Do you think there comes a point where you're just unemployable/too old for this shit ?

(33 Posts)
Mosman Sun 25-Nov-12 12:07:53

I landed my dream job or so I thought, brilliant company nice people etc.
After less than 2 months the cracks are showing, the CEO has shown her true colours. The MD likes me but I suspect he will sell out and who could blame him it'll be an up hill battle.

I've got to the point after 5 years of self employment, 2 years back in a shit job where I just keep thinking is it worth the heartache of juggling 4 DC's, all the stress and strain it adds to everyones life for what amounts to £20,000 after tax.
We wouldn't starve without it but life would be difficult.
How do you keep going against the tide, is it the bigger picture, the long term gains v's short term pain.
Somebody tell me it's worth it please ?

Mosman Mon 26-Nov-12 11:55:55

We emigrated and I hoped that the job would give me permanent residence but I don't think it makes much difference as DH can get all that without me working. Plus I bought into the company and the person is be reporting to but the truth is he is cow tailing to the bitchy CEO, who to be fair today was actually quite nice.
I suppose I'm worried that the market is quite slow at the moment and my contacts aren't that established yet. It's all timing isn't ?

MarshaBrady Mon 26-Nov-12 13:20:58

Emigrating is a huge thing. I imagine you left all your established contacts and have to start again?

It is really tough. So hard to know. Maybe have a break, you need space to think. I suppose it's good to take into account future promotions too.

Mosman Mon 26-Nov-12 13:26:16

I think I'm going to soldier on for another six months and review things then. The market will either turn for the better in which case it'll be very worthwhile or else we'll be made redundant anyway so that'll solve that.
Thanks for lending me your ears :-)

orangeberries Tue 27-Nov-12 09:35:51

Just wanted to say I also have 4 children (8,6,4 and 3) and I work 3 days. Some days I am exhausted so I can imagine how you must feel.

Childcare should reduce considerably when your 2 year old finally goes to school? So you should see a big difference there.

I am considering setting up something in my 2 days off. If you managed to work 3 days you could always try and revive your business in the time off, unless it's a conflict of interest with the current employment of course!!

Good luck with it all, it is hard.

Mosman Tue 27-Nov-12 09:45:13

We are in Australia so from what I can gather they don't really start school until they are 6, something will have to give before then.
Thanks for the virtual back pat grin

lollystix Thu 29-Nov-12 09:39:15

Hey Mosman - just saying hello. We chatted about year ago now. Just sharing your pain really and saying I am also knackered. 4 kids aged 6 to 1 and also emigrated to NZ 9 months ago and now working FT plus a couple of hours per night once DC in bed - 50 hours a week really. Im earning big money on paper but after nanny and rent its minimal. I'm actually 6 weeks into 2nd role as did first for 4 months and hated it. Didn't love boss and company culture drove me mad. I found new role and whilst ive never worked do hard I am loving the role and the people. The change in company has been so refreshing and I feel like myself again. But I'm just fucking tired to be honest. And being foreign is hard work. People talk about places and cultural things that I just don't have the knowledge on. So hello and I share your pain. I'm in it for the long game to be honest. I can't afford to not work and live where we live. sad

Mosman Thu 29-Nov-12 12:41:46

Thanks lollystix, I'm sure it'll all be worth while but goodness I'm knackered too.
NZ is no cheaper than Perth then ?
I think we'll take advantage of the exchange rate and try and pay off our UK mortgage and revisit the suitation in 3.5 years. At least the sun is shining here eh ?

lollystix Thu 29-Nov-12 18:51:37

Sun shining here which makes life with the kids much easier and the lifestyle here is brilliant for them but we have earns as much yet been so poor. However in a couple of years time it should come good when I have more at school. Glad I'm here though. I figure it probably would have been hard work for very little take home in the UK plus poo weather which means all spare cash spent in costa and soft play

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