AIBU? DS was ill and the school have marked it as an unauthorised holiday and are threatening to fine me!

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WeAreEternal Fri 08-Nov-13 14:23:33

A couple of weeks ago DS (7) had an upset stomach, he D&V over night and most of the next day.
First thing in the morning (a Thursday) I called the school and let them know he was ill.
He was feeling better by the evening but as he had D&V school policy is 24 hours off, so I kept him off Friday too.

I received a letter from to school yesterday saying that those days have been marked as an unauthoried holiday as "although we received a phone call from you stating that (DS) was ill, we are led to believe that DS was in fact on a holiday to XXXX on these two dates"

The letter goes on to say that if he was genuinely ill they expect me to provide evidence such as a doctors appointment card, a prescription, a medication receipt or something simmilar that can "verify my version of events".

I am a medical professional, I know when when my DS needs medication or to see a GP or when he just has a bit of a stomach bug and needs rest and fluids.
Who would take a child to the GP or buy medication for D&V anyway?

How on earth can I prove that DS was ill?
And why are they even querying this?
AIBU to think this is bloody ridiculous?

Anyone have any ideas?

bundaberg Fri 08-Nov-13 14:26:12

wtf? they're being utterly unreasonable and you should tell them that!

no-one takes their child to the doctors for d&v, and he wouldn't have required a script.

how bloody stupid

Hettyjones Fri 08-Nov-13 14:26:26

I'd ring and check the facts. Assure them you were not on holiday and ask where on earth they got that idea from. Had you previously asked for those days off or could your DS have said something about a trip away and school have got the wrong end of the stick? Ring and clarify the situation. Good luck.

CoffeeTea103 Fri 08-Nov-13 14:26:57

Ask them to prove that you were on a holiday?

Manchesterhistorygirl Fri 08-Nov-13 14:26:58

First thing - you might want to take your sons name off the post.

Second thing - are they fucking unreal? Everyone knows you don't take a child with d&v out because it's contagious. You only take them if it's very serious d&v.

Shinyshoes1 Fri 08-Nov-13 14:27:37

Something/one has led them to believe you took a holiday ... What makes them think that and where's their proof

Personally , and Im NOT a medical professional , I would take my children to the docs for a D&V bug either .. It's a waste of resources.

If I were to give them medication I have diarolyte in the cupboard and would given them that

Ignore them .. They have to prove you went on holiday

kim147 Fri 08-Nov-13 14:27:47

I think they should provide their "evidence" they think he was on holiday.

SparklyFucker Fri 08-Nov-13 14:27:56

I would be going bat shit fucking crazy with the Head over that! What a pile of patronising shit. Please tell me you've got an appointment to see her today?

JinglingRexManningDay Fri 08-Nov-13 14:28:18

You've put DS name in your OP.

I would write a letter stating that your Ds was ill and you adhered to the schools policy on d&v episodes.

AngelsLieToKeepControl Fri 08-Nov-13 14:28:56

That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

Ask them to provide evidence he was at XXXX place on those dates and if they can't (which they obviously won't) you expect them to state in his records that he was indeed ill.

kim147 Fri 08-Nov-13 14:29:41

And you can't verify D&V.

Does the Headteacher have children? Do they understand how child illnesses and the GP system actually works?

eurochick Fri 08-Nov-13 14:30:46

That is pretty outrageous!

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 08-Nov-13 14:31:11

Was a holiday booked if so get a copy of the cancelation.

Was you in work ( copy of your time sheet)

sunbathe Fri 08-Nov-13 14:31:50

YANBU.

Take in a sample next time. wink

FortyDoorsToNowhere Fri 08-Nov-13 14:32:12

Is that your child's name or made up

bundaberg Fri 08-Nov-13 14:32:53

ha sun beat me to it, i was just going to say you should ask them if they'd like you to bring samples in next time

SantanaLopez Fri 08-Nov-13 14:33:20

Can you prove that you were in work instead?

Scholes34 Fri 08-Nov-13 14:34:47

It sounds outrageous, but do we know the full story? Is there a reason why the school might be assuming you were on holiday?

I'd be extremely suprised if a school was routinely sending out such letters. The broken record approach is needed to confirm with the school that your son was ill.

PatoBanton Fri 08-Nov-13 14:35:05

You don't have to prove anything. You've done nothing wrong.

I would be writing a letter on paper clarifying the exact circumstances of his absence and requesting that they inform you of the reasoning behind their bizarre accusation.

I would also be onto the HT immediately because I could not rest knowing people thought I was fabricating excuses.

Can you ring them up and make an appt to go in and discuss this? Get onto it right away and be firm, indignant and polite.

This needs sorting.

DowntonTrout Fri 08-Nov-13 14:35:17

Why do they think you were on holiday? Have you any idea?

3littlefrogs Fri 08-Nov-13 14:35:30

No GP is going to give you an appointment OR a certificate for a child with an upset tummy.
The head is being ridiculous.
However every school that my 3 dc have attended would not accept a phone call. I have always had to send a letter on the day they returned to school so that the letter can be put on file,

Did you send a signed absence letter?

Kyrptonite Fri 08-Nov-13 14:36:55

My friend is being fined £60 because her DD was off with chickenpox. It's bloody insane what's happened since they changed the unauthorised absence system.

Manchesterhistorygirl Fri 08-Nov-13 14:38:58

I've said it before on here, but ds1's school are threatening us with a fine for taking him to see another school! There's a proper code for the register, but they want it classed as unauthorised!

Inertia Fri 08-Nov-13 14:39:24

They are ridiculous. I would ask for their evidence that you were on holiday because they are mistaken (assuming you weren't on holiday!).

I'd also tell them that if they are willing to pay for the medical note you will take your child to a doctor for every illness- it'd be a huge waste of their money and NHS resources though.

KellyHopter Fri 08-Nov-13 14:40:01

Op hasn't actually said they weren't on holiday.

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