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to have called this guy a fucking...

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goralka Fri 23-Nov-12 01:13:43

nonce?
My daughter who just turned 14 left her fb open as she does, and there was this conversation with a 23 year old, all kissy kissy and hearts and hugs. In fairness to him at one point in the conversation he had said there was too much of an 'age gap' but the conversation had continued the next day in the same vein.
OK so on a bit of an adrenaline rush I closed her FB and opened mine (that I use for business) found him, and sent a message telling him to 'defriend her or I would report him' all very adult - then my angry fingers and adrenalin took over and I sent another message calling him a 'fuckin nonce' and that his tracksuit reminded me of Savile......was that unreasonable?

Valdeeves Sat 24-Nov-12 00:16:19

I don't mean listen in to an Internet website, I just mean listen in if there is conversation going on in the classroom that relates to it.
Sounds like she is sensible though if she's blocked him herself.

Wheresmypopcorn Sat 24-Nov-12 03:57:58

No, I don't think Yabu but don't use harsh wording on email - it could always be used against you.

ihavenonameonhere Sat 24-Nov-12 04:04:42

I was wanting relationships with guys in their 20s at that age and it took me til I was older to see how disgusting it was!! But at the time its because you think you are sooooo grown up!

FellatioNelson Sat 24-Nov-12 04:08:52

I am finding it hard to process the fact that someone who uses the word verisimilitude is also the same person who would say 'fuck off you nonce your tracksuit looks like Jimmy Savile's.' confused

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 15:34:47

grin 'I am large I contain multitudes'

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 15:35:35

I was more careful after that wheresmypopcorn....

waltermittymistletoe Sat 24-Nov-12 16:25:06

So have you contacted the police?

Euphemia France Sat 24-Nov-12 16:33:46

What progress, OP?

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 17:10:05

well I had a conversation with him where apparently he was in tears, and have since discovered that he has Asperger's Syndome so according to my (mn) research he could well be operating emotionally at about two thirds of his chronological age. He has apologised profusely and has deleted all the girls from his fb. In addition I sent him a link to CEOP and will be talking to one of the girls mothers this weekend. I might leave it at that in view of his condition.

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 17:16:58

also of course I have had words with my daughter....

myfirstkitchen Sat 24-Nov-12 17:27:17

report him.

the next poor girl might not be so lucky to have someone notice him messaging her. scumbag. YANBU I think you were quite restrained. x

waltermittymistletoe Sat 24-Nov-12 17:27:42

Having Aspergers doesn't make you a peodophile OP.

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 17:29:17

i know that waltermitty that wasn't what I meant at all.

MammaTJ Sat 24-Nov-12 17:34:29

As you are not inclined to report him, can you at least have a conversation with his parents?

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 17:37:03

I might just do that MammaTJ - tomorrow I plan to visit one girl's mother that I already know and get some information about exactly who they are and where they live....I feel that I need to do more without actually involving the police

waltermittymistletoe Sat 24-Nov-12 17:41:58

Why the hesitation in involving police? Genuinely curious.

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 17:43:32

SS involvement

He is actively grooming multiple children online - if he rapes one of these girls the fact that he has asperger's doesn't make it okay. You need to report him.

How would you feel if your child had been talked into sex with him and all along another girl's mother had known it was happening, but didn't want to rock the boat?

Wankarella Sat 24-Nov-12 17:47:54

I would be angry I'm unsure I would think of Jimmy Saville, my 12 year old had a lady around 23ish on his MSN, she was vile and I'm certain she had a wonder-bra on...

I told her I was his mother, she said 'I don't care I would shag you too' strange female, she was named a few choice words that day then deleted. Cannot remember what I said to her I am certain diseased and slapper would have been in there....

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 17:52:36

You are right notyounaanbread....
fuck me wankerella.....you couldn't make it up.

waltermittymistletoe Sat 24-Nov-12 17:56:13

You don't want SS involved with your daughter, is it? I'm sure there wouldn't be more than an interview.

This man is potentially very, very dangerous. I don't think you should be making the decision to keep the police out of it.

How would you feel if you saw him down the line on the news having been arrested for raping one of these children?

Wankarella Sat 24-Nov-12 17:59:25

I know Golal... it's fucking sick!!! angry

I did question him about it, but he likes to use the sentance:

I don't know...

hmm

He has no MSN anymore and I check his Blackberry weekly, sometimes daily

goralka Sat 24-Nov-12 17:59:36

OK waltermitty I hear you.

SpoonyFuckersWife Sat 24-Nov-12 18:05:59

I would still contact police. He could be lying, plus he's still a danger and police will hopefully get SS involved anyway.

Wankarella Sat 24-Nov-12 18:26:58

Actually this thread is worrying me now, I have an 8 year old and 2 - 12 year olds on my FB that i never use as i detest it but they are my sons friends and asked to be my friend... confused

I'm off to de-friend them just in-case. [blush

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