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I think i need somebody to hold my hand

(19 Posts)
starshaker Wed 13-Feb-13 13:08:46

A few months ago i reported a rape that happened years ago. Today the police are accessing my medical records to determine the date of the rape. They said they are speaking to him this week.

Feeling quite anxious and nervous.

SnowyMouse England Wed 13-Feb-13 13:10:17

Hugs starshaker, it must be very difficult for you.

starshaker Wed 13-Feb-13 13:27:29

Thank you. Its hard. Im scared im gonna bump in to him or everybody will know about it and think im lying. I just need to take it day by day knowing that im doing the right thing for me even if it is difficult

amillionyears Wed 13-Feb-13 14:11:23

I will hold your hand too [hugs]

starshaker Wed 13-Feb-13 19:12:47

Thank you

amillionyears Wed 13-Feb-13 19:16:10

Have you told anyone in rl about it?

You dont have to answer anything you dont want to btw.

starshaker Wed 13-Feb-13 19:20:48

Yeah family know but i dont want to talk about it much incase they think im trying to be dramatic, is that the right word? Does that make sense?
Im the type of person that acts like everything is fine even when im falling to pieces inside. As long as i look like im coping when i see people i can fall apart as much as i want when im alone (which is most of the time)

amillionyears Wed 13-Feb-13 19:25:06

I would very much hope they wouldnt think you were being dramatic.
But you know your family, and we dont.

Have the police offered you any type of support? But perhaps it is too early for that, I dont know.

starshaker Wed 13-Feb-13 19:28:38

No not been offered anything. Was having counseling which is what gave me enough courage to report it but ive now moved so dont have my counselor anymore. Did think about going to the doctor again to ask to be referred but after the response i got when i went asking about losing weight i really dont think its worth it

amillionyears Wed 13-Feb-13 19:39:43

Have you moved far?
I dont know anything about counselors, but I would imagine that one that someone clicks with is important.

You could see another GP. In my general experience of GPs, they are all a bit different to each other.

starshaker Wed 13-Feb-13 19:46:48

There is 2 gps at the surgery and both as bad as the other. No other surgery will let me registrar cos im not in their area..

Ive moved 6 hours away.

I cant afford to pay for a counselor my self because im not working.

amillionyears Wed 13-Feb-13 20:05:20

oh heck re GPs.
That is one of the things that has astounded me on MN.
The amount of people who only have access to a surgery with a tiny amount of GPs.

In that case, I suppose you would need to see one of them about accessing a counsellor, and hope he/she is ok about it.
I dont know if they are allowed to say no. I wouldnt have thought so, but I dont know.

Oopla Thu 14-Feb-13 03:36:52

In my area you can self refer for counselling if you google your local health authority and their mental health services it may come up.
You call for an initial assessment appointment then go onto the waiting list. I would think that the police or their support services would have some sway on getting you some help though too.
Well done for reporting. Very brave of you x

SnowyMouse England Thu 14-Feb-13 08:19:10

Your local services should be here

starshaker Thu 14-Feb-13 09:56:26

Im in scotland. I did some googling and have sent an email off to a charity. Will just need to wait for a reply

SnowyMouse England Thu 14-Feb-13 10:04:30

Fingers crossed for you!

Oopla Thu 14-Feb-13 10:13:59

Fx (())

amillionyears Thu 14-Feb-13 10:25:04

Good.

starshaker Thu 14-Feb-13 12:16:27

they have put me on the waiting list. Should be about 6-8 weeks

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