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Dec 2011 - Do that again, and you're getting sold on Ebay.....

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Aethelfleda Mon 18-Feb-13 22:52:04

Shiny new thread with no listing fees!

QueenofClean Tue 19-Feb-13 01:33:17

<Marks place> love e-bay!

mopsytop Tue 19-Feb-13 08:54:55

Marking place.

SevenReasonsToSmile Tue 19-Feb-13 09:36:11

Morning. DD turned from a snot monster to drowning in her own snot and phlegm, nice.

mopsy sorry about the rejection, though I agree with oi, the right one will come along soon enough.

No news to report here.

SevenReasonsToSmile Tue 19-Feb-13 09:38:14

queen what on earth were you doing on here at 1:33? Any AF/POAS news yet, when are you testing again?

QueenofClean Tue 19-Feb-13 09:51:32

Mopsy sorry about the rejection although I agree with Oi a better place is waiting for you somewhere.

Seven, I couldn't get back to sleep after Sky waking briefly and me needing a wee. On what should be day 5 of my period and AF still hasn't shown her face. Poas the other morning and bfn! So haven't a clue sad

OiMissus Tue 19-Feb-13 10:10:34

Morning, I hope that the stick was faulty!
I dropped BOi off at the new cm this morning. I passed him to her and he immediately started to cry... I settled him on the floor in front of the TV with some building blocks and then stole away.
Argh!!! I hate this. The fear that someone else is bringing up my BOi, and the fact that we can't control what they are fed. It was on TV last night that kids of both parents working are more likely to be obese. My mum said yesterday that BOi had enjoyed little sips of dad's sparkling water. No! I don't want his teeth exposed to nasty tooth-rotting bubbles! How ridiculous. What am I supposed to do? Issue a long list of do's and don't s! Gah!
I love my job. I couldn't be a full time mum. I also love our new house (which my wage pays for). BOi benefits from nice stuff. But at a cost.
Balancing act. Pros n cons. We get long weekends together. And an hour and a half in the evening. That's ok. I just need to issue rules to my childcare providers, even when they do it for free...

SevenReasonsToSmile Tue 19-Feb-13 14:21:04

oi as someone who grew up with both parents working full time I think the crucial bit is spending time doing things with BOi when you are together. I spent no time with my parents during the week, my memories of the weekends are playing by myself while mum was working in the garden or down the allotment and dad being asleep on the sofa or watching sport on TV. I grew up thinking they didn't have time for me, I vowed to be a SAHM because I never wanted my kids to feel that way, as much as we could do with the extra money!

New guttering has started going up today. We're at a standstill with the garage now, plumber has got as far as he can but electrician hasn't finished and hasn't been here since last Wednesday hmm.

queen you're late, POAS again tomorrow please please please!

Aethelfleda Tue 19-Feb-13 14:42:00

Never fear mopsy, soon you will be appreciated by people with better taste.

Day 4 in the Little Pox household, and DS is covered in yucky crusts and has new spots on his feet and hands sad the DDs are being great about the restrictions and I cleaned out the entire fridge and freezer this morning <virtuous face>. Moving day is getting near!!'...

QueenofClean Tue 19-Feb-13 14:49:32

I agree with Seven, Oi, just try and make time for BOi when you are home.

Seven I'm heading to the supermarket in a mo to pick up some veg but will also pick up a pregnancy test. Which one do you ladies recommend, first response or predictor? I can't afford Clearblue as don't get paid till next week!

SevenReasonsToSmile Tue 19-Feb-13 15:12:30

I recommend supermarket own brands tbh queen, they're just as good.

Xiaoxiong Tue 19-Feb-13 16:16:45

Queen I used a first response but I'm not sure an own brand wouldn't have done the job just as well. Certainly the stats they put on the box are roughly the same in terms of false negatives. Really hope for a +ve for you!!

aethel so excited!! Welcome to the sort of neighbourhood - when is your first day in the new place? We will come round with lemonade and oatmeal cookies grin

...which I will hopefully be able to do because I <whispers> just handed in notice at my law firm, to work full-time on my aunt's alternative energy investment fund from home grin I was mega nervous but it went well and now just need to talk to them to see when they want me to leave, whether I have to work the full 3 month notice period or not. It will mean no income and paying for childcare out of savings for a while but hopefully we will start making money before we go broke. And if it all goes tits up and I have to go back to work it will mean I have something really exciting and unusual on my CV.

jigglebum Tue 19-Feb-13 16:23:17

Half term here and a poorly DS (again) and osteopath thinks Freya has an ear infection as she went absolutely ballistic yesterday when the osteo tried to touch anywhere on her head but cant get doctors appt till next week. DS has some sort of viral bug (rash, temp and grumpy as hell)Had a friend here for 24 hours or so (childless!) She has saved my sanity but has gone home knackered! And sadly Freya was clingy and wouldnt offer cuddles and DS was grumpy most of the time. Think I might just head down to my parents for the end of half term for some help and support!

mopsy - it is such a competitive area I think isnt it? I hope something will work out soon.
aethel - good luck with the pox and the moving preparations
oi - it is a balancing act isnt it? I am very grateful for the help my inlaws provide looking after F once a week but dont approve of everything they do. It is easier when it is your second and when it is only once a week.

Xiaoxiong Tue 19-Feb-13 16:41:03

mopsy have just read back up the previous thread - ((hugs)), what a frustrating process it must be and I really hope it works out. I agree with everyone else that the right thing will come along.

SevenReasonsToSmile Tue 19-Feb-13 16:56:02

Congrats xiao, how exciting! Does this also mean more time for the business plan for the bookshop. Hope you soon start making millions for your aunt, then you can open the shop and pay someone else to be in charge while you colour in and read with DS all day smile.

Figgygal Tue 19-Feb-13 17:16:18

Ooh here you are grin marking place

Aethelfleda Tue 19-Feb-13 17:53:52

Ooh xiao, how exciting! <waves pompoms made from shredded antique copies of Annals Of The Law Society> we are getting keys in theory next Weds though it will be crazy chaos: come Thursday!! (A thread coffee invite will follow shortly afterwards I expect...)

queen, I just used Tescos' own: the laughable basics packaged ones are two for £3!

oi there is guilt whether you work 0, 20, 40 or 60 hour weeks. It's just standard when we juggle life, work and children. Don't beat yourself up as long as Boi is safe, warm and cuddled. How's DP's job going?

*Jiggle, hope DD settles soon: maybe it's the pox brewing!

mopsytop Tue 19-Feb-13 19:16:57

Thanks everyone. Feeling low today but I'm sure I'll perk up soon.

Oi I guess everyone working outside the home has similar issues/questions but like aethrl said I'm sure he's getting lots of love and that's the important thing. I guess we are always going to feel guilty about something. I'm sure the time you spend with Boi is fabulous and he certainly sounds like he's a happy little soul!

ooooh Queen exciting. Hope test first thing tomo morning gives desired result.

Xiao congrats on taking the scary plunge and the new venture sounds so exciting!

Better go wash up. Husband has horrible septic throat. Mine is beginning to feel sore. Praying myself and minimopsy don't get it...

QueenofClean Tue 19-Feb-13 19:40:55

Xiao - exciting news. Hope it all plans out well smile

Aethel, Ooo about time your moving lol!

I got 2 CB digital as they were on Rollback in Asda - same price as FR or Predictor. So will poas in morning.

Been a busy cleaning bee today. Hoovered & polished everywhere, bleached the kitchen. Done all Darcie's washing as she is back from Brownie Camp and she had a blast and can't wait to go on summer camp! Done all the ironing too. Whilst entertaining and feeding the girls. Baked a cake for DH to take to work tomorrow and been to shop got veg an made chicken casserole for tea.

Sky had us in fits of laughter earlier dancing to Gangnam Style grin she's walking more now too which is good.

Figgygal Tue 19-Feb-13 19:41:25

xiao very exciting news for you good luck!!

Oi sympathies I personally feel little guilt about working I earn more than dh so make a large contribution to the household, I enjoy what I do and get a lot of challenge and satisfaction from it, DS loves his cm, she, her dh and her kids love him he's practically part of the family (b4 she found someone to have him for a week when she's on holiday she offered to take him with her on their week family hol In Devon grin). I do have fridays with him though that makes a big difference to me Is there any way u could look at PT (over and above your early Friday finish)?

EasilyBored Tue 19-Feb-13 20:01:42

Oi mummy guilt is evil. The time you get to spend with bOi is what is important, and you said yourself, you don't want to stay at home. I despair at what Caspar eats at nursery, but reason that it's three days a week, and he so any eat pudding at home. Plus, he's a shit eater, so im picking my battles and food is not the hill I will die on.

The theme here is utter histrionics at not getting what he wants. And when he's tired it's like he gets in such a state at not being allowed to hit the cat with a saucepan that he just loses it and then works himself into a frenzy of crying and thrashing and screaming and snot bubbles. Fun times.

Pom poms and wine for job giving up, new house, clean house and boo to pox!

Ah Easily, that made me laugh about the saucepan!
We have histrionics too; every morning, when DS has finished poncing cereal from me and DP (ie it's all been eaten!) he throws himself on the floor and wails. Same reaction to the kitchen safety gate being closed if he's not on the kitchen side and you are.
DS gets an arched eyebrow if he's lucky grin

I'm not quite sure where we're going in Norfolk seven; my mate's with the RAF so it's near wherever their base is! I'll find out before we set off though...

A massive ((hug)) for mopsy, I hope you're continuing to feel a bit better. You will find something, but in that type of work it is tough even in the good times. Is there anything related/voluntary/admin in that area you can do just to get a foot in the door?

Oi, we're in the same boat so I know where you're coming from. First, remind yourself that you are a Good Mum. Then remind yourself, on a daily basis, that the big thing is that you love BOi, you show it and he knows it. He is secure and loved, and it is really all that matters. Promise. smile

How is DS doing in himself aethel, is he coping OK? Itching much? Sounds like you're all coping, and you have at least got the packing and excitement to distract you!

That's some pretty major news Xiao, BFP and new job! Sounds like a wonderful opportunity, and why not?

Have a full day seminar in London tomorrow, in my area of work, and am meeting my oppos from the other organisations across the country. Can't wait as it's at Gray's Inn, and more importantly they provide lunch <hoovers free food shamelessly emoticon>!

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 19-Feb-13 21:14:46

Seconding what everyone else has said, make Boi time at the weekend.
DH works FT & gets up with DS at weekends/weeks he's working lates so he has some quality alone time with him.

I'd say make a small list of 'do/don't' for carers; eg. no drinks other than still water or milk, but don't get upset if they don't follow it all the time, DS is bound to eat something crap at somepoint (mudpies anyone?).
I guess both parents working FT means they're more likely to buy processed crap? Or feel guilty about working FT and 'treat' the child more?

Congrats Xiao!! Sounds exciting!

DH suggested putting DS into nursey/cm one day a week...just looking into it had me upset, he doesn't need anyone but his mum, ever. That's healthy right? grin
I already know I'm going to be a typical Jewish Mother/MIL..no-one will ever be good enough for my boy!

<<calpol, coffee and your drugs of choice all round>>

QueenofClean Wed 20-Feb-13 06:46:59

Oops I went to loo about half hr ago and didn't test. Will do it when I need to go next. Trying not to drink to much!

QueenofClean Wed 20-Feb-13 07:41:25

Poas and BFN! Not sure what's going on...feel a little crampy down there tho! So hope it's AF on its way so we can get it sorted properly this month!

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