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1, being unable to book next years holidays, as we don't know if i'll be pg or even have a baby by then

2, not being able to fully commit to starting out on certain things in case you can't cary on

3, waiting for your period

Oh good thread idea! Yes to all yours, esp waiting.

1) getting excited whenever your feel slightly off-colour... only to discover you are not only not pregnant but in fact have a tummy bug/ cold/ random back ache

2) spending a fortune on pregnancy tests

3) not knowing whether it's safe to drink/ live off coffee/ eat blue cheese sandwishes or not for 2 weeks every month

And also,

4) obessing about TTC, and being unable to think of little else!

obsessing, even

Book that holiday. The more inappropriate it is for a pg person or baby the better. You know you'll definitely be pg then and will have to cancel at great expense. So book that expedition to Everest base camp, go on... Tempt fate

5, wondering if you should tell people yout ttc or not

headfairy, you are a bad influence friend

I had been TTC for 6 years when I resigned from my second job in that time. You guessed it, got pregnant whilst on notice period.

7 -the sheer fact that we have abbreviated it to TTC because we talk about it so much for so long the full words hurt too much

Friends getting pregnant so easily and being happy for them

biggest thing pissing me off is not being able to book a holiday

and i don't wantto book it to tempt fate then lose aload of money.

mistle what happened abput your job?

As long as you dont book too far in advance then you can still go on holiday if you're pregnant

All my friends getting pg so easily and mostly not planned just yet.

Not getting on with large building projects/DIY just in case

Not being able to decide on a holiday

Accepted being matron of honour at friends wedding.

Decided to hell with it all and got on and booked things. DD now 9 months, arrived a few days after major building works finished.

i don't think i would have managed a hol when g with dd, i had HE

less although i did feel less sick when i got to 20 weeks plus

carriedababi the more money you spend on a holiday and the more inappropriate it would be if you were pg, the more likely you are to be pg when time comes for that holiday....tis the rules of ttc

I had a weeks heli skiing booked when I got pg with ds after 18 months of trying. Heli skiing FFS!

lol at heli skiing

i'm going to the snow dome in mk on saturday
on the hottest day of the year

well i'll be on day 10 on saturday, so this months mission will commence then!
poor old dh

so what sort of holiday would you reccomend?
perhaps a safari adventure, with a hot air balllon ride and a bit of white water rafting....

<slips off into a dream.>

I think the heli skiing wins it that really made me laugh! If there is one thing you really shouldn't do pregnant that is it! I really want to go skiing this year put it off last year because we were trying but still not pregnant can guarantee if we book it I will definitely get up the duff. The being unable to plan drives me bonkers! Why can't you just decide to get pregnant and it happens!

Ok, 11 months in and nothing to show for it.. I add to the list,

Not being able to see if there is a shadow of a line on crummy tesco test, prising it open only to splash my own wee in my face.

Not knowing if it will ever happen.

Awaiting my period. Which, in spite of teasing, always comes.

Finding out that friends are pregnant and it was an 'accident'. Finding out friends are pregnant after trying for ages and still feeling jealous and then feeling ashamed at said jealously.

Waiting in the queue at fertility unit in-between heavily pregnant beaming couples.

Not being able to jump up after shagging and go for a wee.

Feeling guilty about wine consumption.

Hating the pregnant woman on the folic acid tub.

Telling people and the wishing I hadn't.

People asking 'so when are you planning to have kids?'

I could go on for pages. I'm sure that when the day comes, it will all fade into a distant memory. I never thought it would be this hard tho. Comfort from folks who got there in the end much appreciated!

We tried for 2 years - like poster above, finally got pregnant during notice period after resigning from work.

Bearcrumble - I think resigning was the deciding factor - either that or having the date set to start IVF during the next cycle.

florin I did go skiing in the end, we pushed it back a bit so I was past the first trimester, and I knocked the heli bit on the head. I was 15 weeks pg and spent most of the time drinking hot chocolate in various sunny ski bars

This is really sad . I know it's really patronising and you probably want to tell me to fuck off, but I really do feel for anyone ttc. I know you probably don't want to hear another story, but I wept the day my friend told me she was pg with her third. I'd been ttc for 18 months and af had just arrived yet again. My pregnancy with ds was dated from that date because it was the last period I had for nearly 2 years!

headfairy not patronising, it means a lot to hear of people that get there in the end! I think once you hit the year mark it starts to feel worrying and bleak. So nice to know that some people just take a bit longer.

I've booked 2 holidays for next year...one 6 months from now and one in 8 months time. If fate is indeed the cunt that I suspect it is, then I should be guaranteed to be pg and we'll have to cancel and lose a small fortune.