What's the loveliest thing that anyone has ever said to you and it really registered?(290 Posts)
Feelgood please....no mervin' or talking about bum and banjos.
<<feels the draft of 1000's running out of this thread's door>>
Also one of my teachers at high school once said to me when handing back a bit of work: "Thank you. It's people like you that make me so happy and proud to be a teacher."
I was obviously a right swot.
Two things said relatively recently have really meant something to me.
When I was about six months pregnant with DS2 and feeling really, really unattractive, I went out for a work lunch with someone who flirted outrageously with me. He said how my DH must be terrified of being married to me as I was so beautiful.
That wasn't the nice bit as he was just some drunk man who was a bit odd and possibly sleazy. I came home and told DH about it and he said "you see, you always think that you're ugly when pregnant because you don't have your normal figure and you lose all your confidence. And the truth is that you're just gorgeous whatever and all that guy saw was a gorgeous woman."
<mists up a bit>
And the other lovely one was DS (2.5). When bathing him, I asked what was his favourite bit of the weekend - he was very spoilt as we went to the museum, zoo, he got new toys...he's had a blast. He said "being with mummy and daddy".
<full on emotional weeping>
^wow something so lovely got deleted, I hope.
My brother once said to me at a very hard time in my life "even if you wAsnt my sister I would still be friends with you as you are one of the nicest people I know" ThAt wAs 15 years ago!, have never forgotten that.
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My friend told me she'd never have got her degree if it weren't for me. Probably sounds like nothing, but it means a lot to me. She was in an abusive relationship and attempted suicide before eventually getting out of the relationship and coming to live with me - all this happened whilst she was studying for her degree. She was so ground down, a shadow of her former self from before this relationship. She was convinced she would fail her degree, but she passed, and I went to her graduation. I have never been so proud. Watching her gradually return to her old self was amazing.
Also, another friend told me I was inspiring, which I thought was a massive compliment. I just thought I talk about knitting a lot!
I have a neurological disease affecting the bottom half of my legs and arms which affects the way I walk. (As one friend at school so nicely put it, I walk like a puppet ) After years of bullying at school and stares and comments when out walking, I was very self conscious about my walk.
A few years ago, a guy I was seeing on and off (though he was more just a very good friend by that point) was talking to me on the phone about how we hadn't seen eachother for a while, and jokingly said he couldn't remember what I looked like. Then he said "No, I can. I can picture your eyes; I can picture your smile; I can picture the way you walk..."
I cut him off, thinking he was going to be funny or hurtful, saying "Yeah, we'll leave that one shall we?" He said "What? You walk like you're on a catwalk. It's really sexy."
From then on I walked with my head held high, and honestly have not noticed any staring since then (probably because I don't care anymore). And have actually had a few more comments about my 'sexy wiggle' since then.
I don't think he will ever understand just what that one comment did for my confidence, and my life. In fact I've just got back in touch with him, so I may have to thank him.
On the way back from school last week, DD said, out of nowhere "You know what mum? You're like Mary Poppins, practically perfect in every way!".
One that stuck with me is years ago when DH was in hospital, we were in the middle of building work, and I was barely holding things together, someone came up to me at work and said "You're amazing, I don't know how you deal with all the things you do and still come into work smiling every day!" Oddly, up to that point I hadn't even considered that I was anything special, I just smile a lot as I'm an optimist.
When I was a student nurse I had got to know a dying patient over about 6 weeks of a placement, I had to wheel her down to the discharge lounge as she was going to go to a hospice. I was very fond of her and when I went to say goodbye she grabbed my hand and told me she'd never forget the care I gave her and she'd remember me forever.
I did a small bit of modelling a few times and some of my photos were on a popular page but I wasn't aware they were anything big but when i was at work someone came up to me and said "are you moomooskit?" so i said yes and they told me how beautiful i was and i'd encouraged them to get into modelling. I never really kept it up (my own self esteem issues) but it still meant a lot to me. Hope she did start modelling.
Oh my god Cory - I would do anything to be able to help. You have made me rethink how I speak to my mum about my depression.
I was at a toddlers music/singing type group and had my 3 pre-schoolers with me. Two little ones on my knee, big one sitting cross-legged beside me. We were all singing and joining in but it was always a bit of a struggle esp if baby got grizzly.
Anyway at end of class as we were about to finish another mum told me she thought I was "so maternal"
It sounds a bit strange but I felt it was such a lovely compliment as I genuinely feel being a mum is the best job in the world
These are wonderful. I've gone all misty eyed.
I've had a few lovely things said to me but the one that sticks in my mind is when I was confiding in a wise friend how worried I was about teenage ds - mental health, school exclusion problems etc., all while dealing with a life threatening illness of my own. She said "It's tough just now but he will be ok, he will get through this, because you are an amazing mother, just the kind he needs."
At my gran's funeral I wore a pair of 6 inch black platform heels as they were the only decent shoes I had... My mam's cousin came up to me, took one look at the heels and whispered "You're nana always wore heels when she was younger. You pull them off as well as she did"
It made me smile and cry at the same time because although my gran helped my mam raise me, I always felt closer to my grandad than her, until that moment. Sine then, I've realised gran and I are scarily (brilliantly) alike
Mine is from almost 20 years ago.
At 15 I had major spinal surgery and wore a body cast for a year. I also moved school directly after the op.
Three years later, when we were leaving school my friend said "You know Yama, I have always admired you. You never once complained about your condition.'
It meant a lot.
I was in the supermarket a couple of months ago, feeling stressed and full of pregnancy hormones. DS (8) had been messing around and generally being a bit of a silly boy, I stopped and gave him a wee talking too - nothing too serious as he wasn't being "naughty" just full of silliness.
Anyway as we moved on I clocked this older lady watching me, then she started to come over. I assumed she was going to tell me I should have been harder but she leaned over to DS and told him "I've been a teacher for many years, and you are a very, very lucky boy. You have a wonderful mum there, she's doing a brilliant job"
DH was very confused when he came back from the loo to find me sobbing my heart out in the shampoo aisle being comforted by this lovely lady and DS.
20 plus years ago when I'd been working abroad as a holiday rep after jacking in a college course and suffering severe depression, a group of us on the ferry on the way home were passing round our passports laughing at the awful passport photos.
Someone looked at mine and said "it doesn't look at all like you...I know why, I've never seen you not smiling!"
It made me realise I'd completely got over the depression, and it's still the nicest compliment I've ever had.
When I was about 8 and super geeky with buck teeth and all sorts (with a super cute and gorgeous sister) my babysitter's Mum said that she could tell that when I grew up I would be a real beauty. It was such a kind thing to say to such an awkward little girl and I will always remember how amazing I felt and also how differently I looked at myself in the mirror afterwards. Also a totally random old lady came up to me on a bus when I had 2 kids under 2 crying and bawling and just said 'you are doing a great job darling, it isn't easy but you are lovely with your kids' I just burst into tears for about an hour afterwards. Bless her!
absolutely love this thread.
One of the compliments that has always stuck with me was my boss of my Saturday job when I was about 16, she was a friend of my mum's and told her that "cheeseandchive is brilliant with people, whenever she talks to a customer she always makes them feel like they're the only person in the room". That meant so much to me and I still remember it if ever I'm feeling a bit glum about not being good at much!
An ex colleague of mine told me it would be very easy to fall in love with me. As I had a huge crush on him it was like music to my ears.
Due to circumstances at the time etc we never took it further but I still think of him fondly nearly 20 years later
So many tears from this thread. Cory I really hope your DD finds the strenght to battle on.
I'm lucky enough to have a great DH that is very kind to me, but apart from him I have had a couple of random things stick in my head that others have said.
A friend was telling me about a new girlfriend and how much he liked her. He said that she was "a keeper" because "she's just like you Taking, you could take her anywhere and into any different situation and you know she'd be fine". I was really flattered by that.
And the other is that one of my younger cousins sent me a beautiful letter about a year ago. Her godmother had passed away a year or two before, and in her letter she told me that I was so kind and she loved me so much and would I please be her new godmother. She was 11 years old at the time and her parents told me that it was entirely her idea and she showed them the letter after she had written it and asked them to post it to me. So sweet .
I've brought up my kids on my own, both of their DFs were violent to me and we have always struggled for money. I worked every hour I could and impressed to my DCs how lucky we actually are, because in another age we'd have been in the workhouse or worse.
When my DD was in year 11, I was talking to her history teacher during Parents evening. She told me that "If only I had a class full of PearDaughters, I would be happy".
I walked out of there on a cloud. . It made me feel that everything i had done was worthwhile.
Years later DD admits that at Parents Evenings she carefully steered me into conversations with only the teachers whom she knew would say nice things about her.
However since she is now doing a History degree at Uni she is forgiven!
during last summer a woman working in a shop that i pass on my way to work came out and said to me that I always dressed nicely. she made my day !!
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