to be so bothered by reborn dolls and this ebay situation?

(136 Posts)
grumblinalong Tue 29-Jan-13 17:45:04

I suppose deep down I know aibu, different strokes and all that but my immediate reaction is kind of just to recoil.

I had no idea about reborn dolls until the thread on here the other day. I clicked on the YouTube link and for some reason it bothered me. Don't know why. Couldn't read any more of the thread. Anyway got over it in a second and didn't give it much thought until I have just discovered that I have sold my lovely silver cross pram and car seat, on eBay, for one of these dolls.

The bidder is collecting by bus and I asked if they we're bringing their baby or pregnant because there's quite a lot of kit to carry and I was worried they wouldn't manage. It's for her reborn she replied. I'm annoyed cos I've scrubbed the blasted thing thinking a human baby was going in it and I feel odd about the doll thing. My newborns went in that pram and car seat so I feel attached to it a bit. Maybe this is what's wrong with me, been sterilised so no more newborns for me. Am I weird for being bothered by these dolls? Come on MN, kick my arse (grin)

apostropheuse Tue 29-Jan-13 20:54:05

YABVU

It's absolutely none of your business what she does with an item she now owns.

She's paid you the money so once she picks up the pram it's got nothing to do with you what happens to it. If she wants to put it into her garden and grow plants in it, or give it to the local children to make a go-kart out of, it's her business.

I can't understand people who get attached to inanimate objects. I really can't. For this reason I also think that the reborn dolls are totally bizarre and yes they do freak me out too! grin

TheCatIsEatingIt Tue 29-Jan-13 20:59:51

I'd be creeped out by it too, but once she's won the auction, there's not a lot you can do. Has she been? Did she bring it?

McNewPants2013 Tue 29-Jan-13 21:08:16

See i would love a living dead doll, i find them fascinating.

Can't have one as they would freak out DH and the DC

MajesticWhine Tue 29-Jan-13 21:09:35

YANBU. I would feel the same. When I sell or give away baby kit, I like to imagine another baby getting good use out of it.

delphinedownunder Tue 29-Jan-13 21:16:10

I can see that you might be a bit perplexed at the waste, given that your pram could be put to good use, but she is paying at the end of the day and I would let it go! When I got married, I bought a lovely ivory basque, but didn't wear it as I lost a surprising amount of weight. I sold it and envisaged it going to a bride. It was picked up by a guy who told me very openly he was buying it for himself as he liked to dress up!

lovelyladuree Tue 29-Jan-13 21:16:17

What Worra said. YABU.

LittleChimneyDroppings Tue 29-Jan-13 21:17:25

Its an incorrect assumption that its only the women who have lost a child or who are unable to have children who have these dolls though. I'd quite like one, although I wouldn't want to spend that kind of money on one.

Maryz Tue 29-Jan-13 21:31:37

Imagine the pram vs wheelchair on bus thread if the pram was inhabited by a reborn shock

And why "reborn"? They weren't born in the first place.

And, yes, I also wanted my pass-me-downs to be well-loved and appreciated but they seldom are, even by real babies, so YAB(understandably)U grin

Maryz Tue 29-Jan-13 21:32:31

And [arf] at delphine grin How romantic - NOT!

McNewPants2013 Tue 29-Jan-13 21:36:34
HollyBerryBush Tue 29-Jan-13 21:40:16

I have jumped the tread, so it might have moved on, but based on your OP

I'm annoyed cos I've scrubbed the blasted thing thinking a human baby was going in it and I feel odd about the doll thing

Whether she is putting a baby, a doll or a fecking rabbit with a wooden leg in the pram - you have a duty to sell it as fit for purpose can CLEAN

fishcalledwonder Tue 29-Jan-13 21:41:04

You probably are being very unreasonable, but I would feel exactly the same.

pigletmania Tue 29-Jan-13 21:49:32

Well grumbling its true I have read about women who have lost their babies have dolls made in their image so that it provides a comfort to them. Hw is it offensive just because you have never heard if it. Why don't you tell these women your views and see how far you go!

sukysue Tue 29-Jan-13 21:51:18

they are bloody nuts if you ask me yadnbu!

Maryz Tue 29-Jan-13 22:07:18

You are kidding McNewPants shock.

How did I miss that?

I'm usually on all the buggy/bus/p&cparking threads, I lurve them grin

<off to seethe read>

grumblinalong Tue 29-Jan-13 22:17:30

I am not going to refuse to hand it over. She won it fair and square. I've now arranged to meet her at the bus station so I'm not all bad.

It was clean anyway but I miltoned all the hard bits too because I thought I should.

I have lost a baby (Dd's twin) so I think it's just going to be weird for me to think that a silicone doll gets to go in it. Not a real child.

Pictureperfect Tue 29-Jan-13 22:22:07

I think reborn dolls are one thing but find ones with oxygen, NG tubes and various medical things a bit :/

pigletmania Tue 29-Jan-13 22:23:32

I suppose it's horses for courses if these dolls help the women in whatever way who are we to judge. They are not harming anybody but I can understand why you feel that way. But I guess you put your feelings aside.

Hunnibee66 Mon 17-Jun-13 23:23:04

I must admit that when I first saw them I hated them but I have seen the amount of work that goes into them and the difference they can make to people for all sorts of reasons and have grown to have a grudging respect for them. They can be upwards of £300 for a good quality reborn doll and somebody spent hours painting veins and nail beds, rooting a single hair at a time, building up realistic flesh tones and even adding milia if they are asked to. So it is unlikely to be a toy to this lady and she has chosen your pram and carseat as the pedestals to display this prized possession on to be scrutized by any friends or relatives. Far from feeling weird you should love that your beautiful baby may be the last real child to use it despite it providing a safe place for something that may be helping someone to mend a broken heart for all we know.

theodorakisses Tue 18-Jun-13 08:26:19

I can see how you would feel, especially with something with so many memories attached. I would have to make a feeble excuse and withdraw it. Not in anyway reasonable or sane but it is a free country (well, my opinions on that are another thread entirely but you know what I mean).

FridaKarlov Tue 18-Jun-13 09:07:25

I think that once she's paid for it, it's her business what she uses it for- be it dolls, dogs or whatever.

Those reborn dolls do chill my blood though. I think it's the 'uncanny valley' effect: http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uncanny_valley

A friend of mine saw a lady wheeling one around Chester Zoo in a buggy. I've always wondered if they get a bit embarrassed if someone makes a fuss over the doll, thinking its a real baby.

PeterParkerSays Tue 18-Jun-13 09:14:42

I'd be more weirded out by seeing her on the bus with the blasted doll - surely the fact that she's buying it a pram suggests she's going to take it out in it? confused

I get your feeling of yuck about this, and personally I think I'd prefer a pram to either go to a real baby or something completely different - prop in a play etc. but she has bought it. I also think resepct to her for saying what it's for. She could have said she's buying it for her SiL or something, and not told the truth.

VeganCow Tue 18-Jun-13 09:38:13

YABU. She paid money for it, is going out of her way to collect it. As for treating it with the love and respect you were hoping a new owner would I doubt you have any worries there. Saw a prog on tv once about these reborn obsessives, and I think she will love your pram like no one else could!

lottieandmia Tue 18-Jun-13 09:41:37

I think YABU. If you have a criteria for who you want to buy your stuff then don't sell it on ebay tbh. It's not really even your business who has it once they've paid the money for it, sorry.

AmyFarrahFowlerCooper Tue 18-Jun-13 09:44:17

Considering this happened in January, I suppose she's well over it!

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