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AIBU?

To think me posting a pic of myself and boyfriend on Facebook is not wrong?

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InterstateSally · 25/11/2012 11:23

Been together just under 6 months. He's worried sick about upsetting his kids (been divorced 2 years and his kids are 15 and 17 btw) and doesn't want me posting anything on Facebook about 'us' for that reason - yet he reckons he's told them about me!!??

Ages ago he said "you can put stuff on facebook, just don't tag me in it"

I have a lovely pic of us both together in a nightclub, a professional one. WIBU to upload it as my profile pic??

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kinkyfuckery · 25/11/2012 11:24

Why would it be unreasonable? He's said he's okay about you posting things, just don't tag him.

I'd be concerned about the whys though!

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Novia · 25/11/2012 11:26

So long as you don't tag him in it, what difference would it make to him? Presumably his kids aren't your FB friends so wouldn't see it til he linked to your profile?

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TheNebulousBoojum · 25/11/2012 11:26

Make your profile private as well, so only your friends can see it.

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frootshoots · 25/11/2012 11:26

Hmm, worried about the 'kids' eh? That ol' chestnut!

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LineRunner · 25/11/2012 11:28

I guess he doesn't want his family to see you two together. 'Worried sick' is quite a strong reaction tbh. Do you have any idea why?

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valiumredhead · 25/11/2012 11:28

Well, it could be that old chestnut or it could be exactly what he said, you've not been together even 6 months and he probably doesn't want his kids to find out via FB. Sounds responsible to me unless he's given you other reasons to worry.

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AKissIsNotAContract · 25/11/2012 11:29

Why would you want to make such a public announcement of being with him if he wants to keep you secret? I had this with an ex - he threw a big wobbly about a pic of us together on FB, turns out he was cheating on me and didn't want the OW to see it.

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TheNebulousBoojum · 25/11/2012 11:29

Teenagers can be unreasonable without cause when dealing with a parent's relationships. he might just be avoiding a fight with them. Or you could still be a big secret to everyone in his personal life.

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scuzy · 25/11/2012 11:31

when you say professional did you hire someone to take pics of you in a nightclub? Confused

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InterstateSally · 25/11/2012 11:31

But he reckons he told them about me months ago and they were fine about it!

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InterstateSally · 25/11/2012 11:32

Scuzy no it was the nightclubs own photographer that goes around taking pics of couples/groups.

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TheNebulousBoojum · 25/11/2012 11:32

Any proof he's done that?

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InterstateSally · 25/11/2012 11:32

Nope!

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corlan · 25/11/2012 11:34

Have you met any of his friends or family?

If he's still keeping you a secret after 6 months, you need to stop and take a look at that big red flag waving in front of you (sorry).

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frootshoots · 25/11/2012 11:35

I'd bet my left tit that his family know nothing of you. And half of my right tit that he's not divorced.

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TheNebulousBoojum · 25/11/2012 11:35

Or accept it as a fun relationship with no deeper expectations.

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onetiredmummy · 25/11/2012 11:36

If you don't tag him its fine. If he wants he can pretend you are a friend or someone he met that night Confused

No he hasn't told his kids. He's lying to you.

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TheNebulousBoojum · 25/11/2012 11:36

How much do you know about him, outside of your relationship?

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InterstateSally · 25/11/2012 11:38

I know Corlan, I just wanted confirmation really that I'm not being a bunny boiler.

I knew it was unnatural to still not have met anyone after 6 months yet when I say this to him he acts like I'm "rushing things".

This upcoming holiday - I can't post anything on Facebook about it (or any pics when we return) as he doesn't want his kids to know about it. I said "well, surely they'll find out eventually?" (I'm meaning when I eventually meet them) and he said "err not necessarily" - so is he not intending to let me meet them at all???

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onetiredmummy · 25/11/2012 11:40

My instinct is that he's not divorced/does not intend to get divorced.

Do you only see him at certain times that cannot be rearranged? Have you been to his house?

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ChippingInLovesAutumn · 25/11/2012 11:40

Why do you want to be in a relationship with this bloke? He has his own children and is still acting like a 14 year old with spots.

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ChippingInLovesAutumn · 25/11/2012 11:42

It is not 'his kids' he's worrying about.

How often do you seem him? How often do you stay over at each others?

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TheNebulousBoojum · 25/11/2012 11:45

'I said "well, surely they'll find out eventually?" (I'm meaning when I eventually meet them) and he said "err not necessarily" - so is he not intending to let me meet them at all???'

It sounds like a short-term relationship.

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mamababa · 25/11/2012 11:46

Haven't you started another thread saying you think you want to split up? Why do you want to post a photo of you if you think he's dull and it's over? Confused

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TheNebulousBoojum · 25/11/2012 11:46

Are you going to any Christmas dos with his workmates?

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