H and I had a huge row at the weekend over our dc eating with the cutlery. H eats with his fork in the left hand and knife in the right, I hate it and now the kids have started copying.He says he has eaten like that for most of his life, despite dinners being withold and being banished to his room for not eating correctly, he is adament he could not use the knife and fork the other way round. I dont want my children eating like that, he called me a snob, Im not , I just dont want them to get picked on for eating the wrong way round. Does anyone think it is a physical impossibility or something that needs perserverance or should I just let them eat how they like incase they cant eat the correct way, is there a correct way? or is it ettiquette?
My DH holds his cutlery opposite to what I was taught to do. (Mind you, he also lifts his plate right up to his chin if not eating at the table, or ducks his head down for each mouthful if we are and persists with eating with only his fork if he can get away with it. It is an improvement though, because when I first got together with him he would have slices of bread with every meal specifically so he could make a sandwich out of my lovingly cooked meal and therefore eat without any cutlery at all. )
My DCs are now copying him and he is being an arse about it adamant that they can eat whatever way they wish. If they used them well then it wouldn't bother me, but both of mine are right handed. They copy him, then end up trying to hold the food still with their knife and pulling a mouthful off with their fork instead of holding the food with their fork and cutting with their knife.
I wasn't brought up to particularly believe that cutlery should go a certain way, but I believe that kids find it easier if they hold their knife in their dominant hand.