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To think me posting a pic of myself and boyfriend on Facebook is not wrong?

(78 Posts)
InterstateSally Sun 25-Nov-12 11:23:36

Been together just under 6 months. He's worried sick about upsetting his kids (been divorced 2 years and his kids are 15 and 17 btw) and doesn't want me posting anything on Facebook about 'us' for that reason - yet he reckons he's told them about me!!??

Ages ago he said "you can put stuff on facebook, just don't tag me in it"

I have a lovely pic of us both together in a nightclub, a professional one. WIBU to upload it as my profile pic??

WakeyCakey Wed 28-Nov-12 21:07:24

Yea she has been in step parenting, can't remember what it was...something like how early on in your relationship did you meet dp's children?

Search the OP's name, she has posted 5 times this weekend under this name, and it seems likely that she has posted before under different names.

bradywasmyfavouriteking Sun 25-Nov-12 19:42:14

Only about 12 times in the last 3 monthsish.

That's what I have seen. Haven't seen any in step parenting and I am sure I haven't seen all the ones in here. although I am always on mn

mrskeithrichards Sun 25-Nov-12 19:26:43

I take it the op has posted about this before then?

Maybe he feels like a silly old fool for posing, in a nightclub, for a professional photo, in his forties?

Is he Peter Stringfellow?

Catsmamma Sun 25-Nov-12 18:45:15

you are, to steal a phrase from Friends, his twinky in the city.

if you are looking for more you are going to be disappointed.

Floggingmolly Sun 25-Nov-12 18:35:49

Who does he introduce you to as his girlfriend; when you're not "necessarily ever" going to meet his children?

WakeyCakey Sun 25-Nov-12 18:29:49

Just get rid ffs! Getting a bit tired of your threads on here relationships and step-parenting!
I don't think he wants to be in a relationship with you, sorry

bradywasmyfavouriteking Sun 25-Nov-12 17:00:24

Oh my fucking god op.

This has been going on since you had been seeing him 12 weeks.

You are a girlfriend not a partner and he doesn't want to introduce you yet. Either accept or move on.

For the love of god why are you posting the same thing over and over. Why is fb so important.

Why don't you listen to any advice?

usualsuspect3 Sun 25-Nov-12 16:42:38

Some people don't want their lives all over FB.

6 months is not a long term relationship really.

oldraver Sun 25-Nov-12 16:38:19

Have you posted before lots of times about the same thing or am I thinking of someone else ?

brdgrl Sun 25-Nov-12 13:49:41

He's perfectly reasonable to not want his photo posted on facebook.

However, you are focusing on the wrong thing. He doesn't want people to know about you. The photo is not the point.

TakeMyEyesButNotTheGoat Sun 25-Nov-12 13:44:22

OP did this the other day too, under a different name, 5 threads all about this same issue.

I suspect you are the 'blowing hot & cold' poster too.

Get a fucking grip.

My feeling is, he doesn't want you meeting his kids because he is sensing bunny boiler tendencies!

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 25-Nov-12 13:42:14

There are lots of people with lots of different reasons for not wanting thier face on facebook.

YABU

pinkyredrose Sun 25-Nov-12 13:37:34

OP you've started five threads about this guy since yesterday! Maybe he doesn't want you to meet his kids because you're too intense? Just a thought.

If it isn't working then get rid, jeez!

bondigidum Sun 25-Nov-12 13:31:44

I think its perfectly plausible that he doesn't want his kids to know after less than 6 months. It doesn't matter how old they are, it still can be a very sensitive and raw situation. I actually think its very mature not to introduce your kids until at the very least a year. I know if DH and I ever split and met someone new we are in agreement we wouldn't introduce until at least a year.

Fyi I only first met my dads gf by accident because we bumped into one another when I was 16. He didn't tell me about her until I was 15? and he'd been with her for around 4 years by this point. He just wanted to keep our close relationship seperate to his private relationship.

Its also plausible he's really married. I'd do what person said and leave something at his mum's house and go back for it at a random time.

StewieGriffinsMom Sun 25-Nov-12 13:08:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ChippingInLovesAutumn Sun 25-Nov-12 13:04:49

<sigh>

onetiredmummy Sun 25-Nov-12 13:03:59

Leave something at his mum's house by accident then go & get it at an unexpected time, you will meet his mum & can find out if he's married.

Sorry to point out the bleeding obvious but its easy to leave a few clothes & toiletries plus an old music system & TV in your old room then claim to be living there.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Sun 25-Nov-12 12:54:40

I'm with squeakytoy.

And with all the other PPs that say get shot of this twit.

squeakytoy Sun 25-Nov-12 12:53:08

how many weeks has this been going on.. why not just tag the fucker and see what happens??

AnyFucker Germany Sun 25-Nov-12 12:49:12

you again ?

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Sun 25-Nov-12 12:46:18

Why can't you just ask him if he minds?

If he says no, then accept it. It's up to him if he wants his picture posted on Facebook or not.

If he has asked you not to post anything about the two of you together, then respect his wishes. He is an adult with his own mind and it's not up to you to decide whether he is right or wrong. It's his choice.

LineRunner Sun 25-Nov-12 12:25:21

Where did you meet him, OP?

whois Sun 25-Nov-12 12:17:28

I think you would be U to tag but not post.

Even if he has told his kids ts a real slap in the face to see a photo d dad with the new bit of skirt.

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