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Can't take any more

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CKMUM · 05/06/2006 12:43

I thought it was too good to be true when he just diappeared for a while. I have posted on here before about going to womens aid and have never managed, either he ahs stopped me leaving, followed me or the children have got chicken pox or whatever.

I wondered why my Income support stopped. Found out he had been claiming JSA, told DSS he had moved back with me, so we have to have joint claim now, i told them i didnt want to go on joint claim as we werent togtehr, but they said I had to as I would no longer be able to claim on my own. My tax credit had stopped and was told it would take 4 weeks to make fresh claim and I was in debt anyway, as I have had unexpected expenses and bank charges. At least going on the claim with him meant I would get some money.

However, they needed documents which it took me a while to find, so JSA will be delayed and I'm not sure he'll give me any money anyway. Tax credits have to be applied for jointly now and when they receive the form, it takes them 3 weeks to receive it on their system apparently. And then another 2 or more weeks to issue payment.

When I separated from him before it was 6 weeks before I got child benefit, IS or CTC and I was living off money borrowed from relative and he is broke now so cant help anymore.

Now he is being horrible again and making me cry constantly, I can't manage to enjoy my children and I want to get away but no money to do it with now. I could just about pay for train fare but don't think I could cope with womens aid. I am exhausted now and they are very few ground floor rooms with womens aid and I'm no good keep coming up and down stairs to use the kitchen etc

I don't have any relatives or friends who are willing to put me up and feel so vulnerable with no money

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JackieNo · 05/06/2006 13:06

CKMUM, so sorry to hear thisSad - bumping for you, hopefully someone might have some suggestions.

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SabineJ · 05/06/2006 15:39

CKMUM
You seem to be in a very very difficult situation.
As I never have been in a situation like this before, I am not really sure what is actually available. Have you tried to contact helplines like parentline or your hv ? They shold be able to direct you towards the very persons that will be able to help, on the financial point of view until get the benefit you are untitled to or to find somewhere to live.
Unfortuately, I don't have anyother suggestions but I coma accross something, I will keep on posting.
Good luck !!

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nicnack2 · 05/06/2006 15:44

i think you should try womens aid or contact duty point for social services asap and then should be able to give you some sort of immediate finacial help and advice as to what you can do.

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nicnack2 · 05/06/2006 21:56

r u ok??

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Lainey6 · 06/06/2006 01:01

CKMum

Excuse me for not knowing the whole story here. Can you not just tell him to leave? Would you not be better off without him? Why does he not work? If you were desperate then you would go to Womans Aid. I have known people in this kind of situation. If you tell me more then maybe I can give you some advice.

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