I'm another one that is sticking at one for now.
DS was dxd as ASD at 3 and I didn't do well with the whole 'baby' phase either.

The problem I have is that I'm actually finding that I'm getting broody and have my parents going on and on about me having another.

You're not an idiot. I have two and the first was easy. The second nearly killed me. There was a 3 year gap. now they're four and 7 I am so happy with them again, but I could never forget how hard I found that first 2 YEARS after dc2 born. WOrth it, but you are not an idiot.

It's funny because, when I think of having another, it petrifies me that it would be a baby that is really hard work!! Ds didn't sleep that much but was and is such an Angel. At 2.2 he is great company and good as gold/caring etc and I couldn't imagine "rocking the boat" as it were!!

I can look at babies and think "sweet" and that is it. Does never make me want another one, ever.

I really understand, I have always thought that children should pop out aged 18 mths!! I have never understood the cooing over a baby.

I also had pregnancy probs (pre-eclampsia) and a hard work baby. It was just like being in one long dark tunnel and then suddenly we popped out into the light!

I think you are being realistic and asking yourself the hard questions. It seems IMO that some people rush blindly ahead.

I am now considering another and feel positive about it. I didn't before. I was not ready, It is hard when you are older.

snap, I feel exactly the same!

My reasons are the usual I suppose, the surge of emotion when I see lovely moments between my friends' children, She is such an affectionate, loving child and I sometimes lament not providing her with the experience of a baby around and the interaction. I better stop now as I will get upset!

But deep down I know she will have a depressed Mummy, just counting the months away until they are older. I feel long term yes it may be the right decision but we live in the present don't we?

ha ha - read your post OP and thought - "YES" but then I'm not a mum of 1 - I have 2 - and the same applies. You know when you've had enough. It's wise to know yourself so well. Good luck - those hormones are strong!

DS was a demanding baby - much happier little boy. ANd I had a bad pregnancy lots of sickness and SPD.

I just couldn't do it again. If I could magic up another toddler, I would do it like a shot, but (including pregancy) it was 3 years of just gritting my teeth and trying to get through the day. Its no way to live and to sign up for another tour of duty is just beyond me.

I wanted 3 but one will do fine. Can't have everything.

Its not knowing isn't it. If the next dc were easier it would all be fine, but whilst mt dd didnt sleep she was easily settled, no. 2 could be harder.. I feel having a second might be better for us as a family in the long term, but what if i'm wrong and it breaks us?

Juju, what are your reasons for not wanting to stick with one? Is is because others are getting pregnant or is there more to it than that, ie in your mind's eye,you always wanted 2?

Think the feelings you describe are common to a few of us here with one child families.