To question whether you can really love someone after a couple of dates?!

(61 Posts)
Fondantfancy99 Mon 26-Nov-12 13:15:04

Friend has just met a new guy online dating. Very happy for her but also slightly concerned - they have already exchanged I love yous (after about 5 dates) and she has introduced him to her entire family including aunties and uncles! I've witnessed some fast-moving relationships in the past (including me and DP who moved in together after a few months) but this is a new extreme!

I personally think it takes a while longer to really love someone. AIBU?

Crinkle77 Mon 26-Nov-12 18:45:56

I think you know you have met 'the one' pretty much straighaway. I know it is a cliche but sometimes you just have that spark and you know if it is something special

DisappointedHorse Mon 26-Nov-12 18:48:25

We said I love You on our second date.

Really though, I loved him before I met him, We used to talk and email every day through work even though we were in different location (Gavin and Stacey!)

It's worked out so far 14 years on, it can happen.

I think you can love someone that quickly.

When I was 15 I had a boyfriend - I was a very young 15 we only ever went to a film and a little kiss or two, nothing more. That boyfriend got beaten up one day and his best friend called me to let me know what had happened. As soon as I spoke to his friend on the phone I was smitten and we ended up meeting up a week or two later and now 14 years later here I am married to him grin.

from the first time we met up (bearing in mind we lived 200 miles away from each other at the time!). I never doubted that we would be togethee long term and neither did her (or so he says!).

I did feel guilty for about 20 seconds about the whole beaten up thing and how dh and I got together - but hey - I was 15 and its the way of love!

R2PeePoo Mon 26-Nov-12 18:57:42

Met on 20th April. Engaged on 13 June the same year. He said I love you after a few weeks.

We were students and we spent almost every day together.
I knew he was a good, kind, lovely man almost from the beginning.

That was 12 years and 2 DC ago. We are both fatter and tireder but hes still the one for me.

FamiliesShareGerms Mon 26-Nov-12 19:01:28

Yes, I can give lots of examples of fast moving relationships that have hone the distance (eg married within 6 months, celebrating ruby wedding anniversary next year). And (now) DH talked about our wedding the second day we met...

The early days "I have just met you and I know you're The One and it's all so brilliant" type love is v different, though, to the long term "we have been together ages and no one knows me like you and i still know you're The One" type love.

catcalledginger Mon 26-Nov-12 19:01:42

Yes definitely.

I said 'I love you' on our fifth date. I had no idea where it came from. I just sort of blurted it out (after trying to stop myself). Was 35 at time. We got engaged/lived together after six months and married eighteen months after that. Six years on and we are still happily together.

skaen Mon 26-Nov-12 19:02:56

DH and I were friends at first sight! I fancied him too but mostly we really liked each other.

Although I knew I loved him very early, I didn't tell him for ages and he declared first. 15 years ago now!

TwoFacedCows Mon 26-Nov-12 19:40:46

i fell in love with my DH on first sight, we had been talking online previously. We didnt exchange i love yous until much later. I knew straight away that he was the one for me

lessthan9lives Mon 26-Nov-12 20:48:20

First date on Friday.
I love you on Tuesday (only because I was working the whole weekend or it would have been Saturday).
Engaged after ten days.
Married after 11 months.
Still married and going strong after five years.

I didn't know you could love another person so much until I met DH.

IfNotNowThenWhen Mon 26-Nov-12 21:10:51

JuliaScurr-No, they are still young and fit and a bit immature grin
<ponders>
I think that may be where I am going wrong!

Oblomov Tue 27-Nov-12 06:30:06

LessThan9 = Craig David's lyricist:

First date on Friday
took her for a drink engaged on Tuesday
we were making love married by Wednesday
in love and still shagging on Thursday & Friday & Saturday
we chilled on Sunday
grin

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