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Original poster

to be so bothered by reborn dolls and this ebay situation?

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grumblinalong · 29/01/2013 17:45

I suppose deep down I know aibu, different strokes and all that but my immediate reaction is kind of just to recoil.

I had no idea about reborn dolls until the thread on here the other day. I clicked on the YouTube link and for some reason it bothered me. Don't know why. Couldn't read any more of the thread. Anyway got over it in a second and didn't give it much thought until I have just discovered that I have sold my lovely silver cross pram and car seat, on eBay, for one of these dolls.

The bidder is collecting by bus and I asked if they we're bringing their baby or pregnant because there's quite a lot of kit to carry and I was worried they wouldn't manage. It's for her reborn she replied. I'm annoyed cos I've scrubbed the blasted thing thinking a human baby was going in it and I feel odd about the doll thing. My newborns went in that pram and car seat so I feel attached to it a bit. Maybe this is what's wrong with me, been sterilised so no more newborns for me. Am I weird for being bothered by these dolls? Come on MN, kick my arse (grin)

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grumblinalong · 29/01/2013 17:46

Were bringing, sorry.

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RooneyMara · 29/01/2013 17:46

Oh goodness, I'm no help I'm afraid, I'd be bothered too Sad

Bobyan · 29/01/2013 17:49

Borrow a baby,get it to cover the items in half masticated biscuit and then hand them over?

I'm not sure why but I'm annoyed on your behalf!

littleduckie · 29/01/2013 17:51

that would bother me too

MimmeeBack · 29/01/2013 17:51

I'm not a fan of the reborn dolls either.
However, she did pay for them. If you had given them away believing that they would be well used for a baby, I could understand the irritation, but she paid the same money as anyone might have. YABU I'm afraid.

BabyRoger · 29/01/2013 17:52

I don't know why but I would be bothered too.

I suppose you become a bit attached to your babies things and you want them to go to a nice new snuggly baby for their benefit not a weird doll

LegoAcupuncture · 29/01/2013 17:53

Hmm, not sure. It is a bit odd to buy a pram and car seat for a reborn doll, but definitely not unheard of. I can understand why you're feeling like this.

On the same vein, I advertised a brand new pack of dado rail on freecycle and had loads of people wanting it. Gave it to the fist person to ask and when they turned up they said it as to fix a hole in his pigeon coop. Would have preferred it to go to a better use, ie someone who used it for is original purpose!

pictish · 29/01/2013 17:53

Yes the dolls are freakish, but they're ultimately harmless, and the woman is paying money same as anyone else. Yabu.

HecateWhoopass · 29/01/2013 17:54

You've sold them. Does it matter who to? Surely all that matters is you get the cash?
Sorry, I must be missing the point. It wouldn't be the first time! But there's no shortage of prams and car seats, no real child will be unable to have one because this womans bought yours.
And you've got the cash!
Grin

No arse kicking from me, cos clearly there's some emotionhere that I am missing, I just ddon't understand what it is.

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 29/01/2013 17:55

I know a couple of people who have these dolls, they can bring a lot of comfort to people. I do think YABU to be bothered that you have cleaned something you are taking money for, regardless of whats going in it the buyer still deserves a clean pram.

RooneyMara · 29/01/2013 17:55

I can't work out why this bothers me. I think I find it kind of taking the piss of real babies, real mothers...none of the work, the reality of the job that is motherhood - just a toy to play with.

It's like someone buying your expensive, handmade paintbrushes that you got for oil painting and using them for a child's colouring pad. It's pretending to be a mother, for whatever reasons (and they may be very sad ones I know).

That's possibly what gets on my nerves.

MrsHavisham · 29/01/2013 17:56

Thread about a thread?

GwendolineMaryLacey · 29/01/2013 17:56

I'd be bothered too. I actually sold our big travel system yesterday and, luckily, the woman who turned up to collect was extremely pregnant! Even so, I choked back a sob as she wheeled it down the path. Even though she paid good money etc I wouldn't have liked it to go to a doll.

Catchingmockingbirds · 29/01/2013 17:56

The dolls in general make me feel uncomfortable, they look like dead babies to me as they're so still and lifelike, but I don't think yab too reasonable in being annoyed as she's paid for the items.

HeadfirstForHalos · 29/01/2013 17:58

My first reaction is that it would make me uncomfortable too. However, she must have her reasons for having a reborn doll and wanting a pram for it, so I'd think of the happiness it will bring her and hand over the pram with a smile.

WowOoo · 29/01/2013 17:58

Wouldn't bother me. In theory.

It is a bit unusual - but if I want to sell something I won't choose who will have it and what they'll use it for....I'd never sell it otherwise.

wonderingsoul · 29/01/2013 17:58

ybvu

she paid for it what does it matter to you if wanted to use it in a blow up experiment.

its no longer yours n dont see why you care. if youd given it awsy I could mayb see your point,

hoodoo12345 · 29/01/2013 17:59

Why does it matter?
At least it will be well looked after.

I don't see the problem people have with reborns,it seems no different from collecting trains or model cars.

frasersmummy · 29/01/2013 17:59

I just had to google reborn dolls and ugghh.. just uggh..some of the images just make me think of my darling stillborn son

i guess someone is entitled to buy your pram for whatever they want .. their money is as good as someone elses

but why would you buy a proper pram and car seat for lets face it.. a doll .. its not a baby ...

I realise I will get flamed for this .. cos part of me is in agreement that each to their own.. but its just too weird for words and I would feel odd when they took the pram for this

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 29/01/2013 18:01

Those dolls r not for me , however those who have them love and care for them as much as you do for your babies. The buggy will probably be treated with the love and respect that u had for it, minus the baby vomit and squished raisins. they still deserve to
Have a clean functioning item, whether or not a human baby goes in it you should still be selling it clean.

As bad as u feel about it, Remenber that the person buying it feels worse for she won't have her own baby.

cozietoesie · 29/01/2013 18:01

From seeing a recent documentary on the subject, it seems that reborn 'mothers' are even more pernickety about condition etc than ordinary Mums. Although I can understand how you feel (I find them a bit creepy) I reckon that that pram will be lovingly cared for for many years to come.

And, after all, she won it fair and square.

CloudsAndTrees · 29/01/2013 18:02

YABVU.

If you are that attached to your things then don't sell them. But as you have already made the choice to sell them, I can't see what your problem is. It makes no difference if someone just bought your pram because they wanted the wheels for a go cart, their money is the same.

I'm creeped out by those dolls too, but once you have sold something, you have sold it. You don't get to stipulate how it gets used when it no longer belongs to you.

RoomForASmallOne · 29/01/2013 18:03

YADNBU.

WorraLiberty · 29/01/2013 18:04

Teensy bit of getting over yourself to be done here OP

bringnbuy · 29/01/2013 18:05

whilst i can unerstand the emotional attachment getting rid of something that belonged to one of your kids i don't get your being so bothered about the buyer putting a 'doll' in is as opposed to human flesh. just thank your lucky stars that YOU were in a position to use it for what it was intended whilst she is putting a man made item in there at a guess because she can't have a baby of her own.