aibu to wonder if the chubby babies become the overweight children?

(109 Posts)
honeytea Wed 20-Feb-13 18:15:12

Today me and ds went to our first "mummy group" all tge babies in the group were 2 months old. Ds is huge, he weighs 6.6 kg (almost 15 pounds) he is <97th percentile for weight.

I understand the logic of percentiles but when I see him amongst babies his own age and he so obviously much bigger I worry.

All the other babies looked like actual floppy soft babies with tiny little newborn clothes whereas ds sits up and tries to stand up, his 3-6 month babygrows are too small on tge legs and he fits best into his 6 month+ clothes.

It looked like we were in tge wrong group.

Ds is ebf and the Dr has said his weight/size isn't a problem. He did say at my last appointment "I assume his pappa is tall" which he isn't.

I was wondering if the chubby giant babies become the overweight children? I know someone has to be at the top of normal but I wonder with their focus on "following his own curve" will meen he ends up being the big child in the class?

I am intending to restrict ds's sugar intake and give him healthy meals cooked from scratch by my dp as that is what we eat anyway. We hope to have an active lifestyle.

Do I need to work especially hard to avoid ds becoming chubby in childhood? Any idea when I need to start to restrict calories?

BarbarianMum Sat 23-Feb-13 21:15:08

My dnephew wasn't just chubby at 6mo he was a butterball. He was so much off the charts for weight the health visitor wouldn't believe that he was just breasfed (he was). B/w 1 and 2 he slimmed down and has been a whippet ever since (now 13).

Reiltin Sat 23-Feb-13 21:05:23

My brother was a chubby kid, like myself. When he hit puberty, he shot up & there wasn't a pick on him. Unfortunately, that didn't happen to me! So I guess you just can't tell how things are going to work out.

DeWe Sat 23-Feb-13 20:59:23

DD1 was a very tubby baby. Over 91% and rising fast. I was careful what she ate, as in making sure it was always a healthy snack, pudding wasn't drowned in cream etc. Never restricted food, or made her aware of this though.

Age 8yo she had pneumonia badly and had to be weighed for exact medication. Nasty moment of discovering that she had actually lost weight from the last time she had been weighed nearly 2 years previously. So ended up under the doctor for a year to keep an eye on her weight being too small. She's going up the 25% line now, and has been for 3 years.

sherazade Sat 23-Feb-13 20:51:17

My eldest was a giant, off the centile charts baby, she was so big strangers would stop and gawk at her. She always wore several sizes up. She started to slim down at 2 and by 3 was a mid sized child now at 7 she is slim .
I was a fat baby too , big chubby cheeks, treble chin, rolls all over, and am a size 4-6 .

simplesusan Thu 21-Feb-13 09:45:21

Appologies if this has already been said but isn't birth weight genetic?

I was a big baby and all my dcs were big.

I would say we are all big boned but none of us are fat.

I am a size 10.

changeforthebetter Thu 21-Feb-13 09:39:13

EBF DD2 was huge, rolls of fat, shelves on the outside of her thighs. She was a shock after her tiny big sister. However, she was healthy, met all her milestones and is active, bright and well within the healthy BMI range for her age and gender. She walked at nine months and that's when the Buddha-rolls dropped off grin BTW you can't over feed a BF baby unless you put the BM in a bottle, apparently.

Branleuse Thu 21-Feb-13 09:34:45

ds2 was 10lb at birth and gained roughly 1lb a week for quite a while. At his 6 week check, the doctor asked if he was 6 months (stupid idiot, he was big but he still looked babyish)

He is now nearly 6 and tall and very skinny

Adversecamber Thu 21-Feb-13 09:31:33

DS was on 98th centile for a long time and was enormous, he is 5ft 4 and 11 years old now so the same size as me but as thin as a whip. He is desperate to be taller than me before he hits 12.

BanjoPlayingTiger Thu 21-Feb-13 09:12:01

My ds was 10lb 5oz born. He put on weight so rapidly despite being EBF that he was 19lb 13oz at 13 weeks old. But then put on no more weight for the next 3 months despite getting longer.
He is now a healthy active 9 yo but he looks as though I starve him he is so skinny.

Try not to worry so much. Comparing your child to others is a recipe for disaster.

littlemisssarcastic Thu 21-Feb-13 09:02:25

DS was so fat at 14 months that he couldn't walk. He couldn't lift his weight up to stand and looked very bloated.
He began walking at 16 months and by 2 years, had lost the rolls of fat.
He remained slim from then on.
Fast forward 20 years and he is actually underweight at 6'3 and 10 stone 9lb.
He eats like a horse but can't put weight on.
If he had been very overweight after he'd been walking for a few months, I may have asked for advice then but pre walkers are supposed to look chubby aren't they?

MrRected Thu 21-Feb-13 03:50:24

DS1 was 8lb10 and 61cms at birth. He was a very chubby toddler but lost it all around 2. He then chunked up again at about 9 years old. He is now 11 years old, 6 feet tall and 60kgs (135lbs), so perfectly proportioned.

DS2 was 8lb5 and 59cms at birth. He was a MASSIVELY fat baby and toddler. He was very solid but not fat until he turned 7 when he started getting taller and slimmer. He's now 8 and is extremely tall, solid but not an ounce of fat on him.

DD was 5lb11 at birth she was the fattest baby you have ever seen. She didn't overeat and although we were worried had nothing wrong with her. She is now 5 and still slightly chubby but not overly so. I expect her to go the way of her brothers and lose all that baby fat by the time she's 7.

My kids do naturally hold their weight, so we do have to be careful with what they eat. They have to do lots of physical exercise to keep them at good weight/height ratio and not overweight. I know I am the odd man out on this thread, but I do see some correlation between my much heavier than average babies and their weight as they have gotten older.

Given we are not a family who eats fast food, my kids don't drink soda or juice (just water or low fat milk), it's obviously just in the genes (I was a humungous baby and toddler but slimmed out and stayed that way since I was 8/9).

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Thu 21-Feb-13 03:25:03

OP, please stop panicking. And please don't think about restricting calories, or wishing your baby would sleep less, or any of this stuff. You are, and I mean this kindly, being utterly bonkers.

My two girls were vastly different at birth; the first was 50%ile everything and is now a 4 year old lanky string bean (and tall! I don't know how, since DH and I are...not tall). DD2 was a 97%ile chubster with what the midwife called "croissant arms", and at 14 months she is pretty much exactly the same size and shape as her sister was at that age.

But you know what, some children will be fatter than others. Genetics are strong. But the worst thing you could possibly do would be to restrict calories early, or make it A Thing, or obsess about it. Just offer healthy food, model an active lifestyle, and LOVE YOUR CHILDREN. Maybe they'll be a bit fat anyway? Who cares, if they're healthy.

Longdistance Thu 21-Feb-13 03:15:27

My nephew was such a chunk as a baby, he waddled not walked his first steps. He's now 15, over 6 foot tall, and a beanpole. We're hard pressed to find any fat on him at all <shrugs>

honeytea Thu 21-Feb-13 03:05:12

Thanks for all the advice smile I do worry a huge amount, I tried to tell my hv I worry about everything but she just said it is normal to worry lots as a mother, I feel like it is more than normal pfb worrying but I'm not sure what she could do anyway.

I live in a different country to my family and my in-laws are not hugely supportive crazy so asking advice on mumsnet is really helpful!

Morloth Wed 20-Feb-13 23:54:04

Not in my experience, my two both looked like sumo babies (so fat they looked like they had multiple elbows/knees) but then at around 2 years it all went away and now they are like whippets.

They were both EBF until 8 months or so, and still BFing at about 18 months when it started to taper off.

I don't restrict their food, they have access to lots of excellent, healthy food at all times, I don't stress about junk, we don't really have any at home at all but if they/we are out and about they can have some. We eat 3 meals a day, I don't offer snacks but don't restrict them either.

Seems to be working, they are both bright eyed and bushy tailed.

WafflyVersatile Wed 20-Feb-13 23:26:45

My sister's first was a chubby baby certainly compared with her cousin who was only a few days older. Her 2nd was 98th percentile. 1st lost the roundness when she started walking, 2nd is a bit slower to lose it but also on her way.

No they don't I have found.

Three out of four of my dc have been above 8 pounds and in fact my youngers daughters have been nearly ten pounds, all three have been chubby babies but are all lean, fit and active dc.

I've never restricted food either but they all eat plenty of fruit and veg but have their fair share of stodge

HollyBerryBush Wed 20-Feb-13 22:15:51

Do I need to work especially hard to avoid ds becoming chubby in childhood? Any idea when I need to start to restrict calories?

I find that line in your OP very very worrying.

You are making food issues where non occur.

Try eating properly with plenty of outdoor exercise and you'll be fine. But for Godssakes - do not get hysterical about every ounce.

2cats2many Wed 20-Feb-13 22:10:36

Also not in my experience. DD was a total fatso up until 2 1/2. She's tall and skinny now.

YABU dd was ebf & like a chunky little Michelin girl. Now at just 3 she is so tall & skinny people assume she's 5 & doesn't eat! She does, like a horse, but healthily.

PessaryPam Wed 20-Feb-13 22:07:18

OP No they don't. Next!

DewDr0p Wed 20-Feb-13 22:05:46

Ds2 (ebf) was like a little buddha with moobs, despite having reflux and me eating hardly anything due to bad PND. His weight gain was phenomenal - 1 3/4 lb in a week was his record grin and he was right at the top of the chart.

He's 6 1/2 now and there's not an ounce of fat on him although he does still feel pretty heavy and he was very proud to tell me that he's not the tallest in the class (he's kind of average height) "but I am the heaviest Mummy" grin

I have to say though he seems similar in build to my brother, who at 30 has a tendency to carry a little extra weight - but I think that is beer related more than anything!

Alibabaandthe40nappies Wed 20-Feb-13 22:00:51

Right I have just read the OP properly.

honey you don't need to think about reducing calories at all. Give him healthy food when you wean him, and free access to BM until you decide to stop. All will be well.

Are you ok? I've noticed a few threads from you and you seem a bit anxious about things, do you think a chat with whatever the equivalent of an HV is where you are might be a good idea?

fromparistoberlin Wed 20-Feb-13 21:58:03

super baby OP!

I like this thread ALOT as got told my toddler might be overweight yesterday, well meaning HV.....

and we feed him well and he is active

another 9.5lber

I think he is robust, not chubby personally

Catsdontcare Wed 20-Feb-13 21:56:26

Mine went from huge babies, to sturdy toddlers, to tall and lean by the time they were five/six

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