I have had a falling out with my Dsis about 6 months ago.
She found out about a close and long term family friend of hers who had taken advantage of her vulnerable daughter at the age of 17. This friend had started picking my niece up from her boyfriend's house after they had argued, (which was happening often) taking her to his house, getting her drunk and having sex with her, on several occasions. It ended when my niece managed to tell him to leave her alone but she spent a year living away from home in breakdown, becoming hospitalised twice, before my sister found out this year.
My Dsis has said a few things about this that really disturbed me:
She refused to tell my niece's father about this because she said he was emotionally vulnerable and really relied upon my niece for support.
She told a mutual friend that Dniece had done something really bad and that she (Dsis) couldn't hold her head up walking down the street because of it.
She said she could understand the 'friend' becoming attracted to my niece because she was so voluptuous.
Shortly before Dsis found out, she had been taking cocaine with Dniece and the 'friend' together at a weekend away - she said that's when she noticed their body language together was strange.
Shortly after Dsis found out, the 'friend' fell and broke some ribs. She said she would go and visit him in hospital as she knew how much that could hurt having broken a rib herself in the past.
She said that she understood why Dniece hadn't told her anything all this time as she had agreed with the 'friend' not to tell anyone and that was fine.
Dsis has a history of mental issues and I'm the one in my family left carrying the responsibility of being there for her. After trying to offer some (asked for) advice and getting a barrage of justifications I gave up and we haven't spoken for 6 months.
Now it's xmas and Dsis has texted to say shall we just forget about it and have some fun together?
I will go and see the family, and I won't bring this up, what I want to know is - is it ok to briefly mention in my email to her that although I don't want to go into it all over again, I still feel upset by her actions.
I feel so bad for my niece but nothing can be done now.
I feel that I can't just accept her invite and brush over all this.
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Should I be frank with Dsis or brush it under the carpet?
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CuttedUpPear · 21/12/2012 10:49
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