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A perfect twin present for newborns and their mum?(33 Posts)
I am looking to get a friend present for their twins, sex unknown to me, I was thinking about a baby carrier (like the baby bjorn but for two) worry that this might only be useful for a short time (3/4 months at a guess?)
Can all mums of twins tell me what their perfect present to help me choose?
Time is the best present ever. I was so lucky to have a neighbour who would come and take the twins for a walk for an hour every week. It was an absolute godsend. I could have a shower or just lie on the sofa in the quiet.
You will be the best friend ever!
food is good too.
Ewan the dream sheep is awesome! We have one and are going to buy another. Totally gets them over the transfer to cot rousing moments.
Extra large play mat - I have this one. http://www.preciouslittleone.com/product-information/11/9846/taf-toys-3-in-1-curiosity-gym/#reviewtab
Food is brilliant - ready to eat meals plus also baking - small chocolate brownies or tray bake type cakes have been great - easy to freeze in small portions and easy to eat/grab when you are ravenous/delirious with lack of sleep!
Small clothes - everyone bought use newborn or 0-3 months and at 4 week sand 7 lbs they are still not really big enough for them. A few little cute outfits are nice to have.
Blankets have all been gratefully received but does depend on the time of year.
I do use a sling but only for one at a time, have a caboo close carrier which is stretchy but partially pre tie pd so easy to use.
Oh, my most used thing is a 650ml sports water bottle. Can knock it over/tuck it into bed and not worr about spills. It's never far from my hand as I get SOOO thirsty.
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don't think the baby carrier would be used that much......as many ladies have already said, the most simple things are really cherished and appreciated! Some friends of ours also came around every other day for a few weeks with food and it was such a great help!
One of the nicest gifts we got were two multicoloured crocheted blankets. We put them over them in the car seats and still use them in the car 16months on! If you are a creative person and if your friend has the appreciation for gifts like this, it would be 'extra special' like you would hope it would be! Best gifts are not always the expensive ones!
tbh, thinking of the meal service still makes me feel slightly emotional - all of those ladies that took time to cook, and deliver hot food each day. The blankets and teddy bears have long gone!
after carrying twins for nearly 9 months, no way did I want to carry them after the birth! I like the car seat blanket idea, but I do have to second that food would have been my number one choice! I was really luck that a church where I attended playgroup arranged a rota of meal deliveries for the first 10 days - it was amazing, and totally unexpected.
I'd look for gift vouchers for a gourmet ready meal service.
I think things that are special like blankets to keep, I really wanted to choose myself.
I used a moby wrap myself but I don't think I'd buy one as its a personal preference and something you'd want to try yourself.
Honestly, we got loads of blankets and coats and suits and things because people were trying to be practical. I ended up using the everyday things and trying to mind handmade things. Because we didn't get out much, the handmade thoughtful things never got used.
I still think you should get the wagon!
I don't know any double sling users here either - wouldn't have worked for my two I dont think as they liked very different sling positions
and also puked for Britain
Yep really, don't know anyone with a wrap.
Lots of people have ergo / beko / mei tai things so can carry one each but I seriously have never met a twin mum with a wrap. Its pram city round here
A handheld Dyson. They won't be babies forever!
Hmm I wouldn't buy a wrap. Think that would be something that she may want to try out herself at a sling library as it looks pretty tricky to me. I don't know a single twin mum who uses a wrap and I know about 30 through multiples club
Food is always good and if you're not a cook or baker we got a couple of lovely tins of biscuits. Think one was Daylesford and I still remember how good they were!
Other thought is a version of something that is nice but is really a bit pricey if you need two. I love my cuddledry apron towels (and some smaller Mothercare ones we were also bought) and our Sophie the Giraffe teethers are popular too. However things like this are a bit hard to justify buying yourself so were lovely gifts.
This is how I usually do it.
A wrap is basically a long bit of cloth. Moby I think is probably the best known wrap but that is a "stretchy". They're good beginner wraps because they're easy to pre-tie and bit more forgiving of tying imperfections but not so supportive. Wovens have no stretch along the length but generally some diagonal stretch. They're the most versatile option for birth right up to preschool. Soooo many options though, a site like thebabywearer.com will explain far better than I could (and is likely to tempt with many beautiful things)
Sorry for derailing!
Oo what's a woven wrap? As a mum of two, but both singles (is that what they're called!) I had a baby bjorn and loved it so I honestly haven't got a clue.
Extra large play mat, brilliant. Maybe if they're not too pricey I can do carrier and play mat. Another couple are keen to share a present so we could get both? Maybe?
Do you have a link for your carrier?
Thank you all!
The playmat we had looks like its discontinued but this one is about the same size
Agree totally with food or even just eat vouchers. Mine loved their baby swing which was a lifesaver to keep one occupied while I was feeding the other. Not sure if that would be a bit pricy though?
Would also recommend the fleece wraps - one of the most useful, pracitcal things we had. With twins anything that saves time is great, especially when trying to leave the house! We put them in the pram carrycots and was great to be able to just pop babies in and wrap round rather than faff about with pram suits or jackets. When you go inside you can unwrap and leave babies to sleep undisturbed without overheating. Also, they are nice and padded to lay babies down on on the floor when out at groups and things and unable to hold both babies.
X post... Typing one-fingered while feeding as usual!
Another vote for food!
My friend made blankets too, which were extra lovely for being hand made.
Whatever you do, don't buy a twintrexx (and I'd avoid the other twin
crotch danglers carriers too). Fwiw if you're keen on a carrier I regularly carry both my 6 month olds simultaneously in a woven wrap (and other combinations). She might appreciate a stretchy wrap - much less of a learning curve, pop in, pop out... Pop both in together while tiny! Life saver in my book
If you did get a sling don't get a baby Bjorn - get something like a Manducca which lasts for ages. Or a stretchy wrap that you can nestle both in together.
An extra large playmat is a great idea.
What a lovely friend you sound little!
If you're thinking along hte idea of car-seat blankets, I've raved about these before, but one of the best things I bought my twins were these fleece wraps they go in the buggy or in the car seat - and they're a good safety feature in the car because whereas a thick padded suit on the baby will crush and the belt will tighten up, you feed the belt through these. They come in lots of funky colours, and you can use htem to pop the babies down on the floor too.
Food and help was an absolute lifesaver for sure.
Tigger we were given one of htose wagons for their first birthday, they're hilarious!
You sound like a great friend! If you can find one an extra large play mat would be a great. I had to have my twins on two separate mats and would have loved a bigger one where they could have wriggled around together. Oh and your company - it can be really hard getting out and about with newborn twins. Definitely not the sling though!
Thank you all so much....I am already giving my time, helping with the older ds etc and have promised to help every Friday when she has no other help.
So I will think again as the baby carrier sling thing isn't a favourite. But I do want it to be extra special. I was thinking about making car seat swaddling blankets as they're so cosy in cold weather....
My twins are older now, but I do remember the exhaustion that multiple babies bring. Any offers of food, shopping, or general help around the house will be most welcome. Maybe you could make some 'vouchers' as a present and enclose with a card.
The large gooey chocolate cake (with instructions to eat it all ourselves and not give to visitors) was fantastic!
Visitors who just want to sit and cuddle the babies aren't so welcome as those who get the hoover out or arrive with ready meal. One of my friends would come and just mind them for half an hour while I had a shower and hair wash.
If you want to get an actual, physical present, it might be good to let your friend know, and ask her to choose something a bit later on. We were given lots of things we never used when they were newborn.
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