To think me posting a pic of myself and boyfriend on Facebook is not wrong?

(78 Posts)
InterstateSally Sun 25-Nov-12 11:23:36

Been together just under 6 months. He's worried sick about upsetting his kids (been divorced 2 years and his kids are 15 and 17 btw) and doesn't want me posting anything on Facebook about 'us' for that reason - yet he reckons he's told them about me!!??

Ages ago he said "you can put stuff on facebook, just don't tag me in it"

I have a lovely pic of us both together in a nightclub, a professional one. WIBU to upload it as my profile pic??

TheNebulousBoojum Sun 25-Nov-12 11:46:31

Are you going to any Christmas dos with his workmates?

ItsALongWayToPickAWilly Sun 25-Nov-12 11:46:51

I wouldn't say it was unnatural to have not met any of his family after 6 months. I don't think I introduced DP until nearly a year in, I'm quite a private person though.

He does sound as if he's hiding something though. I'd put it as my profile picture, see what his reaction is and decide what he's up to from there.

KenLeeeeeee Sun 25-Nov-12 11:48:10

I'd bet my left tit that his family know nothing of you. And half of my right tit that he's not divorced.

This.

YANBU, he is very unreasonable. Like the others say, it sounds to me as though they don't know about you.

LineRunner Sun 25-Nov-12 11:52:45

I know we might seem a cynical bunch, OP, but it's sadly from experience of human nature.

You will kind of know deep down if your boyfriend's reactions are proportionate or not.

You've at least met his friends? That's a bit of a give-away.

InterstateSally Sun 25-Nov-12 11:52:57

No I'm not invited to any of his Christmas work do's although he tells me he'll be going on about 4 of them. No suggestions of me meeting his mum over Christmas (which considering he mentioned me meeting her months ago you would have thought Christmas would be the perfect opportunity).

AlphaBeta82 Sun 25-Nov-12 11:54:46

I had something very similar and turned out man was 'happily' married!

AlphaBeta82 Sun 25-Nov-12 11:54:49

I had something very similar and turned out man was 'happily' married!

TheNebulousBoojum Sun 25-Nov-12 11:54:58

Perhaps you are the OW, OP.

InterstateSally Sun 25-Nov-12 11:55:20

We see each other about 3/4 nights a week. He spends all of Saturday day time with me up until about 3pm when he goes to pick up his kids.

If I cancel and ask to arrange for another night, he'll do it.

He never seems to have any night that he isn't available apart from the nights he has his kids. I honestly don't think he'd have the time to see anyone else.

I just don't understand why he wants to keep me from everyone he knows. I've met some of his friends and he always introduces me without hesitation.

InterstateSally Sun 25-Nov-12 11:56:11

I've only met his friends by accident btw - bumping into them whilst out.

AlienRefluxLooksLikeSnow Sun 25-Nov-12 11:56:27

Hmmmm, I'd be skeptical at this point, do you want to know the truth or are you happily ignorant? It would be killing me til I got to the bottom of it, I think he's lying to you FWIW

LineRunner Sun 25-Nov-12 11:57:11

Do you sleep over at each other's houses? (If you don't mind me asking.)

AlienRefluxLooksLikeSnow Sun 25-Nov-12 11:57:12

But when you do, does he introduce you as his grilfriend/partner what ever?

kinkyfuckery Sun 25-Nov-12 11:57:53

Have you been to his house?

SundaeGirl Sun 25-Nov-12 11:59:01

He's seeing someone else. Or wants to be.

LineRunner Sun 25-Nov-12 11:59:17

<directs spotlight into OP's face>

InterstateSally Sun 25-Nov-12 12:03:02

He sleeps at my house (he's living with his mum at the moment, I know this to be true as I have been to his mum's house, just that she wasn't in at the time) and he does introduce me as his girlfriend.

AnnaFurLact1c Sun 25-Nov-12 12:03:10

why do you keep posting again and again and again?

wasting everyone's time with the same issue.

im confused. can you answer why you keep doing it?

AnnaFurLact1c Sun 25-Nov-12 12:04:05

people give you advice and then it goes quiet for a week and then you name change and ask the same thing. Or you ask why we think he is blowing hot and cold.

mrskeithrichards Sun 25-Nov-12 12:04:15

Does he wear kids pants?

TroublesomeEx Sun 25-Nov-12 12:05:55

1) He's not divorced.
2) He's not even unhappily married.
3) He hasn't told his kids about you.
4) He has no intention of telling his kids about you.
5) He's just having a 'bit of fun' whatever his situation, and doesn't see you in his life in any meaningful capacity.

Sorry, I just can't think of a positive slant to put on this. I can't imagine many men worry about what a 15 and 17 year old would think of a new girlfriend 2 years after a divorce.

mrskeithrichards Sun 25-Nov-12 12:06:26

So he takes you to his mums house but only when she's out? How old are you all?

TroublesomeEx Sun 25-Nov-12 12:07:42

oh x post.

Petershadow Sun 25-Nov-12 12:08:17

Oh fgs, some people aren't ready for family introductions at 6 months

I think some people need to be sure before intros are made
And some people can't be certain at 6 months

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