure.

Have got to the stage where I am even thinking 'do we have sex wrong?'

I've started to lose confidence in it happening..........

i swear by folic acid and baby aspirin!

200iu vitamin E, give it 3 months.

what does the aspirin do? and the vit e?

i got zita west's book out of library. pg a week later.
but (dull) was trying for a very long time before that and since. no contraception since 2002 and only one child.

<goes off to order z west book again>

After nearly 18mths and 2MCs I was so fed up I bought some farkin' ridiculously expensive gym membership that tied me in for a year - thought it would improve my self esteem One week after signing on the dotted line I found out I am pregnant.

Just a thought but is there anything (herbal or otherwise) that your DH could take to improve motility and morphology? (You have probably thought of this already!).

Oh I already have a DD (2) who took 2years to conceive.