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He was old, I'll but was up a ladder pruning a fruit tree, fell off and sustained a bad head injury, only my db was able to get to him in time at hospital. Feel numb and empty, I am here with my mum.

Just an awful awful day of not being able to get anywhere fast enough.

Haven't eaten since yesterday lunch time Feel sick and can't swallow need to be strong

That should say ill

Sorry for your loss. What a terrible shock for you all.

Just want to go home and pretend it hasn't happened, can't imagine how I will have the strength for today

So sorry to hear of your loss, often losing a parent is especially difficult too as it can highlight how your role in the family has changed. It must have been a terrible shock too, despite his age... so glad your brother could make it there in time to be with him.
Your mum is lucky to have you and your brother, are there any more family members able to help offer you all support? Please try to eat something, even if it's just something liquid like soup or yoghurt at first. It will become harder to eat the longer you leave it and make your mood worse if you don't and, as you said, you need to keep your strength up.
Thinking of you

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss. Will be thinking of you and your family today.

Thank you having a sweet cup of tea before we get up to face the day.
So weird to come home to see his breakfast dishes still on the table and slippers by the door.
He was found unconscious by the postman, my mum was 200 miles away babysitting for me and dh it's our 10 th anniversary, it was all so stressful, so much adrenaline

So sorry to hear of your loss. Be kind and gentle with yourself,and remember that however you feel at any given minute it is ok to feel like that.
Try and eat something, anything.
Thinking of you
x

Say a little prayer for me to cope with it all. Sister was in Los Angeles on business so had to break news to her, she will arrive later today.
Other sis in oz is in a bad way, other db is in Spain.

Will say a prayer for you.

xx

Oh, kingfisher, what a shock for you all for it to happen in those circumstances, on what was a joyous occasion.
Bananas are good if you can manage one.

Oh no, what's a horrible shock for you all. Things will seem unbelievable and shocking for quite a while.

Things like shoes, handwriting, clothes.. So poignant and sad.

Everyone deals with it in different ways

Wen I look back n my DF's death, eight years ago, sudden too, family gathered from all corners and I look back on it as an incredibly sad time but also a time when we were all there together.

Take your time over everything. The grief didn't hit me properly for six months. Before then it was just shock.

I am sending lots of strength and brightness for the days ahead. Saying a prayer for you.

So sorry for your loss. X

Thankyou

I am very sorry for you and your family....what a terrible accident.
Do take care.

So sorry for your loss . I could not cry at first as to busy dealing with the practical stuff then bring string for everyone else

But sone pint take a step back and let it out , even if you feel you can only do it in private where no one else can see you crumple

very sorry for your loss, the suddenness of it is always a horrible shock, I know. It's my big fear for my own Dad, as I am also in Australia and he is in the UK. My sister would be there but still, it would break my heart too.

It will get easier to bear eventually - I hope you can all pull together and support each other through this time. (((hugs))) for you all xx

Kingfisher

Even now almost 5 years on, something can spark mr of and my heart aches with missing him

.but be kind to yourself AA is such early days for yourself

So sorry for you loss, what an awful accident.
I'll echo what others have said, try & eat something, even if it's not much.
My thoughts are with you & your family.

I'm so sorry kingfisher
What a huge shock and loss for you all.
Perhaps in time you can all be thankful that DBro was able to get to the hospital in time to be with him.
Love to you all x

So sorry for your loss x

He wasn't allowed up the ladder and I can imagine the frisson of excitement he,ll have had knowing that mummy was not there to stop him so he could prune the bloody thing.

Sorry for you and your family's loss. Try and get some tea and toast down.

Oh I'm really sorry to read this, it's so sad for you all.

Keep close to your family at this sad time.