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My 4 year old daughter is about to start school in sept. There is another Aimee (also spelt the same) starting in the class. I don't want her to be called by her first and last name right through school, so I was going to put her in with her first and middle name...so Aimee Lauren, so that she is different.
i have asked her about her thoughts and she she seems ok with it,
Anyone else have this problem or have a solution?
T
thanks

I have this and got a mothers days card from ds and his intials of his surname, we thought it was funny though, His friends call him by his full title aswell

Although I did think it would bother me before he started school

We have 2 boys with the same name(lets call them James). They are known as James B and James D, neither seems to mind.

I'd not worry about it tbh. My dd is Chloe, and there are two others in her class. It has never created a problem.

for a good while ds thought his name was actually ds last initial instead of just ds - 3 of his name in the class! he has grown out of it now (y6 )

dd1 and 2 also have a "twin" in their classes - don't worry about it

Ds went to a party yesterday. 5 Sophie's were there. I just asked how they differentiated between them. Ds says that they are known by their first name followed by the first letter of their surname.

Another one here whose DS always got the surname initial tagged on the end - they seem to cope fine. But if you want her to be "Aimee Lauren" in full, and she's happy with it, then put that down on the form and have her teacher put it on her peg etc. I don't think they often use full surnames as well as first names, the surname initial is usually enough to separate them.

I think you may have to resign yourself to it.

Does she have a nickname?

Yes my dd2 is RachelT at school, there is also a RachelD in her class. Doesn't bother her though she has recently started writing her full name on everything (now she has learned to spell her middle name!)

I was one of 4 with same name at primary... so was my brother, guess our parents went for popular names.
name and initial of surname seems pretty common, two girls at DSs preschool have to be called by name & surname as initial letters are same as well.
I think there are 2 or 3 Amiee/amys in that group as well as 2 Madisons, 2 Eds, 2 Billys, 2 Jacks, 2 Sams.

My DS1 has 2 Jack's in his class - however he thinks they are called:
Jackr
Jacka

He thinks these are all valid names in themselves and not at all linked to the name Jack.

I think you should put her in by her normal name.

There are 3 lots of double names in my son's reception class and it really isn't a problem. The kids like it.

We have ended up with Anna Smith and Anna 'Polish' (invented names, but you get the idea) in DD1's class, so your solution is definitely an improvement on that.

There are three girls with the same name in a class in DS2's year.

Two of them are known by their 2nd name too - so it's Ellie, Ellie-Mae and Ellie-Grace. Seems to work OK.

In DS1's there are three boys with the same name, one is known by the full name, one by a common abbreviation and the other by a nickname from his surname! I suspect it has evolved as they are in yr 6 now.

plumbum a friend of mine has a Tom and his friends, when round at his house (where he is the only Tom lol) tend to call him by his full name too!

I am a primary teacher and while it's no lasting problem it does make me smile when there are wee folk who think their whole name is SamR or SamD etc. Also the other children call them this too! But they soon figure it out. Depends if you want her to be forever known as that i think.

I have 10 girls in my class, three are called Jessica! One of them quite likes Jess but I can never remember which one it is So I just call out Jessica and someone answers! Thankfully it is very easy to distinguish their handwriting so I never get their work confused, but the wrong one has occasionally ended up in the wrong place at the wrong time!

We have 3 boys of same name in our (very very small) school. Two also have the same surname initial. So now we have
James A, Big James D and Little James D.

I must admit I am not very keen on the Big and Little prefix.
DD was at pre-school with a girl who had the same name as her as the children called them BigF and LittleF. I didn't like it, probably cos I was always very tall at school and was teased a bit about it.
She has now moved onto school and she is the only one in her whole school with her name so no problem now.

Big James is Year 5 and Little James is in Reception, so it's not really a case of singling them out for "size" attributes. Big James D is literally twice the size of Little James D!!!

Oh I see, that's ok then.

Just made me feel that my DD was some giant hefalump, when in actual fact che was just taller than average and the other child was shorter than average

Thanks very much for all ur coments..I'm new to this site as of today.

Sometimes it's great to get the opinion of those who totally know what you mean without knowing you at all! IYKWIM!?

I think I will see how DD wants to take it ... I have asked her if Name plus initial or name-middle name and she seems to be leaning toward the 2nd.

Me and DH do call her the latter often but we also call her Aimes so I think I will let her decide.

My son who is 8 was the only Charlie for years then a girl! of all things joined the class with the same name...he was most put out ... and asked if we could all start calling him by either his nickname or his middle name.

He's fine now but because of his experience I'm trying to put if off happening to DD, and of course feel responsible for the fact that we didn't call him Horatio (as we had joked) or her... Santa-Tarzan (as her brother has requested!) no double up in class with those eh?
MB

DS is Benjamin and there are also four Bens in his class. And he is close friends with 2 of them .

They are known as Ben L, Ben G, Ben S and Ben surname (which also starts with S). They have staggered entry and Ben S got there first so seems to have got the initial.

Our surname starts with a T. This is a slight contributory factor to DS not being called Ben T as he would be BenT

Ben S's mum will call Ben S at him to get his attention which does make me a bit.

It might be worth bearing in mind how often she will have to write her name in reception and how confident she is at writing to start with? Aimee + surname intial might be easier for her?

If you call her Aimes, why don't you suggest that to the school? My children's school has a section for name, and also a section called "known as" on all their forms.

Some are "known as" nicknames if they have common names. The teachers, as well as the pupils use the "known as" names. One of dd's classmates is called JoJo, another Smithsy.

Noah, dd has a Ben, a Benjamin, A Benji, a Benjy and a Benjamin known by his surname in her year .