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i am 33 and dh and i are ttc

just come on today and i am so sad

we have only been ttc 3 months (i KNOW its no time at all) but with dd it happened so quick. like, days after we decided to ditch the contraception. i was only 28 then though. and i got pg with DS (from prev relationship) when i was 25 by accident very quick too

and to top it off i have read a scaremongering article in the sun newspaper this morning about how womens fertility sharply drops after 32

we were TTC 2 years ago but stopped as it was not a good time financially, now i wish we had carried on trying as now it might be too late

please please share your positive stories sorry for being a drama queen. but it actually scares me how much i want dc3

I had my DS a couple of weeks before my 34th birthday. Many of my friends from university have had baby number one or two in the last year or two as well. Ok 33 is not 23 but you have only been trying a very short amount of time. The odds are even against a 20 year old conceiving in less than 3 months as even if you have plenty of sex at the right time, you only have about a one in four chance each month at best. 6 months is average and anything up to 12 months is nothing to worry about.

stop reading crap comics newspapers for a start off.

I had ds2 when I was 35. I had an IUD fitted which fell out I didn't know, and still don't know when it fell out, and only found out I was pg when I was 7 + 2!

my friend had her ds when she was 37 and dd when she was 43.

another friend had her ds when she was 35 and dd when she was 40.

so lots of positives

Ok so I am 34 and 15 weeks pregnant with my first child.

You really need to define TTC, as in were have you just ditched contraception to see what happens or have you been counting the days and trying on the best days.

We ditched contraception in June and went for the wait and see approach, not monitoring anything. By October/November still nothing so I got dates of my periods in calender and worked out when best days to try were. It then worked first time.

Do not believe anything you read in the Sun, you really are no age at all. Only over 35 is there a chance you might not ovulate every month, but this is chance and might, remember those words.

33! I didn't even want children at 33. Changed my mind at 34. Dd1 arrived when I was 36.

3 month really is no time at all.

I am pregnant with DC3 - conceived when I was 35. I had DS1 at 29 (took a month to conceive), DS2 at 32 (took a month to conceive) - this one took well over a year and a half! And my lifestyle is no different to when I was ttc DS1 and DS2 - it just took longer. Just concentrate on enjoying life and shagging - go on a lovely relaxing holiday (that's when this one was conceived) and relax.

2 friends of mine have had babies in their early 40s (no IVF) this year.

Dd1 at 32
Dd2 at 34
Dd3at 38

3 months isn't long x

I fell pregnant both times within a month. First pregnancy I gave birth the day before my 33rd birthday, second pregnancy I conceived aged 34 and had a MMC at 12 weeks. We are planning to ttc once everything has settled down from the mc and the plan is to have lots of sex!

3 months is not a long time at all, the NHS only start looking to see if there are problems after 12 months so you've really nothing to panic about. Good luck!

I fell pregnant by accident really quick when I was 38

I'm now 41 and when people ask if we're having another, and I say I'm too old, I hear story after story about 40+ babies. Definitely don't panic!

Hi there, sorry you've been disappointed this month. I was 32 when I got pregnant with DS. I'd been off the pill for nearly 2 years. For the first year we used a very loose rhythm method approach as I was a bit freaked out by the idea of getting pregnant. We then started properly trying to get pregnant and it took a further 11 months. We were starting to get worried. But then I fell pregnant.

I'm now 34 (almost 35) and 36 weeks pregnant with DC2. I was pregnant within 3 months of my periods coming back after stopping breastfeeding. It wasn't exactly planned - we fell into the trap of thinking that because it had taken ages to get PG first time it would take ages again.

So I would definitely say it's early days. These things sometimes take time and sometimes sneak up on you! Good luck .

First baby conceived after 3 months at 32. Thought 3 months was quick! 2nd baby a bot ahead of schedule, we weren't being careful but not having much sex due to dc1 and still b-feeding. Dc2 arrived just after my 35th birthday, had intended to start trying for no2 after my birthday but he had other ideas! But we have been very lucky and have had no problems conceiving early/mid thirties. Good luck!

I am in the same position.

I turned 33 last week. I conceived ds when I was 22, (and 7 stone overweight) in the click of a finger.

All the stuff in the press really isn't helping.

Fell pregnant in the first month all 3 times I tried, at 34 (early mc), 35 and 36. Each time I used an ovulation indicator. Best of luck

DS conceived very quickly at 33; DD conceived (probably 7 months) when I was 43.

My wife is 37 and we have 2 girls (6 and nearly 5) and another baby due in 3 weeks time.

I'm 33 (34 on Friday) and my DH is 38. I'm 10 weeks pregnant. Feel pg the first month of trying after getting implant removed.

Everyone is so very different. I pretty much got pregnant the first time I had sex unprotected (or, TTC, you could call it) at ages 34, 36, and 38. There's no reason to believe that I would have the same success, now, at age 43. And, my experience has no bearing on anybody else's.

I wish you luck in getting pregnant and I hope that you get the baby you want so much. xoxo

We started trying to conceive when I was 35 but nothing happened. As the years rolled by I began to accept it was unlikely to happen. Once I hit 40 I fully accepted it was game over. I accepted it so totally that I didn't even suspect I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks gone. I'll be 41 when baby arrives in 8 weeks or so.

I was 31.5 &32.5 when trying for ours & fell on second month both times.

Dd and Ds were conceived at 26 and 28, both after 9 months of trying. Dts were a surprise conception at 30, arrived just after my 31st birthday.

33 is young imo. Take a look at your cycles. Not everyone has a text book 28 day cycle and ovulates on day 14. If you aren't already, start looking for the other signs your body is giving you. Cervical mucus (sorry if tmi!) is a classic sign which you often don't see until you start looking for it.

3 months is a short time, please try not to get despondent. We hear a lot about the people who are having trouble conceiving, but not a lot about those who do so with relative ease. Good luck!

Oh westie, that's lovely, you must be over the moon! Hope it all goes well.

I got pg with my PFB at 34. Was 35 when he was born

It took around 10 months of ttc

I found the ovulation sticks really useful

Don't give up I know that awful feeling when you've hoped and hoped and then come on. Horrible. But look at all these positive stories. 3 months is no time at all. x

Im 39 next month. 16 week old currently sat on my knee