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To speak to this boy about his tattoos. And how?

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pouffepants Sun 17-Feb-13 19:27:15

A young lad of 15 lives next door, he hangs around with ds sometimes, and is really lovely. Often in and out of our house, and really chirpy and friendly.

He has got a tattoo, on his lower stomach, of his niece's name. It has been done by his dad, who has a new 'career' plan every week, and this week's is tattooist. The tattoo is wonky, and has a capital letter in the middle, and is of a weirdly spelt name anyway.

The other lads think it's hilarious, but are not laughing, they are deliberately telling him that it's really cool, and are 'fake' saying how cool they think his parents are for doing it. They are egging him on to show as many kids as possible. He's absolutely lapping it up and strutting around, and making a show of pulling down his waistband in a posey manner.

One of the boys told him straight, it looked stupid, but he was just told that he was jealous that his parents weren't so cool.

Anyway, I now hear that's he's intending on getting mum tattooed on one arm, and dad on the other. Even though ds thought the original one was hysterical, he thinks this is too silly to leave, so has attempted to tell him it's a bad idea, but has also been accused of being jealous.

So should I attempt to speak to him? He's never going to listen to me anyway is he?

Disclaimer, I've not seen the tattoo, but all the boys agree that's what it looks like.

StuntGirl Sun 17-Feb-13 19:28:45

I would report the dad to the police. He's broken about a million laws. Twat.

NamelessHereForEvermore Sun 17-Feb-13 19:29:22

He won't listen to you and it won't end well. Stay out of it and do your best to educate your son to A. not follow this path and B. not take the piss out of someone who is clearly disadvantaged in the sense department

uptherear Sun 17-Feb-13 19:29:34

How bizarre but more so how very sad. Cool parents? Sounds more like abuse.

cheesesarnie Sun 17-Feb-13 19:29:54

agree with stuntgirl.

cheesesarnie Sun 17-Feb-13 19:30:24

and agree with uptherear- it is abuse

mrsbunnylove Sun 17-Feb-13 19:32:58

his dad is never going to earn enough as a tattooist to pay for the laser treatment to get the thing off.

tell social services. they can bring in the police if they like.

there's dodgy stuff in that family! what a place for your neice's name.

countrykitten Sun 17-Feb-13 19:32:58

Thought you had to be 18 to get a tattoo? Think his father needs to be reported.

frustratedworkingmum Sun 17-Feb-13 19:35:00

I was ready to tell you to butt out when i read the thread title, but this man has broken the law and is making a fool of his son - the problem is, he wont thank you for intervening. Your son sounds very mature though, maybe he can persuade him that he is making a mistake. I am not anti-tattoos, i have several as does my DD (shes 22 though!) shows age hmm

StuntGirl Sun 17-Feb-13 19:37:50

You have to be 18.
And the tattooist needs a licence.
And licensed premises.
And to follow a whole shit load of health and safety stuff.
And not be a knob, essentially.

pouffepants Sun 17-Feb-13 19:39:26

This is the problem, I think that we will have serious neighbour problem if I report him. And I mean serious.

I would, without hesitation, risk this if I thought he was being beaten etc, I don't think I'm willing to, for an ill-thought out tattoo or two though.

I'm hoping I can make him see sense himself, but I guess that's too optimistic.

StuntGirl Sun 17-Feb-13 19:41:46

How about hepatitis? Septicemia? AIDS? They worth the risk? Do it anonymously. He's shown enough fecking people for it not to be obviously you who called.

SirBoobAlot Sun 17-Feb-13 19:43:28

I agree with StuntGirl. Completely.

There is so much that can go wrong with a tattoo done at home in a non sterile environment with possibly the wrong equipment and especially on a child.

You don't have to give your name to anyone, just call the police or SS and report it, they will see the evidence for themselves.

Please report this for the lads sake.

pouffepants Sun 17-Feb-13 19:46:09

As far as I know, he's only shown other teenagers.

Also, as far as I know, he says he's the only person who's been tattooed, just while his dad is practising. His sister was supposed to being done too, but she chickened out. So i guess he can't catch stuff?? Or can you just get septicaemia anyway?

quoteunquote Sun 17-Feb-13 19:48:49

If he has shown lots of people how would they know it is you that has reported it?

he could end up with one on his face,

He could end up with septicaemia,hepatitis or both.

let social services know, do it anonymously if you want, then they will not know who it was,

But that child does need an adult to step up for him, before he ends up being persuaded into doing something even more stupid.

TroublesomeEx Sun 17-Feb-13 19:49:39

They won't know it was you who reported him, it could have been someone at school for all they know.

You really do need to report it.

aldiwhore Sun 17-Feb-13 19:49:40

FFS report him. You don't have to tell anyone (even those in your household) that you've done it. You can lie and deny you did it.

But please report him.

catladycourtney1 Sun 17-Feb-13 19:50:21

Hmm I would say to keep out of it. He won't thank you, and he won't listen to you if he won't even listen to his friends. His father has broken the law technically but I don't imagine reporting him will achieve anything - it's not like they can shut him down if he's just tattooing family from home. Anyone can buy a tattooing kit.

I had a friend when I was at school who had a tattoo done by his dad at 14, BUT his dad was a proper tattooist and it was a decent-looking tattoo, if a bit tasteless on a 14-year-old. That was about ten years ago though so it probably looks fine now.

I know it must excruciating to watch him deface himself (or allow his dad to), but there's probably very little you can do about it. Hopefully he'll realise it looks crap, or his dad will change his mind, or if not then he can get them covered up or removed in a few years' time.

StuntGirl Sun 17-Feb-13 19:50:37

I follow this simple rule with my tattooists and piercers: if they break one rule that I know of, what other rules have they broken that I don't know about?

If this idiot is tattooing his CHILD (illegally) then who says he's using brand new needles? Who's to say he's sterilising his equipment? Who's to say he's wearing gloves? Who's to say he's following h&s? It's not like he has the official paperwork to back it up. Althouh lets admit it - its not like he's doing any of fucking that at all.

Report it before he does some serious damage to someone.

SashaSashays Sun 17-Feb-13 19:50:48

Encourage him to show it off at school. I think the teachers are compelled to act in these matters, or if you're worried about repercussions you could report it to the school yourself?

Teenagers getting silly tattoos is nothing new, I have personal experience of this, however if you feel worried about it then you can probably find a way to report it.

VitoCorleone Sun 17-Feb-13 19:52:14

I agree his dad should not be tattooing a 15 year old boy.

And getting his nieces name on his lower stomach? Just plain weird, why would a 15 year old boy even want that?

StuntGirl Sun 17-Feb-13 19:53:21

"His father has broken the law technically but I don't imagine reporting him will achieve anything - it's not like they can shut him down if he's just tattooing family from home. Anyone can buy a tattooing kit."

His father has broken the law period. It is illegal to tattoo minors. Fifteen year old children are minors.

CailinDana Sun 17-Feb-13 19:54:18

Diseases are unlikely, as the needles will probably not have been shared between people, but a nasty infection that could lead to septicaemia is possible. Whether or which a father has permanently marked his son when his son is below the legal age to consent to that. That is abuse and that poor boy will have to live with his ridiculous tattoo or pay for expensive and painful laser surgery to get it removed. I agree with the others that this needs to be reported in order to stop the father marking his son further and possibly endangering his health.

pouffepants Sun 17-Feb-13 19:56:56

The niece's name thing is a bit odd. But the entire family seem to hero worship her, including him.

If anyone accuses him of lying over anything, he'll swear on her name. and the parents go on about their baby granddaughter all the time.

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