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dh. New job. Different hours. Further to drive. His car drinks more fuel than mine.

I predicted that he'd want to take my car not his. Financial logic agrees.

But I am actually pissed off.

It is my car. Mine. I bought it. I paid for ut. Mine.

And now it is my day off. All I need to do is tske DD and pick her up from her friday thing. I hate driving his car.

Be gentle. I have an evil cold and have yanked my back coughing. And i hurt.

sorry but really, the dilemma of having a car each must be awful.

Mo. Necessary when you live in tge back end of nowhere and both work shifts in opposite directions.
What do you suggest? Walk 15 miles at 10.30pm?

Are you so 'mine, mine, mine' about other things in your marriage?

No. Just my stuff.

Seriously don't get angry it's a car...

Sell his car and buy another like yours.

Really though.

I am pissed off because we had a conversation about this and decidd it didn't matter.

It didn't matter until I was short of slerp, snotty and in pain. Now it matters.

teggie I understand how you feel. But deep down you know it makes sense dontcha?

I'm with you. I love my car but hate dh's. There are times when it is more convenient to swap but I dislike it. I guess it makes sense to swap but doesn't mean you have to like it.

odd odd odd. not something that would ever feature as an issue in my marriage. I just can not see your problem.

It also means that on my day off I can't go anywhere. And I wanted to do and snuggle a new baby.

YANBU

Tell him if you havd to use his car then he needs to sell it and get one more like yours.

Oh Teggie, sorry about your cold/back - sounds like you feel really horrible at the mo, so sympathy from me.

No, YANBU for feeling like you do, but... You know it makes sense though. Fwiw, I completely understand how you feel about the driving. When you are used to driving a smaller car, it can be quite nerve wracking having to drive a bigger one as you worry about misjudging the size etc.

Big unmumsnetty hugs from me

I know how you feel. I hate anyone else driving my car. I know it's stupid, but I do.

I got round it very easily. My car is an automatic and his is a manual. I can't drive a manual (I need an adapted vehicle with hand controls) so he's got no choice.

He sometimes says that the next car he gets should be an automatic and he'll have it fitted out so we can both drive either. I just stay vague.

what I suggest is stop moaning and be glad your dh got a new job and you've still got 2 cars, plenty of us manage living in the back of beyond working shifts with one driving the car and the other cycling/busing it

you are coming across as really annoying

I hate dh driving my car, he treats it the way he treats his car except his car can take it cos its a beast and mine can't cos its a granny car
Yanbu cos you are ill and need sympathy.

Talk to him about it.

Yanbu but you cant snuggle a new baby you have an evil cold remember..

Yanbu. I hate driving dh's car. It's ridiculously long, and so low to the ground I struggle to get in and out. The visibility is shite and my head touches the roof.
He does sometimes ask to take my 4x4 to work in weather like this, which I always refuse as I have to take the kids to school, and I'm not driving a rwd car in the snow with kids in it. I just tell him to buy a proper practical car and he wouldn't have this problem.

I'm with you OP I use my dh car all time now as he used mine for a week and I can't get seat to adjust again. I think cars are like fountain pens and adjust to driver

Awww poor you it must be awful. When my dh has to drive long distances in our 1 car for work, I have to walk for 45mins to pick ds up from nursery, after I've finished work, then get the bus home with ds as buses are too expensive to get both ways...

I understand how you feel, I am currently having to use dp's car and I hate it, in our case I'm the one with the bigger car but dp is off work with a bad back so in rider to try and claw back some money I am using his far more economical car, I know that in order for us to pay the bills I have to but that doesn't mean I like it.

We also live in the middle of nowhere with no bus stops anywhere near and both work in different directions so 2 cars is an essential for work not a luxury

I'm a SAHM so I didn't pay for mine, but I still get huffy if DH takes mine instead of his, without asking.

It's mine, it has my junk in it, sometimes useful junk like gloves, phone charger and sunglasses.

I'm with you OP, I love my car. I detest my DH's car, it's so chuffing expensive, that's what I hate most about it. Not that I would voluntarily bash mine or crash into someone or get into an accident, and I always try to ensure I'm driving safely, but just the idea of driving his cumbersome, massive, difficult to drive and horrendously expensive metal cage makes me twitch. I drove it once a few years ago round an industrial estate and was a trembling wreck when I got out.

He's just taken my car as it's better for snow, leaving his big metal heap on the drive. Yay. That'll be me staying in then.