to expect a nursery to cater for my childs needs?

(50 Posts)
Mimisrevenge Mon 20-May-13 20:53:13

My DD1 goes to a pre prep department of a local prep school. She's quite a bright lass but how much can I expect them to cater for her individual learning needs, even though they say that it isn't what they do?

I'm stuck becuase I don't want to come over as pushy parent but I've got a very unhappy bored little girl on my hands! I understand that as she is only 3 it isn't school as such and they aren't obligated to 'teach' her.

Euphemia Mon 20-May-13 20:55:34

How many hours per day/week is she there?

Mimisrevenge Mon 20-May-13 20:56:41

3 days

BoundandRebound Mon 20-May-13 20:58:11

What do you mean bored?

Joiningthegang Mon 20-May-13 20:58:25

What would you like them to teach her?

Is she unhappy there or at home?

crashdoll Mon 20-May-13 20:59:09

Three year olds don't really need teaching. They learn mostly through play. I'd be worried if they were teaching her.

Purpletots Mon 20-May-13 20:59:31

How do you know he's bored here?

Purpletots Mon 20-May-13 20:59:48

She's (sorry!)

Shakey1500 Mon 20-May-13 21:00:35

What do you think they should be doing?

That sounds unimpressive. Most nurseries do cater for individual learning. But I can't see that they leave you many options if they just blankly state that it's not their way.

CloudsAndTrees Mon 20-May-13 21:04:49

So what do they do at this pre school, and what is it that they don't do that you think they should?

What makes you think she is bored and unhappy because they aren't catering to her learning needs?

Mimisrevenge Mon 20-May-13 21:09:03

It's a great place, they do loads of good stuff: cooking, PE messy play etc. But she keeps crying saying she doesnt want to go and is confused that she has to do lots of sticking and colouring. She specifically talked about how children speak to her there and said they don't understand her: they're silly/babies. I've explained to her that there are people there that she gets on with and talk about how good the activities are. She is just won't accept it.

crashdoll-it is her that asked us to teach her how to read. In her words-so I can do it myself.

shakey1500-building on what she already can do and not making her draw over striaght lines on pieces of paper.

Mega happy at home-just turns into totally diff. person when she gets a whiff of school.

Euphemia Mon 20-May-13 21:11:38

Is it a private nursery?

What does "3 days" mean? I asked how many hours. Sorry to be picky, I'm just trying to see the full picture. smile

Mimisrevenge Mon 20-May-13 21:14:40

No problem Euphemia. Yes private. 3days 8-6. Although we generally collect by 5-5:30

getyourheadout Mon 20-May-13 21:16:17

she sounds like a normal kid going to pre school , getting upset is sometimes what they do ,doesnt mean they are bored ,cant she speak properly is that why they cant understand her ?

Ashoething Mon 20-May-13 21:16:33

is this a stealth boast about your mega bright 3 year old?-yawn.

Sirzy Mon 20-May-13 21:18:28

Pre school should be about children having fun and playing. If anything it sounds like she needs that to develop her social skills if she is struggling with the others.

There is plenty of time to focus on academic stuff later in life.

Mimisrevenge Mon 20-May-13 21:21:24

No need to be offensive!
Not a stealth boast, just wanted others opinions on whether it's reasonable to ask for occasional development opportunities tailored to her or is the view in early years that one model fits all. Other parents experiences appreciated. If it were a stealth boast I'd list all the things she can do-I chose not to.

getyour headout-no quite the opposite (no boast intended, just answering a question)

getyourheadout Mon 20-May-13 21:21:33

grin @ Ashoething

Bearbehind Mon 20-May-13 21:27:01

A stealth boast by saying I could stealth boast but chose not to - genius!

crashdoll Mon 20-May-13 21:27:31

Yes, YABU. Children of 3 need some structured activity but they learn through play. She needs to begin to learn how to be part of a group and that she can't always do the activities she wants.

Mimisrevenge Mon 20-May-13 21:29:01

crashdoll-thank you. On reflection its a key aspect of her development we will try to help her with.

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 20-May-13 21:31:30

Wot Ashoething said.

WorraLiberty Mon 20-May-13 21:33:32

10 hours is a very long day for a 3yr old.

She's bound to get bored at some point.

My kids always claimed to be bored at school but actually as they got older and were able to explain better, it turned out just some of the day bored them.

Have you had a word with the staff?

Takver Mon 20-May-13 21:36:26

I wouldn't be keen if at 3 they were being made to do loads of sticking and colouring, though.

DD went to a childminder, so a bit different, but even when she started at the nursery class in school there was a lot of choice as to what activities they could do at any given time. IIRC (it was a long time ago!) the main things they were all expected to participate in together were circle time, sitting down listening to a story, etc.

I especially wouldn't be keen on lots of colouring in - sounds like an easy & cheap option with not much creativity for the dc.

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