It's totally unreasonable for a parent to yell at me at beavers

(73 Posts)
ChoudeBruxelles Wed 06-Mar-13 21:08:40

Because her little darling didn't get a badge as he didn't do the work towards it?

I volunteer ffs to help run it.

This thread would be better if it really said as I read It's totally unreasonable for a parent to yell at at me beaver

However, yes, the parent was U and her child will likely never work hard at anything.

Sirzy Wed 06-Mar-13 21:13:11

Assuming the help was there to do the work if needed then YANBU, and actually no matter what YANBU as she shouldn't have shouted at you

HintofBream Wed 06-Mar-13 21:13:31

That is horrid, ChoudeB. Some people are simply foul and totally unappreciative of people like you. I am sure plenty of other parents are very grateful to you and the rest of the volunteers.

nickelbabe Wed 06-Mar-13 21:19:03

of course yanbu.
but parents love their precious kids.

some can do no wrong and some believe their children are so wonderful they are entitledto everything without trying.

ooh, and they're the ones who complain about their kids' behaviour.

Floggingmolly Wed 06-Mar-13 21:23:07

Tell her if it happens again (her being abusive or little darling not doing what he's supposed to) he'll be removed from the register and she can take her custom elsewhere.

MrsHoarder Wed 06-Mar-13 21:30:38

This is one of the reasons I stopped helping at Cubs. Parents expecting volunteers to babysit provide fulfilling activities for their children and not realising the money is only to cover costs and hall fees and we usually pay to help rather than the other way around.

ChoudeBruxelles Wed 06-Mar-13 21:31:02

He didn't come one of the weeks we were doing badge work. I would have told her that he could make it up at home but she stormed off telling me how crap we were

LemonBreeland Wed 06-Mar-13 21:32:58

YANBU she should be told if she acts like that again he is out.

Sorry I shouldn't laugh but I read it the same way as "MrsTerryPratchett"

HamAlive Wed 06-Mar-13 21:35:07

Rude. He didn't do the work, what did she expect?

exoticfruits Wed 06-Mar-13 21:38:41

As an ex Beaver leader I would tell her that you are a volunteer, you do not get paid and if she doesn't like it she can remove her child BUT that you are not going to be shouted at. You will run it the way you want to run it and if she isn't happy she can do the training and take over. Furthermore - if her DC wants a badge he needs to do the work- it is called life. Don't put up with it.

ProphetOfDoom Wed 06-Mar-13 21:40:18

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ChoudeBruxelles Wed 06-Mar-13 21:41:24

I'm just quite shocked that she felt it was ok to behave like that.

Couldonlyhappentome Wed 06-Mar-13 22:01:53

I don't know what's got into people these days with all the shouting that's going on. Lots of angry people out there.

SugarplumKate Wed 06-Mar-13 22:44:06

YADNBU. I am an ex-beaver leader and now chair our scout group. As has been suggested, I would remind her that you are a volunteer and that you will not be spoken to like that. Obvioulsy the moment has passed now, but I'd suggest you refer it to your GSL or chair and ask them to speak to the parent. If this happened in our group, I'd take great pleasure in phoning the parent and insisting on an apology for the leader. Some people are so ungrateful!

weblette Wed 06-Mar-13 22:45:55

Agree with SPK - make sure your GSL knows about this.

Permanentlyexhausted Wed 06-Mar-13 22:48:21

YADNBU! (says this Brownie Guider!)

SarahLundKicksAss Wed 06-Mar-13 22:55:50

YADNBU! Cub leader here, getting slightly peed off with some parents who moan at you for the slightest thing, complain about badges, yet never, ever offer to help when we are short of leaders....oh, and rush off with their precious DCs after a weekend camping with no word of thanks for us leaders - and in many cases, not even having the courtesy to let them know that they've picked up the child, so you are checking the portable loos to see if you've lost anyone! (Rant over). Don't get me started on the ones who are late to pick up (sorry... I just lost track of the time!) - Yes, and I would like my tea now please, not sat waiting for you in a draughty scout hut!

Maryz Wed 06-Mar-13 23:01:42

We are lucky with our group in that most of the parents are very supportive. But we do always at any time have at least one I would like to strangle - parent that is, most of the kids are pretty nice.

I don't get this "dish out badges to everyone all the time" bit. Badges are prizes for work done, outings attended, experiences, erm, experienced.

And just as an aside - I think some parents and certainly some children don't realise we are volunteers. I had one child ask me did I get overtime for cub camp, and another who when told that we didn't get paid said "why do you do it then?".

I refrained from saying "fuck knows hmm".

RainbowRabbit33 Wed 06-Mar-13 23:28:38

This Rainbow leader says YANBU.

Maryz - totally agree. I also get this regularly from parents. Out of interest, do you ever get the other side? As in other volunteers getting pissy because you don't spend your entire life as much time as them devoted to 'The Cause'?

Maryz Wed 06-Mar-13 23:32:09

I'd be afraid to admit to that Rainbow.

My group leader might sack me grin

Actually, now, there's an idea ......

mrsballack Wed 06-Mar-13 23:34:37

Another beaver leader here adding support and saying yanbu.
We have one woman who pitches up late every week to drop her child off and the one week we were running late due to illness and having to retrieve keys from the ill leader she asked if we would be finishing late. I curtly replied that seeing as we never finish less than ten minutes late usually she should be here as usual to pick her child up. It shocks me how few parents realise we don't get paid.

ChoudeBruxelles Thu 07-Mar-13 15:36:47

She phoned me today to apologise - although I didn't get the pleasure of talking to her as I couldn't get to my phone - so she left a message. As much as I appreciate the apology it was tapered with a further whine about her son not getting the badge! And how we could manage to write letters to parents to reinforce rules but not what they need to do to get badges - we send out a schedule each term saying what we are doing each week ffs.

ChoudeBruxelles Thu 07-Mar-13 15:37:52

Rainbowrabbit yes I get the other side too - I really don't want to spend my entire spare time doing scouting things

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