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Anyone ever been on a mother and baby unit?

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feeno · 15/09/2012 21:11

I just thought I'd ask. The people looking after me suggested I go to a mother and baby unit after DC2 is born (due in 4 weeks).

They suggested 2 weeks there. I have no idea what happens there. I had severe PND with DS1 and have had terrible AND with this pregnancy and as a result have really not bonded with the baby in my belly at all.

They think it will help me to bond when baby gets here.

Anyone had any experience of spending time at such a unit at all? Positive or negative experience? Would live to hear from anyone who can tell me anything about such places.

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villagelife92 · 15/09/2012 21:33

Hiya i have no personal experience but i had a friend who went into a mother and baby unit after she suffered from PND, i think there are different types/ set ups but the one she went to she lived in an annex to the main house. She had someone around all the time to help but also respected her and the baby's privacy. I'm sorry I don't know much more other than she found it really helpful to have someone who was there when she was struggling and reassure her when she was down. She stayed there for about three months. Smile

TeamEdward · 15/09/2012 21:36

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Elkieb · 15/09/2012 21:45

I work in mental health, in Leicester it is part of the main mental health acute unit but separated from the main ward. It is excellent. Please go and allow yourself to be supported whilst you bond with your baby. ?

NotTheDaddy · 16/09/2012 08:23

Thanks everyone. Username change here by the way. Elkieb, I'm planning to go and have a look at the unit here. I'm just so nervous about being way from my DH and DS and being alone with a newborn I'm completely terrified of.

TeamEdward, sorry for what your mum went through-but I'm guess all turned out fine in the end? Is everything ok with your mum now? And you obviously weren't affected for the worse by it. I'm really anxious about the psychosis occurring to be honest.

villagelife92 I hope your friend is better now-I'm so glad to hear she got the support she needed.

A part of me wants to give it a shot but Im so scared of being alone there with the baby.

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NotTheDaddy · 16/09/2012 19:51

Goodness me! Poor you and your mum! Sounds horrific! I'm so glad she got well.

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NotTheDaddy · 17/09/2012 12:21

I'm glad things turned out ok for you and your mum. Thank you for sharing. (I'm the OP by the way-change of username)

NotTheDaddy · 17/09/2012 15:23

I'm seriously considering agreeing to be transferred to mother and baby unit after birth. If anyone else can share their experiences or knowledge of this, I'd be very grateful indeed.

NotTheDaddy · 17/09/2012 19:53

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JoyFriday · 17/09/2012 21:06

Hi, i was in a unit for a couple of months after my first ds. I had puperal psychosis and found the mother and baby unit a really safe space to get well. The staff were all really helpful, they helped me care for ds, bathing, feeding ect. He slept in the nursery for the first few weeks so i could catch up on sleep and they made sure i could eat my meals by holding ds for me at mealtimes. I was lucky as it was in a lovely part of the countryside so i'd take ds out for walks when i felt more confident
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I was very nervous going in but really couldnt have stayed at home any longer as i was so unwell. As its all set up for mums and babies im sure your ds1 will be able to visit you if thats what you want. I had my own room and took in duvet, stereo from home and bits for ds. Once ds was out of the nursery he had a cot in my room. As i got better staff would let me just get on with my day but theres always people on hand when you need them.

Hope this helps, am around if youve any other questions x

Scheherezade · 17/09/2012 23:12

My DS is almost 1, I went in for 2 months when he was first born, and 3+ months when he was 5mo.

What questions do you have? Your experience there will depend on your illness, issues/needs. My experience varied according to the severity of my illness, and what help I needed at the time. For instance when I was v.ill I wasn't allowed my baby, I was very, very unwell and don't remember much of it. When I was better, it was more practical help and support from staff and we could come and go whenever.

NotTheDaddy · 18/09/2012 12:08

Thanks joy and scheherezade.

I just wanted a bit of reassurance really. I'm very nervous about it but if it means I'll be safe and supported its probably for the best.

I hope you're both doing ok now.

DogsCock · 18/09/2012 12:12

I once worked in one. It is absolutely lovely. Gentle and encouraging staff. Relaxing, so you get plenty of rest and help with baby. And off you go when you feel back to normal. They are a godsend to many new mums.

NotTheDaddy · 18/09/2012 12:48

Thank you for sharing that. I will be needing the support i think. Interesting username you have there! Grin

Scheherezade · 18/09/2012 18:53

Its not a scary or clinical environment at all. My ward has a patients kitchen which is always stocked with tea, coffee, bread, juice, cereals, jam/butter, biscuits, cake slices and fruit. You can just help yourself.

It all depends really. If its quiet, how many other mums/high needs patients they have in. My second admission I was the only patient there, so lots of 1:1 time, by the end the ward was full.

If your levels allow (I.e. you don't need constant supervision) you are allowed to leave the ward during the day as you want. There are twice weekly meetings with the doctors.

It can get boring, especially if you're not allowed to leave, so take stuff to keep you occupied.

As with anywhere there are good and bad nurses, I would advise being clear in your care plans (that they should write with you) what support you think you need from staff.

My ward is apparently one of the leading/largest in the UK, and it only had 6 rooms, so its not teaming. A lot of mums get a lot of leave so they're not around. As you get better they increase your leave so you end up only going in once a week for the drs meeting. They don't (or didn't for me) discharge you suddenly, its a loooonnnng process.

My first admission I was only really in for a couple of weeks, got a lot of help with breastfeeding then had lots of leave. I deteriorated lots and was readmitted, and was on level2 (constant obs, nurse with you at all times) for quite a while- not really sure how long as its all a bit hazy. Then I started getting better due to being forced to stop breastfeeding and starting medication. Leave was increased, my partner would pick me up on his way home from work, I'd sleep at home, then go back in the morning, he'd drop me off on his way to work.

I'd advise taking your own (single) bedding in.

NotTheDaddy · 18/09/2012 19:54

So would you take your baby backwards and forwards as you went on leave? That would have meant carting all the baby's things backwards and forwards too I'd imagine?

Sorry for lots of questions.

NotTheDaddy · 18/09/2012 19:56

Sorry, I wasn't very clear above. What I meant was, would you go home at night with the baby and then bring baby back again with you in the mornings or did the nursery nurses take care of the baby at night for you?

Scheherezade · 18/09/2012 20:50

Yes baby came with, but it wasn't that much stuff needed to take for overnight. Obviously I had clothes for him at home still, the ward has sterilisers so I only needed to take a couple of bottles back and my tub of milk. I had nappies at home and hospital. Obviously he went to bed soon after we got home, woke up in the morning, had a bottle then drove back to the ward. We both had breakfast on the ward.

So there wasn't much to carry at all. Underwear for me maybe, but I had lots at home as I'd not taken everything in with me! I could change once I got back to the ward. The ward has a laundry room with washer, dryer and ironing facilities open to patients to use whenever.

Once when I was really ill they let my DP take the baby to MILs for a weekend so I could have a break. But I don't think that is often done, my CPN suggested it.

Scheherezade · 18/09/2012 20:55

As in, I'd feed (7/8mo so weaning) baby dinner, DP would pick us up. DS would have bath, bottle, clean vest & sleepsuit, bed.

So I think I only took-

2x bottles
Tub of milk (or have 2, leave one at home)
Vest
Sleepsuit
Sleeping bag
Monitor
His soft toy comforter thing
Meds

I used to get showered/changed once back on the ward.

Scheherezade · 18/09/2012 20:59

Sorry multiple posts as things pop into my head! I was only able to stay at home overnight after I had been in a while and they were happy I was improving etc.

They seem to be happy with day leave, but not overnight. Even though DS was difficult in the day but slept through at night so it was day, not night support I needed. Eventually we got them to realise this and they allowed it, but only because I have a v.supportive DP and came back first thing (7am).

Izzybuzzybuzzybees · 19/09/2012 17:15

I was admitted to an MBU for 4 weeks when I had my daughter a few years ago.

As the pp said they are generally well equipped and the staff are well trained a dealing with mums and babies.

Mine had 6 bedrooms, 4 bathrooms, two with a shower, 1 with a bath. Kitchen, dining area, lounge with tv and baby bottle prep kitchen. Also had a family room with toys etc for babies.

Ideally I wouldn't have been there but it was a necessary evil as I suffered from puerpural psychosis

NotTheDaddy · 20/09/2012 13:35

Thanks everyone. I feel reassured that an MBU will probably be best place for me as I really am not very well at all.

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