would ad's help with grieving and pnd?

[Dunnyjo]

I know i have pnd and i will be going to the docors to talk to them about it, but i was depressed before i had my ds (4wks ago)as i am trying to come to terms with my mum who died suddenly 5 mths ago, would ad be the answer now because i need some serious help, i am a walking wreck and have ds1 aged 2 and baby. I am doing fine looking after them but my head is so messed up. I want to scream/cry/shout every wakin moment of the bloody day. I do have moments where i am ok and think i am doing fine but these more bad days are now every day.

[WigWamBam]

Ads would help, yes - but they are not always the whole answer, and you could probably use some bereavement counselling as well. Please see your GP as soon as you can, you don't have to suffer like this.

[bundle]

dunnyjo, you need to go and see your doctor to get a proper assessment to see what would suit you best - there's a difference between being depressed and and being sad.

do you get help with the children? it does sound like hard work, even if you didn't have the grief from your mum's death to deal with.

[Dunnyjo]

I have no idea about depression nor ad's but i was just assuming this is what they would give me. I have loads of help from dh when he comes home from work, just find getting up every morning and getting on with each day. I cant go out because i cant bring myself to go out the door. It scares me which i dont understand. I suppose the doctor will go through it with me and work out what i should do. I cant and do not want to live like this anymore. Sometimes i am so angry that my mum has left me and stupidly i find myself looking for the phone to call her for her to tell me what i should do.

[bundle]

dunnyjo, not getting out probably makes it all feel worse, but I can well understand how you can get into that cycle. do try and see the dr asap, xxxx

[foxinsocks]

dunnyjo

go and see a GP and ask for bereavement counselling - it can be really helpful

if you are genuinely frightened of being outside your home, have you looked at agoraphobia ? Just reading what it is and how it is a manifestation of severe anxiety might make you feel a bit better.

You've had a lot going on and it's no wonder that you're feeling low.

[wilbur]

Dunnyjo - lots of good advice here - counselling is very helpful to help you just vent when you need to or just sit there and cry (Never enough time for a good weep when bbabies have to be fed, changed etc etc) I know so well what you are feeling, it's terribly hard to deal with grief and loss as well as with a young family. Anger, sadness, all you describe is totally understandable. My mother died before I had childremn, but when ds1 arrived I felt her loos so keenly, all over again, and then my father died when dd was 9 weeks old. 3 years (and another baby!) on, I have come to terms with a lot of loss, and life is looking up. I had help along the way, but not enough - so talk to your GP and find some counselling or short-term drugs to help you through this terribly sad time. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Dunnyjo]

Thankyou for your posts,I am sorry for your loss Wilbur, what an awful thing to go through losing both your parents.
I am going to make an appointment with te doctor and get some help. I had a long chat with dh last night and i know this is not going to change over night. He has been really supportive and listened while i just pored my heart out.
I dont know if its going out that scraes me or being on my own. I just worry i will crumble and break down if i were to go out. Not very good for socialising which is devestating becuase i am 24 and should be trying to enjoy, especially bq invites which i seem to turn down every time. I know this will just rule my life if i let it.

[wilbur]

Just checking if you are around, dunnyjo - how are you feeling?