to have wanted to enjoy our first holiday with our baby

(114 Posts)
pamelat Thu 11-Sep-08 08:53:43

DD 8 months.

Just back from a week away, so glad to be home!

We shared an over priced sad hotel room with her.

First night she woke every 2 hours. Second night hourly. After that she decided that she would sleep from 7pm until about 2am (fine) but then that would be it .. !!

We took it in turns to get up with her at 230am and drive her around (!) so that the other one could get some sleep.

She was then grumpy every day because she was tired. We were fractious because we were tired.

We spent a fortune (which we don't have) because the weather was awful so we had to go to things.

Evenings we were often in bed by 9pm (with the TV on silent so as to not wake her).

I guess you learn, never again will I share a hotel room with her! Self catering is the only option.

I know (or think?) that some of you may be critical and say "well you were lucky enough to go on holiday, lucky enough to have a DD/DH etc" but I can't help but feel hard done to, was looking forward to it and frankly it was a disaster!!

Cies Thu 11-Sep-08 08:59:29

Poor you. sad

Not much else to say really. You live and learn. Did you get to see any interesting places on your trips out and about? Or try any new food and drink? <<trying to find something positive!>>

onceinalifetime Thu 11-Sep-08 09:03:28

Holidays will never be the same again. The sort of holiday you envisaged is the one you can only dream about until you can persuade grandparents or trusted friends to care for your dd and you get the chance to have a dd-free weekend (if you're lucky).

LaVieEnRose Thu 11-Sep-08 09:04:08

know how you feel. we shared a room with ds earlier this year for 2 weeks and for the first week he just didn't settle. The cot provided was too small and he kept waking up.

self catering is definitely the way to go! i came back feeling like i needed another holiday!

Cappuccino Thu 11-Sep-08 09:08:28

oh bless

you will laugh about it in years to come, honest

it was never going to go well, I'm sorry, with a baby in a hotel room

you live and learn

penona Thu 11-Sep-08 09:11:27

Poor you. Our holiday with our DTs was awful too. We came back utterly exhausted and throughly pissed off, so I sympathise with you.

Hope the next one is better.

pamelat Thu 11-Sep-08 09:12:54

I can't believe how stupid we were!!

She sleeps well (ish) at home.

She was also in a forward facing car seat for the first time and she hated it and screamed every time we went anywhere unless i sang "Old MacDonald"!

We had one good day (Monday), the sun shone and we went wine tasing!

Our bags were lost on arrival (but turned up a couple of hours later!)

I thought that we would swim each morning, she would sleep at lunch whilst we had a nice meal and we would sight see in the afternoons, mmmmmmmm

throckenholt Thu 11-Sep-08 09:12:59

I echo onceinalifetime - holidays are never the same once you have kids - and are rarely relaxing in my experience - still to be enjoyed despite that.

I must admit sharing a room with my kids is never a happy experience.

My tip - hire a cottage - you have space to do your own thing and at whatever time suits you - you can feed yourselves or eat out as you like and you aren't tied to set times.

It will get better

Cappuccino Thu 11-Sep-08 09:15:00

oh the best laid plans

well there'll be no wine tasting next year with a toddler that's for sure

pushchair Thu 11-Sep-08 09:20:05

Agree holidays never the same again. We came back this year from holiday cottage and DP and I felt as if it had just been the usual except in a different place -oh but without the home dvd's,toys,etc

lol at cappuccino!

I agree hotels and babies (toddlers/children etc) don't go well together...

Pendulum Thu 11-Sep-08 09:23:22

Poor you- I remember weeping bitterly over this in the first year of DD1's life. They are sent to fox us, you know. Nothing you ever plan will turn out the way you expect. They will be miserable throughout an expensive trip you have planned meticulously for them, then be filled with joy by the prospect of catching a bus into town to buy milk hmm

I recently had to share a hotel room with both DDs at a family wedding and it was a total disaster. Would never do it out of choice - always self-catering from now on!

Jennyusedtobepink Thu 11-Sep-08 09:24:20

You did better than us. Dh and I went to Centerparcs with dd when she was 4mo. We came home after one day.

This year's holiday was also stressful, but better once she acclimatised. We're getting a villa next year.

grin

Self catering for us in the Teapot household. This years holiday was actually extremely relaxing, it has taken until they are 9 and 4 to get there though !

Lots of sympathy, it does improve.

StellaDallas Thu 11-Sep-08 09:30:43

There is light at the end of the tunnel - we just had our first holiday in ten years with no under fives - it was fantastic to holiday sans pushchairs, nappies, tired, grumpy toddlers and to sit enjoying a bottle of wine in the evening while they ran around playing with all the other children.
But I realise this is cold comfort at this stage wink

When I've used hotel rooms with one baby, I put the baby to sleep in the bathroom - either travel cot in the middle of the room, or just the mattress in the bath. You can sell it as an adventure, the bathroom is generally dark, and you only have to pee quietly, not watch TV quietly.

MrsMattie Thu 11-Sep-08 09:33:35

Oh dear. Sorry it all went a bit pear shaped. Holidays are not quite the relaxing fun fest they were pre-baby, eh? It will get better, though smile

BalloonSlayer Thu 11-Sep-08 09:33:54

I do so sympathise.

My DH can never understand why I am so unenthusiastic about our self-catering holidays with small DCs.

I have pointed out till I am blue in the face "how do you fancy your holiday this year being two weeks doing your usual job, with all the same pressures and the same deadlines BUT in a much smaller office, with no phone, no computer, no paper, in short lacking anything that you normally have to make your job any easier?"

He still doesn't get it.

piratecat Thu 11-Sep-08 09:35:05

what a disappointment sad

sorry it went pear shaped.

The best way to ensure you are never disappointed and feel let down is to make no plans and have no expectations of how the holiday will be.

pamelat Thu 11-Sep-08 09:40:35

I think that I may use one weeks holiday money and go away for one night to a hotel with a creche!!

Notyummy Thu 11-Sep-08 09:41:00

OOOh I feel for you! Our first break with our 7 month old (who usually slept through 7 - 7 coincided with her cutting her first teeth, and developing a slight diary allergy...fun, fun, fun!

I can highly recommend THompson Al Fresco/Canvas Holidays/Eurocamp etc. Get yourself a nice mobile home somewhere warm, order in pizza, take a portable DVD player if you want to watch a film occasionally in the evening...and CHILL.

WE have just returned from a week in Italy...bliss!

Oh, apart from dd getting worms and screaming the mobile down for the first 2 nights:

'My itchy bottom, my itchy bottom. MUMMMEEEE'

Twas OK once we got hold of the wormkiller drugs though....

WideWebWitch Thu 11-Sep-08 09:47:31

Holidays with v small babies and children are just same childcare in a different place!

WideWebWitch Thu 11-Sep-08 09:48:35

It does get better when they're a bit older.

SoupDragon Thu 11-Sep-08 09:48:46

Sadly, YABU. That's what holidays with children are like most of the time.

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