Months on and most people are pregnant so I'm starting a new thread Come and join me if you've been TTC a while or are TTC after pregnancy loss... we've been through it all! Pt 2

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mrsnec Thu 01-Nov-12 06:23:09

HK, Munch, Els, Rach and Tas where are you and more importantly, how are you? Sorry if I forgot anyone. Looking forward to updates!

rachie12 Tue 26-Mar-13 14:55:18

Is anyone pregnant yet? smile x

mrsnec Mon 21-Jan-13 06:19:43

Hi Rachie yes v quiet here. And no good news from me. Hope everyone else is ok. Rachie I was really ill over xmas. Think my weight is causing my fertility issues so sorting that first before we start trying again so for me am all over diet and fitness threads at the moment and not conception ones but lovely to hear from you.

rachie12 Sat 19-Jan-13 16:27:44

Hiya all, not very active on here! hope you had a nice christmas and new year :@) no news here still just plodding along hope everyone is ok and have had some good news to tell xx

mrsnec Thu 03-Jan-13 07:30:03

Hi Munch. Yes I hope you're right about this year. It's very stressy here at the moment. We're also trying to sell our UK house again. It's fallen through 4 times before so both of us very edgy about it & a bit sad as I feel we're giving it away. But if it goes through we'll feel it's less of a burden. I'm not thinking of ttc really at the moment either but I want to keep in touch with everyone! On the positive side I'm quite motivated about the weight thing. I think the key is to not talk about it too much (apart from on here) as lots of people think they're experts! If you find something that works for you, you can stick to it. My doc said cut down on sugar over xmas. I had none of the usual stuff. DM made me a low sugar st clements trifle for Xmas day & I had 1 little tipple of a snowball but I didn't miss pies and cakes at all. Maybe we'll start ttc again when I'm off my meds which I think might be a month or so but I'm not sure if we're supposed to wait until I've shifted all the weight? Hope not! Don't really know what to say about your situation Munch. I suppose you'll only know what's going on once you get to docs but I really hope AF shows up soon and that there's another explaination. Hope eveyone else is ok.

Bumpkinmunchkin Wed 02-Jan-13 13:29:48

Happy new year ladies. Wishing yous all that this is the year your dreams come true.

Mrs, you have been put through the mill these last few weeks. So glad you are coming out the other side. Take everything one step at a time. Your mil is still in rare form I see!!! Well I most certainly will join you on the weight loss buzz as I put even more weight on over the crimbo!!! In ttc land just decided to forget about it all. Still no sign of AF and prob on cd60 now. Think I will have to go to doc at some point and investigate if I am starting menapause and sort it out once and for all.

Great to hear all is going well for you Els.

How is everyone else doing?

mrsnec Wed 02-Jan-13 10:06:39

Hi Els how's it going?, yes Happy New Year to you all too! I'm better now but still got a way to go. Am doing everything for myself again so I'm happy with my progress. MIL is still being a pain her and DM were actualy arguing over my Xmas dinner table over which diet I should be following! She wanted us to go to hers for NYD but I couldn't face it & used my illness as an excuse! Just want to get back to normal now and looking forward to hearing all your news.

elsabel Tue 01-Jan-13 16:55:13

Sorry youve been having such a hard time mrs, are you feeling any better now? Thats very unfair how you mil speaks about you that cant make it any easier. I really hope things look up for you soon and 2013 is a happy one.

Happy new year everyone!

How is everyone else? Hk, munch, mandie? Hope everyone is ok and enjoyed the xmas week! X

mrsnec Mon 24-Dec-12 07:42:27

Hey everyone! Well docs got diagnosis wrong. MRI showed I have post infectious Encephalitis. What happened was a malfunction with my immune system has sent the flu virus haywire in my brain. Been in and out of hospital for 2 weeks. Discharged yesterday after a few days on IV steroids. Back for physio on the 2nd then Nurologist on the 9th. Spoke to my consultant again about the fibroids. She said nothing came up on my later scans. None of the other docs did ever put the gynae referral on my file either. I know what I saw and I googled it. Didn't really look like fibroids. DM wondered if I saw womb lining coming away as I started AF shortly after 1st scan. The other bad news is that my weight issue is loads worse than I thought. Hospital put me on a regime. Delightful MIL still telling everyone I had a stroke cos of my weight and the fact that she thinks I'm bone idle. Doc told me no sugar over Xmas but managed to negotiate a couple of treats. 2 dark choc almonds per day and 1 glass of fizz on crigggy day. Hospital diet will be easy to stick to I'm just going to carry on eating like I was in there. I lost 2.5 KG. Whilst being pumped full of steroids, 3 meals a day and no excercise! I'm wondering if weight is fertility issue but will go to gynae anyway if nothing happens after weight comes down. Am not supposed to ttc on meds but don't want to go on contraceptive think we will just go natural with that. Sorry for doom and gloom. Just an update. Have a merry time one and all! X

elsabel Sun 23-Dec-12 15:34:57

Oh no mrs thats awful poor you. I dont know anything about fibroids, sorry. I really hope you feel better soon and take care of yourself first, ttc when youre better. I hope you have a good bday.

Hope you had a good bday munch, good idea on having a a break from the ttc just concentrate on enjoying xmas with a few drinks!

Hi to anyone else whos looking in xxx

Bumpkinmunchkin Tue 18-Dec-12 22:04:15

Hi all, sorry I haven't been around much. I was celebrating my birthday last weekend. Also our heating packed in so had to organise all that. In ttc. Land no news and still no af. I've decided to forget about ttc til after new year.

Welcome maddie sorry your having a tough time ttc. It's hard watching others get pg and bless your dd praying for a sibling. I don't know about mirena but as els has said ask your gp??

Els glad all is well with you.

Mrs OMG!!!! That's sounds horrific, a stroke?? I really hope you are ok. Yes I remember you had been saying you were not feeling well and had put it down to that cream. Really glad your family came over. Take it easy and yes ttc can wait til you are fully better. But do check up on those possible fibroids when you are able to. I wish you a really happy birthday. Xxxx

HK how are you doing?

mrsnec Tue 18-Dec-12 06:19:26

Hi All and welcome Mandie. Not been here in a while. I ended up in hospital after I was feeling poorly.docs tested me for everything and think I had a mini stroke but don't know what caused it. I am on the mend but need to put ttc plans on hold for a bit. Which I'm gutted about. I had an ultrasound and they showed me my tubes and ovaries are healthy but then they showed me 2 massive fibroids or that's what thought he said and what I thought I saw on the screen. He said he was going to put a gynae refferral on my file.but when I asked my consultant he hadn't done it and she said she didn't see fibroids in the images so I'm confused. Anyone had fibroids. I don't know anything about it. I'm happy with the local hospital here now though and feel more relaxed about getting checked out now. But my meds can't be taken in pregnancy so have to wait till I'm off them to start again. In other news my folks came over to help DH look after me, I had a lovely scottish roomie in hospital which helped as foreign hospitals are very scary and we're going out with her and her family on saturday night for my birthday to my favourite Japanese restaurant in Ayia Napa. Sorry for long post xx

elsabel Sun 16-Dec-12 17:26:43

Just researched it and now feel a bit silly didnt realise its a form of contraception blush . Have you spoken to a doctor to get it checked out?

elsabel Sun 16-Dec-12 17:20:46

Hi mandie, sorry i wasnt ignoring you i just posted that before i saw your post. Welcome to the thread! I am sorry i have not heard of a mirena so cannot really comment on that part right now but will google it so you dont have to go into it all. It must be hard with your sister, i can kind of relate, i miscarried in may and was 2 weeks behind my sister in our pregnancys so when i lost mine it was very difficult for both of us, she had a beautiful boy 3 weeks ago but luckily i am pregnant again which makes it easier (and i love my new nephew!).. but it is heartbreaking watching others have what you want so badly. Anyways...stick around here for hand holding everyone here is great and can offer support x

elsabel Sun 16-Dec-12 17:12:43

Well sorry to hear about you bfn munch your body is either seriously playing games or its too early for a bfp..could youhave ovulated late in your cycle and its still too early to tell maybe? Thats rubbish about your heating! Ours was playing up a few weeks ago, our landlord eventually sent someone round only for the gasman to find the thermostat on the boiler needed turning up..oops we felt very silly! Hope your keeping wrapped up in blankets til tuesday!

Hi to anyone else xxx

mandiecp Sat 15-Dec-12 02:38:46

Hi everyone, im new to the scene. Heres my story, sorry if its long... I've been with my husband for almost 9 years ( been married almost 5 yrs). We have a beautil 6yr old. Who is smart and a smarty pants. She is a mess. 7 months after giving birth. I got on the IUD mirena. After another 4ish years i had it removed. My hubby and i have been trying for 2 1\2 years to conceive another child with no luck. Im starting to worry if the mirena could have caused problems. And now on top of it all my sister has a beautiful 8 1\2 month old little boy, and she told me yesterday that she's prego again.. whil im happy for her and her husband. I'm very much saddened because of how long it is taking me. And on top of that my daughter has started asking for a sibling.. (she even asked santa to talk to god about putting a baby in my belly for christmas) HELP!!!! I dont know what to do.. I need advice..
Signed, saddened

Bumpkinmunchkin Thu 13-Dec-12 22:01:37

Hi els great to hear from you and all is well.

Yes unfortunately we are all feeling a bit low here and need good news.

Mrs I remember your birthday is sometime soon, so hope you have a good one.

HK how did the Xmas party go?

Tas hope you are being looked after.

Afm really enjoyed my Xmas party. Af still a no show and on cd 39 here. Gave up temping as i was getting too stressed about it. Been feeling really nauseas last couple of days with sore boobs and of course got my hopes up but got a bfn on an Ic. Couple that with our heating system is only working upstairs and we have to wait til Tuesday for new one to be installed!!!!

elsabel Thu 13-Dec-12 21:24:21

Just thought id check in and see how everyone is...tas i am so sorry your post brought tears to my eyes. Nothing i say will make you feel any better, just be kind to yourself.

Been browsing through the latest posts..sorry you ladies are feeling down, hope your all enjoying xmas parties. Big hugs to all xxx

Bumpkinmunchkin Mon 10-Dec-12 15:44:33

Really sorry to hear your news Tas. As mrs has said there are no words of comfort really that anyone can say. All your hopes and dreams have been dashed again. Its pure crap that its happened again. Take care of yourself.

mrsnec Mon 10-Dec-12 10:32:57

Just checking in and seen your post Tas I have no words I wouldn't know what to say without it being a cliche. Thinking of you though. Look after yourself xxno news here.

tasjaSAmuminSA Mon 10-Dec-12 10:12:54

hi all, my internet cap was use up. went to gyno the 27th again and saw the heartbeat again. the sack was still on the small side but he said it looked better. stopped the hormone pills cause they only work up to 8weeks. started bleeding on thursday. same as last. not alot. stopped the evening. friday morning at school started again with cramps. phoned gyno. went in immediately. luckily dh was there. no heartbeat again. went in this morning for an evac again. the sac came out on saturday while i was in the shower. so they cant even look to see what the cause was! thIs time i just feel sort of angry. just want to get on with my life. fuck it!

hellokittydrivesmenuts Thu 06-Dec-12 18:12:59

Hey guys- munch you know what will happen give up and you will fall Sod's law and all? Have a great night tonight honey, it's just pAnts this bfn part and being in limbo!
Mrs- sad you and dh came to blows but yay it cleared air and started a new lease of ttc life and also an action plan.
Know what you mean with cold we have snow on a s hook run but at least have a warm house when we get back! Hope you guys don't freeze. Think you may need a onsie ;-)
Bfn again today but no af ! Grrrrrrr my party tomorrow so will have a drink if not here but will go easy!!!
We can all do a health kick New Years res !!! X

Bumpkinmunchkin Thu 06-Dec-12 14:31:21

Ah mrs and hk sorry yous are feeling down also. But it's great to be able to come on here and talk to like minded people. As my friends in rl prob wouldn't understand at all. After all the bfns I just wish AF would start and we could try again.

Mrs sounds like you have made huge progress with dh and esp when he has agreed to go for tests if needed. That's half the battle having him on board. I'm glad you stopped the cream, didn't like sound of side effects. I think with the pre seed just make sure any other brand is sperm friendly. But it def helps us to seal the deal lol!!! I hear you on the cold spell. Single figure temps and no insulation ?? Some of our rads are not working properly do we have someone coming to look at them tomorrow. My other melt down was the extra weight I've gained since mc. It's not that I'm binge eating but not following a plan. So I get down about my clothes not fitting and I hate buying bigger sizes.

Hk how are you feeling today ? Get Xmas out of way and then start your healthier living. You sound like you have a good action plan. For me on other hand I'm sad as we have agreed to pack it in by march of next year so we are fast running out of time. Anyhow enjoy tomorrow night.

mrsnec Thu 06-Dec-12 11:00:54

Hello All onwards and upwards then eh?

HK that is by no means a cheats way out and it's an idea I'm warming too. I now see anyone going down that route as somebody who is taking control. It's a bold and very positive step. Just keep us up to date with it all I was going to ask if the nhs offered any alternatives but you answered that question! FX anyway!
Munch sorry to hear you're feeling low. Must be something in the air. Huge meltdown here last night too. I did a test as I felt so rubbish. BFN. Or at least I think it was! I lost the instructions and couldn't find the manufacturer online. But it's one dark pink line nearest the 'c' side of the window. So DH has barely spoken to me in 3 days. Proper man strop! Turns out he's feeling neglected and thinks I spend too much time online. Anyway long story short I agreed to spend less time online, he's agreed we do need to dtd more but knows not to refuse my advances as me feeling rejected makes things worse! And he's agreed to go for tests if I'm not pg in 2 months. I think I'll extend that to 3 though as our little holiday in Feb is the only thing I have to look forward to at the moment and I don't want to spend it worrying.

Stopped the cream . Didn't think the extra hormones were helping my mood and since the BFN decided I can't be doing any damage.

Still feel ill. Think the flu came back cos I'm run down. Had a go at DH for being so tight with the heating. Think the cod isn't helping. I know it's bad in the UK but here we live in a non insulated concrete box with no carpets or curtains. It's single figures inside the house and it feels baltic!

So sorry for rambling post but that's our plan I think I might get away with trying a bit of pre seed though. Not ordered it yet as I noticed a slightly cheaper one with just as good reviews do you think it's worth a try or does it have to be pre-seed?

Might join you on the health kick. I know I've said that before but MIL has put on all the weight she lost on SW so I've decided to win brownie points by doing loads o SW dishes for Xmas day. They're tee total too (boring old sods) but it means I wont get tempted to over do it. Hope everyone else is ok.

hellokittydrivesmenuts Wed 05-Dec-12 21:49:45

It must have been the night for the low moods, it's uncontrollable hmmmmm? Due o. Tomorrow, another bfn today, but luckily have a plan for new year! Got to make sure eating healthy, no alcohol and all! Maybe you should put together a new year plan? Xx

Bumpkinmunchkin Wed 05-Dec-12 21:41:01

Thanks HK. Had a good cry to dh last night and feeling very emotional today over it all. But your right focus on Xmas party and enjoy. Mine is tomorrow night. Bravo for making your appoint and your not cheating at all. At least now you can relax and enjoy Xmas and know you have a plan in place.

How are you mrs?

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