to think i should go put sexy underwear on before sex with my husband?

(44 Posts)
Buddhagirl Thu 06-Dec-12 23:36:43

I don't go to the toilet and slip into something sexy and fix my hair and make up before sex.

Anyone else always do this? I'm becoming paranoid that its "what proper women do".

NagooHoHoHo Thu 06-Dec-12 23:39:26

You should be sexy and beautiful AT ALL TIMES you terrible slattern. It should be unnecesaary to make any adjustments to your attire or appearance. All that should be done before he gets in from his hard day at work.

DH doesn't care and neither do I. He hates kissing make up though.

Don't put lipstick on your Fanjo then.

<<helpful>>

SoleSource Thu 06-Dec-12 23:41:54

Make him wear it. Hth.

grin

doyouwantfrieswiththat Thu 06-Dec-12 23:43:24

Is that after you've polished your children to perfection to greet their daddy and sat him down in a comfy chair with a nice glass of whiskey to ask about his trying day?

I do at least brush my teeth, it's only polite. I can't imagine where the magic went....

LRDtheFeministDude Thu 06-Dec-12 23:46:37

confused

No, I don't.

How would you work the timing? Would it not spoil the mood a tiny bit?

I've been known to check we've got condoms beforehand, if that helps you.

FaffTastic Thu 06-Dec-12 23:47:42

If I'm making a night of it then, yes, I sometimes do put stockings and sexy underwear on etc

If it's an impromptu quickie or shag before bed then no, my knickers don't tend to stay on long enough for it to be noticed what I'm wearing.

Buddhagirl Thu 06-Dec-12 23:48:29

Thank feck for that...I thought i was going crazy there for a bit.

I probably should stop wearing trackie bottoms most days im in the house. God ive only been married 5 months, paranoia much??

LRDtheFeministDude Thu 06-Dec-12 23:50:29

Wear what the fuck you like. Just probably best not to talk about it on the net in the small hours as some pervert who can't get it up will probably home in on it.

ravenAK Thu 06-Dec-12 23:50:48

I've been known to check I'm wearing laydeez pants, since apparently this is important in Keeping The Magic Alive.

Apparently a faded Motorhead t-shirt teamed with a pair of boxers he rejected from his own pants drawer some years ago does not = the siren he vaguely recalls marrying.

SHoHoHodan Thu 06-Dec-12 23:55:15

My DH appears to find trackie bottoms most alluring, I have to say.

Ditto fluffy dressing gowns worn with thick socks and mis-matched pyjamas, especially when worn while dancing to a delightful rendition of 'If you think I'm sexy'.

You could try adding that to your repertoire?

TenPercenter Thu 06-Dec-12 23:55:24

Does he primp about and put sexy undies on for you? If the answer is no, you have your own answer. My (d)p doesn't even bother to shower, which is probably why I reject his advances.

Witchety Thu 06-Dec-12 23:56:30

Sounds alright to me
raven !!

Themumsnotroastingonanopenfire Fri 07-Dec-12 00:01:09

DH is lucky if I remember to take my socks off first.

McChristmasPants2012 Fri 07-Dec-12 00:11:14

DH once bought me crotchless underwear sexy and easy access smile

whois Fri 07-Dec-12 00:27:21

Depends.

If I've come back from playing a match and showered anyway then I might change into some sexy undies for later. Wouldn't bother If we were just having a quickie before bed tho!

SinisterBuggyMonth Fri 07-Dec-12 01:15:00

DP (and several exPs) always say "whats the point of putting it on if it only ends up being taken off?"

I cant decide if this means I look better naked/i cant really carry sexy undies/my Ps are incredibly lazy about the removal of clothes!

DoingItOntheRoofTopWithSanta Fri 07-Dec-12 01:30:09

In a lingerie shop a few months ago that specialized in nursing bras... All were properly covered in ruffles an tarted up.. the woman informed me how proud she was to stock it all as it is very important that women can get back to their partners so the don't feel left out and the magic doesn't die etc confused

Didn't buy anything... was hoping for stretch cotton pop a boob out bras! Can't we ever just be us? Why don't men have to sneak out an put on sexy pants?

CordeliaChase Fri 07-Dec-12 01:51:18

I have to admit I like dressing up for my DH. We have at least one night a month of dressing up, and sex is getting back on track after two years of me fending him off haha!

AdoraJingleBells Fri 07-Dec-12 01:57:08

My underwear is always sexy. No, hang on - I've forgotten something. Ah yes, that's only in OH's dreams grin

misterwife Fri 07-Dec-12 02:02:55

What is this 'underwear' of which people speak?

It's good to wear sexy stuff if it makes you feel good/makes you and your DP feel like you're making a night of it, but realistically, men don't care and just want to get to the fleshy bit. I do realise I could have put that better...

monsterchild Fri 07-Dec-12 02:33:16

My Dh prefers me nekkid. So taking off whatever I'm wearing is part of the foreplay. Unless it's really cold, then we have snowbunny sex, exposing as little as possible, as quickly as possible!

i am on my first weekend away with DH in 8 years!!!!

I have brought matching underwear. This is what narks DH most, the mismatched undies.

And yes to answer the question he DOES wear sexy undies for me, a nice fresh white pair of tight Calvins....mmmmm mmmh!

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