If I ask you to humor me and engage in a moment of possible woo?

(103 Posts)
NeverWinsMNComps Sat 29-Dec-12 22:22:52

I joined MN a few years ago, around the time of the accidental-swimming-pool-undressing (your Minge!) and the shat-upon-pouffe, if I remember correctly. (Pouffe as in footstool, before anybody gets upset) I've namechanged for this as I'm a little too identifiable under my usual nickname. What follows is a bit of a "thought experiment"

Lately (The last year or so) things have not been good. My marriage is rocky. I don't have any family near me and don't get much time to see friends. We're skint. We both work, but by the time I've paid for childcare and petrol I actually struggle to afford food. (It's not helped by the fact that I've had a client skip out on a big bill and another caught up in a year-long bureaucratic snafu delaying payment) I suffer with long-term depression and sometimes can't afford AD's, which leaves me sobbing and contemplating suicide. The worst part is the gut-wrenching feeling when I check my bank balance or go to use my debit card, never sure whether there will be enough to cover basic needs. There's always the hope that one of my outstanding accounts will have paid up, and when I see that they haven't... the disappointment and stress just re-ignites itself every time.

My point is, I've been knee deep in shit and I really need some kind of "win" in my life (not necessarily of the MN comp variety, nickname notwithstanding). Call it karma or good luck or cosmic ordering or an actual honest-to-goodness Christmas Miracle, if you like. I know there are people worse off than me and I'm sure there are people more deserving of sympathy.

But if you've managed to read this far, what I'm asking is for you to take a moment and send me good will. Say a prayer, think positive thoughts, send good vibes, cast a spell, light a candle, summon positive energy, or wave some flaming sage about the place with wild abandon... and then point some in my general direction. I know it's the most apalling pile of superstitious woo, and quite unmumsnetty to boot. But I've got nothing to lose and you never know--maybe it will work. (At the very least, it will make me feel better if I think some total strangers give a monkeys!)

Thanks for reading.

peaceandlovebunny Sat 29-Dec-12 22:24:44

you need people to do it together. set a time.

hermioneweasley Sat 29-Dec-12 22:26:00

Hi neverwins. I hope things get better for you. I deeply believe that what we give our energy and focus to grows and develops, so if you think about people feeling positively towards you and wishing you well, it certainly cAn't hurt, but you probably need a more concrete plan.......

In the meantime, I am wishing you well.

Nixea Sat 29-Dec-12 22:26:49

Total stranger giving a monkeys here smile Sorry you've had such a shit time of it. I'm not religious or woo-ish but I'll send you some good wishes....and may even light something from the spice cupboard as that sounds like fun!

LRDtheFeministDude Sat 29-Dec-12 22:27:42

I've no idea if it'd work but if it makes you feel better, I'm up for it! I'd offer to wave the sage but a prayer is more my line.

I hope things get better for you very soon. Take care of yourself. And please go see the GP about the depression, it is appalling if you can't afford to be on the meds all the time and they should be finding a way to sort that out.

Wishing you well, hope things start to look up for you.

I love a bit of positivity me. It may be woo, but it's woo I'd like to believe in.

MerryChristMoose Sat 29-Dec-12 22:29:50

The First Nations people here call bundles of burning sage "smudges".

I have one to hand and I am smudging in your general direction smile

BOFingSanta Sat 29-Dec-12 22:30:01

I'm sending you good vibes. Especially as you mentioned my shitty pouffe thread grin.

NeverWinsMNComps Sat 29-Dec-12 22:30:26

I do have plans hermione, but snafus happen. But I take peace & love's point about setting a time. <the pressure of choosing a time!>

Ok... 11am Sunday? People will be up and breakfasted, etc. by then and have time to log on.

NeverWinsMNComps Sat 29-Dec-12 22:31:33

Yay to burning the contents of the spice cupboard!

WorraLorraTurkey Sat 29-Dec-12 22:31:50

I think you need to take control of your life, relationship and finances rather than engaging in woo.

Why are you responsible for the childcare and food bill if you can't afford it?

If you suffer from depression then your ADs should definitely be a priority.

Can you sit yourself down with a pen and paper and sort something out...then have a chat with your DH?

Who knows, if you both find some peace from the solutions your marriage might be a little less strained?

redexpat Sat 29-Dec-12 22:32:02

I don't think anyone who read the minge story could ever forget you! grin And you carried on after that, so you can carry on now!

I'm sending good vibes for the new year.

NeverWinsMNComps Sat 29-Dec-12 22:32:02

<toasts marshmallows over spicy flames>

EugenesAxeChoppedDownANiceTree Sat 29-Dec-12 22:34:04

Do you fuck. I'll wish everything you like for you; if it is destined to happen it will. If it isn't, it won't.

Be kind to yourself and others whatever befalls.

BOFingSanta Sat 29-Dec-12 22:34:23

I'm not big on woo. But there's no harm in taking solace from the kind wishes of strangers. That said, yes, can we help you organise things more effectively?

EugenesAxeChoppedDownANiceTree Sat 29-Dec-12 22:35:02

Sorry that was after reading lovebunny's comment.

Nixea Sat 29-Dec-12 22:36:38

I agree with BOF (lost track of how many times I've thought that!)

If and when you're ready, people on here can be amazingly supportive and shockingly practical. Until then though, bring on the oregano! If nothing else it might raise your spirits for a short while to know that people care.

Tortington Sat 29-Dec-12 22:41:34

i have some bodyshop 'sensualite tropical' thats about as woo as i get. so am rubbing mysef with the oil and thinking of you grin

seriously though am pazzazzing good things your way x

I will send positive thoughts.

But can I ask, you write that you are married but you have to pay childcare and food. Is this so? What does your husband contribute?

SugaricePlumFairy Sat 29-Dec-12 22:48:51

Sending a mahoosive great dollop of good luck sprinkles your way!!

Positive thinking and a dose of hard faced realism also helps with shite situations.

You will get there.

Huge amount of good vibes winging its way to you from me. Can't hurt can it?

MushyPeace Sat 29-Dec-12 22:57:05

I've got a candle lit at the moment so am sending you double woo.

Here's to 2013, OP.

SageStuffingYourOrifice Sat 29-Dec-12 23:03:53

Did you mention sage? Here I am!

Sorry you've been having such a hard time. I think Worra's advice and that of other posters is good but I will send a prayer your way just in case.

coffeeinbed Sat 29-Dec-12 23:07:43

Good luck from me.

Hang on, <rummages in spice rack> I'm all out of sage, will mixed herbs do until I get to the shops? smile

Doesn't sending positive thoughts make you feel more positive somehow? (Well it does me anyway).

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