Co-parenting subtopic

[ElliePhant28]

I'm trying to get mumsnet to add this to the site because there comes a point in divorce/separation where it's not about the divorce any longer.

Co-parenting and juggling the negotiations that go with it are difficult. It's a place to share tips because this goes on for a few decades. Does anybody agree it's a good idea?

Yes absolutely agree

Yes absolutely agree. It’s hard work co parenting and a board on that would really help me and many others as it’s very common and problems are very common.

yes sounds really helpful!

Totally agree @Upsetswimmer I didn't know where to post because it's not about the divorce. That's way past.

And it's not about single parenting. It's a by-product of divorce and goes on for much longer. There are posts all the time that fit the category. It would be so helpful to be able to flick through them.

I agree. Would be helpful

I agree too

Yes I also agree, would be a useful addition to the board

Yup

Gets my vote

Yes, I agree.

Agree. I'm still getting divorced but given how dreadful it has been so far I imagine the coparenting bit is going to be a nightmare.

I wouldn't post any topics like that on aibu as you always get a pile on from people who are not in that situation and just want an opportunity to be smug and virtue signal about how well they'd behave if it was them. So ur would be nice to have a collection of people who are going through the same.

Yes fully agree with this addition as a sub topic.

I would find very helpful too

Great idea

Another vote from me

Totally agree.

I would like/ need this in my life! Otherwise we have to use lone parents and I feel bad for the truly alone lone parents who wish they had any respite at all

Yes I agree

I think it goes both ways. I would genuinely prefer to have no respite rather than the miserable existence we currently have under the thumb of my narcissist ex-husband. Lone parents might not be able to appreciate the relative freedom from not having to coparent with someone dreadful.

@peacocksuite absolutely I often feel like this about my child's father when he attempts to bully me

And sadly co-parenting with someone dreadful is a common occurrence, so a topic for it would be helpful.

@Unexpectedlysinglemum dreadful isn't it. Sending you solidarity, you're not alone in feeling like this.

@ColourByNumbers88 yes I expect that there are personality types that are more likely to cause family breakdowns and subsequent misery in the aftermath of divorce. I just wish that the courts in this country recognised this more. Scandinavian countries are much further ahead in this respect.

@ColourByNumbers88 @peacocksuite

I think there is growing recognition now especially among women's charities that 'parental alienation' is often misused in courts . Scary what can happen in America if this is 'proved' to have happened

Another agree from me.

I've joined the site solely to see if there is any advice from people in the same boat who get 'it' so this sounds like a great idea.