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To ask mothers of grown up sons what, if anything, their son has done to a woman that they are embarrassed about?

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ATouchOfStuffing Sun 02-Dec-12 16:46:46

I see so many posts about apparently horrid and unfair men on here, I wanted to see it from the mother's view point. I know from my experience that mothers sometimes find it hard to believe their son would behave badly or hurtfully. However some mum's must have a few stories? <Wonders if mothers ever really know full story!>

notnagging Mon 03-Dec-12 12:08:14

Really interesting thread op. I have 5ds & I hope I'm not blinkered. My own DM is blinkered about my db but I think she's waking up now.

Pandemoniaa Mon 03-Dec-12 12:27:14

I have sons of 31 and 29. I would not be at all sympathetic if I discovered that they had behaved badly or hurtfully towards a woman. I would avoid taking sides (as my former MIL did) and would hope to maintain a good relationship with their former partners.

Having said all this, I am equally aware that I can't expect to know every single detail of their lives - as indeed my mother wasn't aware of mine. In this respect, I am fairly sure that ds1 did not break off a relationship he had in the USA in as thoughtful a way as I'd have liked and I did tell him this despite not knowing the girl.

Slumberparty Mon 03-Dec-12 12:34:37

One of my ex's was a bit of a loser who had been in trouble a lot in the past. His mum LOVED me! Said I was so good for her son and really went out of her way to make me feel welcome...I think because she knew I would probably dump him eventually. When I finally did she phoned to commiserate, and told me that it was a shame, but she didn't blame me! She was under no illusions about what her son was like. (He wasn't a bad person, just self-destructive and a bit of an idiot at times).
She was the best thing about my ex.

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