I was right the first time

(96 Posts)
FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 06-Mar-13 22:33:25

Yet another thread about not sitting your kids beside the children with SN in school.

I left after the panto thread and was much happier in general but missed a few people so came back.

Wrong decision.

Don't flame me..this is not attention seeking or wanting to be persuaded to stay. I won't. mN is not for me.

Just wanted to say bye to the nice folks, who will know who they are.

And explain why I'm off, in case anyone wonders later.

Adieu thanks

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 06-Mar-13 22:42:03

This post says it all.

"How can it be 'hateful' for a parent to want their child moved away from another child that is disruptive? The child I asked my son to be moved well away from climbs on the table, regularly screams for no apparent reason and gets right up into the faces of other children and screatches. This is her SEN. But you would have to be insane to want your child to be sat anywhere near her."

ThePathanKhansAmnesiac Wed 06-Mar-13 22:45:45

I hid that one fanjo sad. Fucking depressing is all I can say.
There's still more non-cunts than cunts, don,t go.

That's vile! Sorry you feel you have to go.

BIWI Wed 06-Mar-13 22:47:56

Sorry, Fanjo, to see you go sad

foxache Wed 06-Mar-13 22:50:00

There's a lot of intolerance around in general, here and RL. I've learned loads from reading MN, about different types of people, dc and situations I've never experienced, because real people have posted an insightful point of view.

I'm sorry you've reached your limit with intolerant posts and am sad you're leaving - I hope you'll eventually reconsider.

dothraki Wed 06-Mar-13 22:57:51

Fanjo - that is dreadful, here have wine before you go. There are some people on here who are so selfish they simply do not know they are being rude. I know someone else on here who has just left fot the same reasons. Its awful for mums who really need support to get crappy shit.

Sunnywithshowers Wed 06-Mar-13 23:03:38

Sorry Fanjo. There are some cunts on here.

amillionyears Wed 06-Mar-13 23:09:33

After reading the AIBU thread today about a SN child, who's parent has trouble getting her to school on time every day,
YANBU.
It has been a real eye opener.

Also there was a subsequent thread[yes I know MN that it was a thread about a thread], but that one was an eye opener too.

It has transpiried that there are indeed posters who just read an OP. That is it. They have no interest whatsoever in reading an ops subsequent posts, let alone anyone elses.
To them MN is just entertainment.
I was going to ask them further questions, but MN deleted that thread.
And some of the posters on that thread have been on MN for a long time.

I have no idea why they act and behave the way that they do.
I was hoping to find out a bit more, and perhaps understand a bit more about their behaviour.

I assume their behaviour like that also spills into rl as well.

thanks

amillionyears Wed 06-Mar-13 23:11:47

I actually do wonder, whether further down the line, that people who behave well will no longer chat on the internet.

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 06-Mar-13 23:38:01

Thanks, to you all, means a lot.

Take care

smile

FamiliesShareGerms Wed 06-Mar-13 23:44:59

amillionyears, I think there will be little ghettos of reasonableness on the Internet (there are plenty on MN but I'm not going to out them here!) where rational, non-bigoted people can hang out but the majority of interaction will be by those less, um, "balanced".

Best thing about anonymous Internet fora =being able to say things out loud that you would never dare say in real life

Worst thing = see above.

Fanjo, I'm really sorry to see you go. Maybe just give it a break and come back but ignore AIBU?

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 07-Mar-13 00:08:41

Have tried that. Thanks for trying though.

Basically that thread makes me feel ill.

Don't need that.

Thanks lots though x

Sunnywithshowers Thu 07-Mar-13 00:08:48

Hope to see you again Fanjo x

I saw that thread and wanted to write something but the rational sometimes just gets lost in the noise. Which is why you should stay.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 07-Mar-13 00:23:55

If every decent person posted the vileness would be lost amongst the sense.

But no one does.

I just get flamed and hurt while everyone ignores it.

It's like the poem about not speaking up until they came for me when there was no one left to speak up.

MNSN posters have said people arguing gives them a bad name and they stay away, lovely women though they are. Their prerogative. I think they'd be quite relieved if I went though, which I have no hard feelings about but it hurts slightly.

I don't get support from MN, to be fair I don't seek it and usually post to chat or give advice to others. Or to try to defend what's right in my eyes.

So I pretty much gain just lots of tears when I read vile stuff about children like my DD, if I post here.

Would you stay?

Even starting to be embarrassed to post.

How bad is that?

Oh Fanjo I'm sorry you feel like that. I know if is incredibly tiring and horrible but one of the reasons MN is good is that the MNSN posters speak up and educate. I know there are people who have thought about their views and changed their minds after reading posts about children with SN.

You know what, even when the thread is long and horrible, in future I will post to support the OP if they are getting a kicking like that poor OP.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 07-Mar-13 00:35:47

It's the other thread about not sitting beside children with SN that really got me.

Anyway, sorry, can no longer educate at own expense.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 07-Mar-13 00:37:31

Especially not when that leads to me being shunned and ignored by many like I am some unstable weird person.

Not so rewarding.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 07-Mar-13 00:39:06

Anyway I'm gone. dD will be up any minute.

Take care thanks

VicarInaTutu Thu 07-Mar-13 00:41:33

fanjo - hide AIBU. just hide the whole fucking topic. dont educate at your own expense - just come here for light relief, chat and laughs. hide the shit.

and now i need to take own advice....
DS has AS.
and have you seen on me the police bashing threads? i may as well hit my head against a brick wall....i take things personally too.

but dont go eh? you probably do way more educating and good than you realise. dont let the bastards grind you down.
have a brew

hide AIBU

Can I just add SW threads as well? However, if it was about my DD rather than about me, I can only start to imagine how furious and impotent I would feel.

Take care Fanjo and Vicar for that matter. I like both of you on here.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 07-Mar-13 00:46:23

It's too late.

Am honestly embarrassed to post now.

The resolute ignoring while I get upset or flamed doesn't exactly make me feel like a welcome poster IYSWIM

Thanks though smile

VicarInaTutu Thu 07-Mar-13 01:19:17

oh fanjo - i didnt see you post but ive just posted. i havent been on here much today at all.

dont go over this eh? most people are decent. That majority just havent posted.

you know full well that kids with sen will always get these type of prejudices held against them - DS is 21 now. he hangs out with a russian student at uni....he accepts him as he is. they are like two little old men...they go for a pint and a pie at the pub at tea time and then go home....grin

our kids find their way. they negotiate through the idiots. its a skill we should learn! even on forums! smile

MissBlennerhassett Thu 07-Mar-13 01:20:44

What a shame that you've been made to feel so shitty. I'm afraid I'm quite the lurker normally but wanted to say I'm sad to see you go. I often wish i had your guts and that goes for you too Vicar and Mrs TP. Take care Fanjo thanks

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