my mum passed away mid november, although terminally ill it was quite unexpected. since then none of my friends have visited me or asked to meet up ect. i have had three texts one saying friend has been really busy at work, fair enough but plastered all over facebook are night out photos ect. male friend said he would have come round but thinks dp would find it weird him visiting. dp has never before been bothered by him coming round and doesnt do jealous at all. and other friends with dc who we all usually exchange presents over christmas have just totally avoided us too. im aware ive not been the.most fun to be around over christmas but ive been okay. a coffee with a friend and the chance to talk would of been nice. ive even asked to go out ect but just get excuses why its not convenient.
diddl
Sun 06-Jan-13 18:28:18
They don´t have to say anything though-just be there.
I lost my Mum many years ago now-but the first time I saw my best friend after, we both just burst into tears & hugged.
that sounds like a good friendship I either have rubbish friends or emotionally challenged friends
diddl
Sun 06-Jan-13 18:49:24
Yes.
We´ve been friends the best part of 50yrs!
But really there isn´t much anyone can say.
Just listen & sympathise-it´s not that hard to do!
Mid 20s can be very selfish, unfortunately.
I am early 20s I hope I'm not selfish, even if I felt uncomfortable I'd try my best though which is maybe the difference
